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Q) Dearest Guru Jee, why is it that if throughout Gurbani supreme importance of devotion of Nam bhakti is told us to be practiced, yet people try so many ways mainly due accordingly to their understanding and perception of what bhakti is all about ? A) Dear sikh, please do understand that absolutely nobody can do this pure and highest bhakti of Nam by themselves, as seen in the following verse of Sree Guru Arjun Dev Maharaj: ਜਿਸੁ ਭਾਵੈ ਤਿਸੁ ਆਪਨ ਨਾਇ ਲਾਵੈ ॥ Jis Bhaavai This Aapan Naae Laavai || He attaches whomever He pleases to His Name. *It is absolutely in His hands, that to whom He wants to pull back to Himself, He attaches that jeev atma into the bhakti of His holy Name. Others will just swim above it, or find it boring and ignore it.

SSA Pen Jee, your post above by itself is a sign of progress, be thankful to Him for it, I am sure many of us would like to be in your shoes. Having said that, if you want to go further, firstly do not rush, for it is no race with none. Secondly, appreciate what you have achieved, and remain as a humble beggar at His door, for if you do His bhakti sincerely, be sure that He will not behold Himself, rather bless you more abundantly. He is the source of all goodness, happiness, contentment, wisdom, peace ... so just be faithful at His door, for it is here where you will obtain all that you wish for, even to the extent of He Himself Waheguru Akal Purukh. Stay blessed.

Brother, just see the image below, about the supreme importance of a Guru, of the level of Guru Sahiban, or the Bhagat Jan mentioned in the Gurbani, who while being at our human level in the gross creation, are very much one with that One, namely Waheguru Akal Purukh. Their physical body is just a covering, a means, to awaken us to that awareness of their true essence or nature, which is of them being Shabad Guru. Neither the physical body is the disciple or sikh, nor the physical body of Guru Sahiban is their real form, for both will one day have to leave their outer coverings. True spiritual form never changes, nor diminishes nor grows, neitehr passes away, the bodies are just a consequence made out of the 5 perishable tattwas, so you see the bodies as we tend to believe generally, are not the true nature or essence for they perish away in due time. It is the soul which is the true disciple, and it is the Shabad Guru who is the True Guru within, where He protects and guides the soul with His finer qualities such as Jot, Dhun, kirpa and pyaar, finally to the realm of highest and eternal Truth/Satnam, in Sach Khand. Gurbani is nothing, but a sweet song of the beant wadeeayee of Guru Jee and Waheguru Akal Purukh. Stay blessed. SSA.

a) You are most welcome. b) Everything is possible by His grace alone, without grace absolutely nothing happens, that is also His Hukum, for we are already weak and low with the addition of the heavy load of the karmas being collected and created, since we stepped into the mayavee creation, though we are not aware of this very heavy load, just because we do not see nor perceive the subtle planes, we are more oriented outwards than in going within and see the reality and facts of the subtle and spiritual realms. c) About the question which arises in your mind when reading Gurbani, it clearly refers to His manifestaions at our human level, like Guru Sahiban, Bhagat Jan, Sant Jan, who come only to awaken us to the awareness of that primal and eternal changless Truth of Sat-Nam, which we also call it Shabad, Anhad Bani, Sachee Bani, Waheguru, or commonly God, or the Word in chiristianism, and though there are countless such names, but all these refer to that Highest level of consciousness, or that Creative Power, which has created all that exists, whether seen or unseen by us, creations upon creations .... which are as just infinite, such is His greatness....beyond any words, beyond any imagination, which even the gods and devtays(spiritual entities) know anything about Him. And they awaken us to that awareness, for the only purpose of our reunificatio with Him, but alas such a pity,almost nobody pays attention to what they tell us to do through the Bani. This very same universal message is now being carried forward by Sree Guru Granth Sahib Jee for the present and future genertions of mankind, irrespective of creed, caste and genders . Yet in spite of that we prefer to do many other things taking them to be equivalent or substitutes, but nevertheless it is so. It is like let us say, for example we have a recipe book ... it does not matter how many hours and times one keeps reading the recipe... the hunger will not go away, unless one gets those ingredients and cook them as instructed. I was just thinking how to answer you, but thankfully got in mind the following Shabad from Guru Jee, where He clearly at least from my point of view, answers, not only the question you asked above, but much much more, where doubts just get melted away, for it is not any man made wisdom, but direct instruction from He Himself in the human form of Guru Sahiban. Please go through it slowly an carefully, for it contains the amazing revelations of pure spirituality, try to sip and savour each and every shabad in the following verses, which are full of Amrit: ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥ Sireeraag Mehalaa 5 || Siree Raag, Fifth Mehl: ਸਿਰੀਰਾਗੁ (ਮਃ ੫) ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ ਅੰਗ ੪੪ ਸਭੇ ਥੋਕ ਪਰਾਪਤੇ ਜੇ ਆਵੈ ਇਕੁ ਹਥਿ ॥ Sabhae Thhok Paraapathae Jae Aavai Eik Hathh || All things are received if the One is obtained. ਜਨਮੁ ਪਦਾਰਥੁ ਸਫਲੁ ਹੈ ਜੇ ਸਚਾ ਸਬਦੁ ਕਥਿ ॥ Janam Padhaarathh Safal Hai Jae Sachaa Sabadh Kathh || The precious gift of this human life becomes fruitful when one chants the True Word of the Shabad. ਗੁਰ ਤੇ ਮਹਲੁ ਪਰਾਪਤੇ ਜਿਸੁ ਲਿਖਿਆ ਹੋਵੈ ਮਥਿ ॥੧॥ Gur Thae Mehal Paraapathae Jis Likhiaa Hovai Mathh ||1|| One who has such destiny written on his forehead enters the Mansion of the Lord's Presence, through the Guru. ||1|| ਮੇਰੇ ਮਨ ਏਕਸ ਸਿਉ ਚਿਤੁ ਲਾਇ ॥ Maerae Man Eaekas Sio Chith Laae || O my mind, focus your consciousness on the One. ਏਕਸ ਬਿਨੁ ਸਭ ਧੰਧੁ ਹੈ ਸਭ ਮਿਥਿਆ ਮੋਹੁ ਮਾਇ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Eaekas Bin Sabh Dhhandhh Hai Sabh Mithhiaa Mohu Maae ||1|| Rehaao || Without the One, all entanglements are worthless; emotional attachment to Maya is totally false. ||1||Pause|| ਲਖ ਖੁਸੀਆ ਪਾਤਿਸਾਹੀਆ ਜੇ ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਨਦਰਿ ਕਰੇਇ ॥ Lakh Khuseeaa Paathisaaheeaa Jae Sathigur Nadhar Karaee || Hundreds of thousands of princely pleasures are enjoyed, if the True Guru bestows His Glance of Grace. ਨਿਮਖ ਏਕ ਹਰਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਦੇਇ ਮੇਰਾ ਮਨੁ ਤਨੁ ਸੀਤਲੁ ਹੋਇ ॥ Nimakh Eaek Har Naam Dhaee Maeraa Man Than Seethal Hoe || If He bestows the Name of the Lord, for even a moment, my mind and body are cooled and soothed. ਜਿਸ ਕਉ ਪੂਰਬਿ ਲਿਖਿਆ ਤਿਨਿ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਚਰਨ ਗਹੇ ॥੨॥ Jis Ko Poorab Likhiaa Thin Sathigur Charan Gehae ||2|| Those who have such pre-ordained destiny hold tight to the Feet of the True Guru. ||2|| ਸਫਲ ਮੂਰਤੁ ਸਫਲਾ ਘੜੀ ਜਿਤੁ ਸਚੇ ਨਾਲਿ ਪਿਆਰੁ ॥ Safal Moorath Safalaa Gharree Jith Sachae Naal Piaar || Fruitful is that moment, and fruitful is that time, when one is in love with the True Lord. ਦੂਖੁ ਸੰਤਾਪੁ ਨ ਲਗਈ ਜਿਸੁ ਹਰਿ ਕਾ ਨਾਮੁ ਅਧਾਰੁ ॥ Dhookh Santhaap N Lagee Jis Har Kaa Naam Adhhaar || Suffering and sorrow do not touch those who have the Support of the Name of the Lord. ਬਾਹ ਪਕੜਿ ਗੁਰਿ ਕਾਢਿਆ ਸੋਈ ਉਤਰਿਆ ਪਾਰਿ ॥੩॥ Baah Pakarr Gur Kaadtiaa Soee Outhariaa Paar ||3|| Grasping him by the arm, the Guru lifts them up and out, and carries them across to the other side. ||3|| ਢੋਈ ਤਿਸ ਹੀ ਨੋ ਮਿਲੈ ਜਿਨਿ ਪੂਰਾ ਗੁਰੂ ਲਭਾ ॥ Dtoee This Hee No Milai Jin Pooraa Guroo Labhaa || He alone finds shelter, who has met the Perfect Guru. ਥਾਨੁ ਸੁਹਾਵਾ ਪਵਿਤੁ ਹੈ ਜਿਥੈ ਸੰਤ ਸਭਾ ॥ Thhaan Suhaavaa Pavith Hai Jithhai Santh Sabhaa || Embellished and immaculate is that place where the Saints gather together. ਨਾਨਕ ਬਧਾ ਘਰੁ ਤਹਾਂ ਜਿਥੈ ਮਿਰਤੁ ਨ ਜਨਮੁ ਜਰਾ ॥੪॥੬॥੭੬॥ Naanak Badhhaa Ghar Thehaan Jithhai Mirath N Janam Jaraa ||4||6||76|| Nanak builds his house upon that site where there is no death, no birth, and no old age. ||4||6||76|| *Just a humble request: please go through ths particular shabad as many times as needed, try to see the depth in these verses fom different angles, until you get nearest to what Guru Jee is trying to convey us in them. Try to digest the pure wisdom and Truth in them, then, if still you have any questions, you are most welcome, myself or any membr of this respectable forum will surely try and answer you. Stay blessed. SSA.

Being Born Female Is Karmic Punishment? No, it is not and it can never be a punishment. As long as spirituality is concerned in the eyes of Guru Jee, it is purity and love for Waheguru alone which counts. Let us see what does Guru Jee tells us in this respect: ਨਾਨਕ ਸਚੁ ਧਿਆਇਨਿ ਸਚੁ ॥ Naanak Sach Dhhiaaein Sach || O Nanak, true are those who meditate on the True One. ਜੋ ਮਰਿ ਜੰਮੇ ਸੁ ਕਚੁ ਨਿਕਚੁ ॥੧॥ Jo Mar Janmae S Kach Nikach ||1|| Those who are subject to birth and death are totally false. Guru Jee does not make distinctions on the containers/shapes, sizes nor colors, for it is the contents( soul purity) that counts in His eyes. SSA.

Welcome PhunkeyPhish. a) I would say, many paths have a similar start, but is only the farthest reach which counts. For example one goes to a shopping mall, and just imagine, on the first floor only silver is found, on the second floor only gold is found, and on the third floor there are only diamonds, but to reach each floor one has to take an escalator or go by stairs, which is common to start with for going any of the three floors. It all depends what one is looking for, and if one is to pay the price of it In a similar way, many paths may seem fine and similar, but is by great good fortune(kirpa), one reaches the highest goal. b) As for what I have seen in the teachings of Bhagat Jan, Guru Sahiban and Gurmukhs, the main and essential difference between sikhee and other paths, is that in Sikhee, all and everything revolves around the Guru, without whom, nothing can be acheived. Then also, there is no need of variety of different spiritual entities which do exist, and for us as sikhs they are very much respected, but not at all sought, for our goal and destiny is only: Ik Oankar Satnam. That is it. For example, in Gurbani it says: Bin Satgur kinnay na paayo, bin Satgur kinnay paaya. This means, without Satguru nobody ever obtained anything(Waheguru Akal Purukh), and without the Satguru nobody ever obtained Him(Waheguru Akal Purukh). Sikhee means, a path of discipleship, so naturally if there is disciple, there has to be a Guru, otherwise it is not sikhee, it can be anything but not sikhee as per teachings in the Gurbani. In other paths howsoever respectable, everything depends on one´s efforts or actions, in Sikhee, one has to surrender oneself to the Guru and depend alone on His grace, for the inner ptah is so narrow and dark, that in reference to that Guru, the second Patshahee Sree Guru Angad Dev Maharaj says: ਜੇ ਸਉ ਚੰਦਾ ਉਗਵਹਿ ਸੂਰਜ ਚੜਹਿ ਹਜਾਰ ॥ Jae So Chandhaa Ougavehi Sooraj Charrehi Hajaar || If a hundred moons were to rise, and a thousand suns appeared, ਏਤੇ ਚਾਨਣ ਹੋਦਿਆਂ ਗੁਰ ਬਿਨੁ ਘੋਰ ਅੰਧਾਰ ॥੨॥ Eaethae Chaanan Hodhiaaan Gur Bin Ghor Andhhaar ||2|| Even with such light, there would still be pitch darkness without the Guru. ||2|| He says, that if 100 moons were to arise and shine in he skies, and in addition there were 1000 suns also, yet inspite of that refulgence and brightness, there would be still utter darkness. *Moreover Guru Nanak also emphasizes on the supreme importance and the need of such a Guru, as seen in the following 2 verses. ਨਾਨਕ ਗੁਰੂ ਨ ਚੇਤਨੀ ਮਨਿ ਆਪਣੈ ਸੁਚੇਤ ॥ Naanak Guroo N Chaethanee Man Aapanai Suchaeth || O Nanak, those who do not think of the Guru, and who think of themselves as clever, ਛੁਟੇ ਤਿਲ ਬੂਆੜ ਜਿਉ ਸੁੰਞੇ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਖੇਤ ॥ Shhuttae Thil Booaarr Jio Sunnjae Andhar Khaeth || Shall be left abandoned in the field, like the scattered sesame So you see, it is only by being in the company of Satguru, or call it Shabad Guru, can one reach that abode of eternity and changless Truth of Satnam. At other place the Bani tells us: Nanak, Naam jahaaz hae, jinee cahreeya se utareeya paar. With this it is telling us, o Nanak, the Nam is the vessel or aircraft, in which whosoever boards on is carried across. This Naam refered in the Bani is the Shabad Guru also, for by holding on to the pallav of this Guru, one is ferried across, it does not matter how many thousand other practices one may incurr into, but if one has not got hold of Naam, one is left behind in the painful cycle of births and deaths. If one goes through the Gurbani with attention, it shows nothing but instructions to love and follow diligently and faithfully the teachings of Guru Sahiban. Just to summarize in a way Sikhee, it could well be: Jin Har japeeya se Har hoeeya. He/She whosoever repeated His holy Name and manifested it within, becomes one with Him without any distinction. I would suggest you to go to the depths of the utterly sweet and beautiful, uncomparable and unfathoamble Gurbani, and by His grace reach the highest goal. Stay blessed. Sat Sree Akal.

By Katie Buettner Divorced a Malignant Narcissist Why can't a lot of people identify a narcissist? This is an unbelievably easy answer. It’s a very sick and sad answer, but easy. People don’t automatically identify the insidious nature that makes someone a Narcissist, because until you’ve had the extreme misfortune of dealing with one, no one can seriously believe that anyone is capable of their evil and irrational behavior. Human beings are taught to reason with others- to compromise. When an agreement cannot be reached, normal people simply agree to disagree, with the knowledge that everyone does not share the same viewpoint on everything. Dealing with a Narcissist, defies all reason. They have created their own delusional world in which they live, and the rest of us are terrible and stupid for not staking a tent in their reality. It is difficult for someone who’s world (luckily) has not been devastated by these sickos, to believe anyone could be so self-righteous, devious, conniving, and just downright mean. They make you look, and feel like the crazy one. For example, you can’t tell a Narcissist, stop doing that, he doesn’t care. He will never see it as being harmful. No conscience. Zero remorse. Complete lack of ability to comprehend the effects of his words and actions. Narcs always screw up because they don’t think it’s possible for them to be found guilty. Just remember that. You just have to bide your time, as aggravating as it will be.

How can we learn to concentrate better? Though this is quite an old thread, yet it deals with something which is very much affecting to most of us. There are several threads, posts on this forum dealing with this question, yet I would like to add my 2 cents: First of all no rush, for good concentration is a stage, an advanced avastha. Just as a good runner, had to first learn to stand on his/her own feet, then stumbled while learning to walk, fell down and got up umpteen times, then with practice and patience, became a good runner. Similarly, in meditation, concentration, some points are needed to be kept in mind, for those who pretend to walk on the narrow path of spirituality. Purity in thoughts is required, then no toxicants such as tobacco, drugs or alcohol; satwic food is required. To concentrate better, we have to keep an eye on our mind, our thoughts. This can only be done, by slowly become mindless. So naturally, the question arises, how can we become mindless? To that, the answer is His simran, His kirpa, His bakshish. His holy Name, is the only antidote to subdue and literally knock out the mind, once the mind is defeated, it is only highway with no traffic (mind, thoughts) at all to His darbar, then our speed is like a bullet shot from a gun. While repeating His holy Name, we should be absorbed so much in it, that only that exists for us, for it is only that what we see and hear within. But to start with, we have to struggle and trust Him at all times without loosing courage nor faith, for the mind has been misguiding us since we step into the mayavee creation, and is not willing to loose control over our surtees. The mind only derives power from the soul consciousness by dragging it into maya; once with the aid of Gurbani, one becomes aware of the Truth of His Name, then all our actions will go into that direction where we can for sure go and meet our beloved Sachay Patshaah Waheguru Akal Purukh, but by first becoming mindless with concentration or better said, in succeeding in killing the mind. SSA.

Bro, As you are asking for views, well my idea is that it should be kept somewhere aside, for Guru Jee's charan are only for matha tek. Monetary issues should be kept aside and as discreet as much as possible. Some view it is an offering to Guru Jee, well the petty cash box could very well be Guru Jee's small bank, so to say, where monetary sewa can be deposited. Every thing has a place, everything offered at Guru ghar/Gurdwara, should be placed accordingly where it should be in a natural way. Whatever and wherever we offer to Guru Jee, it is well known to Him, as He is everywhere. It is not that if placed nearby to Him, will be more noticed by Him, than if we deposit it in the petty cash box. It is we who are limited, thus have a limited view of Guru Jee. He is omnipresent and omniscient, it is purity in mind and the correct attitude which He appreciates, it matters not to Him, if they are 2 cents, 2 bucks or 2000... It is our love and sincerity what should be reflected in our sewa, in our daily lives, in our interaction with our fellow beings, for it is in the chambers of the hearts of all, where He truly resides. SSA.