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[samosasingh]

Dear Brothers, Pls help me out

I find myself in the situation that I may be laid-off at work. Now I have lots of responsibities financially and will loose everything if I get laid-off and the prospects of new work are really not that good.

I had also been laid off many years ago and it lead to about 5 years of really bad times, and we have just now re-built ourselves only to have the same situation back.

I find myself in this situation doubting God as the helper and the "completer" of our tasks (Karaj). So many questions arise in my mind as to why this keeps happening in life. Going through the situation doesn't make me more strong I feel more and more weak when I think about it. There is a constant fear always in the back of my mind a sort of trauma.

I don't find that deep down inside me that I trust God/Guru to help me and that he will actually do anything for me. I used to be firm believer in the setting the number of paats for a certain task (Shabad Sidhi), by the way this would be on top of my regular nitnem, but now I find myself doubting everything that maybe it's all chance and will God realy listen.

I find myself questioning whether everything is just chance - you do ardaaas for something and it is just chance that it may or may not be fullfiled. Some prayers are answered and some not.

I don't know maybe I am just selfish but I hate going through this crap all the time. I really just don't know what to do and really fear going through difficult times again.Like it was really bad at a point.

I feel as if I have lost faith. Bani doesn't seem to give me peace anymore, the gurdwara just seems to be a place of rituals.

I now Bani says accept what will come and keep saddness and happiness as the same, etc, etc but it just doesn't matter to me anymore and I am really frustrated. When things come to your livelihood it really effects your thinking.

Then I think back to so many situations in our history. Not everybody would have kept there faith during hard times ex 1947, 84 massacres, and so many other hard times. We mostly higlight those who kept the faith but I think sometimes that they were only a handfull and the majority didn't.

I don't know guys just trying to make sense of all this.......which makes me think we don't have any counsellors.......the granthi's usually don't care..........Bani I am not sure for the most part what it means to tell me in this situation......where does a person turn to to get help???So I am asking you guys.........Need help brothers........

[DSG]

Hang in there bro ,

Waheguru will definitely help you , have faith , listen to this beautiful shabad ...., We all have our ups and downs , we have to be strong , remember waheguru , talk to waheguru in whatever way form you want , Waheguru will definitely help you , if listening to Gurbani can cure cancer , i'm ceratin waheguru will help your cause .

Everytime you start feeling down or have doubts listen to Kirtan , listen to the shabad attached below .





Tu mera rakha sabni thai
Ta bho keha kara jiyo
You are my Protector at every place
then why should I have any fear?
Tumari kirpa te tudh pachana
Tu meri ot tu hai mera mana
By Your Grace, I have realized You.
You are my support, You are my honour

[chatanga1]

lets see, you must be the only one in the wolrd at this time having hardships, yeah?

the starving children around the world, the poor people who get caught in the crossfire of the bigger powers, people who get their heads cut off, people executed by states for voting the worng person, they must be really glad they're not in your shoes bro, cos then life would really be unbearable wouldnt it?

I'm gonna take a leaf out of DalSinghs book here, and be forthright and say dont be such a wimp/pussy/fag. The world is full of people like you, and beleive me, the problems i have at this time make me want to go crazy, but i accept them as a test, and God-willing i will eventually overcome.And then when i look at peopel who really have problems, i thanjk God that my problems arent as big as their's.

lsiten to this:


http://www.gurmatveechar.com/audio and go to no 17, Sahansar Daan de inder ro aaya.

then you will understand. And forgive me if you feel i havent been sympathetic.

[Parchand]

Singh no doubt being out of work is hard. It demotivates and bums people. But thats the time you gota take charge and take responsibility of your life and your destiny. If someone wont offer you work, find it. There are many less professional jobs that can be done until you find your feet again Career-wise. Gain new skills that are more in demand. Muster up the courage and set up your own business. Something with less set-up costs. Make this a long-term project.

Bro without divulging my personal life on here, believe me I've been kicked down a lot harder and lower than most people I come across. We all have doubts until we accept it is our own shortcomings in not being stronger, bolder, smarter and walking the walk by carrying ideas through to completion.

GurKirpaa i've turned this around. 3/5 major life steps taken and Guru Maharaj is supporting me through each one.