lively123

I am a 36-year-old Sikh woman living in the UK and have been in a relationship with an Indian man for ten years. This is the only relationship I’ve ever had, and we are in love. We are unmarried and have lived together for two years. Only my immediate family are aware that we are in a relationship and living together. He has never met my extended family and they do not know that we are in a relationship. We were thinking about getting married later this year but had not made any plans or announcements. We recently found out that I am 10 weeks pregnant. This was an unplanned pregnancy, and I am unhappy as it is out of wedlock. I am worried that my family will be very disappointed in me and the choices that I have made, and I fear losing their respect and their trust. I also worry about what all my extended family and everyone I know will think about me. I worry about society’s judgement of me as an unmarried pregnant woman. I worry about being judged, criticised, and demonised as having no morals. I know that people will gossip about me, and I will bring shame on my family and ruin my reputation as well as my family’s reputation. As a result of this shame, I feel the best option for me would be to have an abortion at this stage. I feel that this will help protect me and my family's reputation. My plan for later this year is to marry the same man and to have children but I don't feel I am able to continue with this pregnancy as it is out of wedlock. He wants to keep the baby and he will not support me if I were to have the abortion. What should I do?

I am a 36-year-old Sikh woman living in the UK and have been in a relationship with an Indian man for ten years. This is the only relationship I’ve ever had, and we are in love. We are unmarried and have lived together for two years. Only my immediate family are aware that we are in a relationship and living together. He has never met my extended family and they do not know that we are in a relationship. We were thinking about getting married later this year but had not made any plans or announcements. We recently found out that I am 10 weeks pregnant. This was an unplanned pregnancy, and I am unhappy as it is out of wedlock. I am worried that my family will be very disappointed in me and the choices that I have made, and I fear losing their respect and their trust. I also worry about what all my extended family and everyone I know will think about me. I worry about society’s judgement of me as an unmarried pregnant woman. I worry about being judged, criticised, and demonised as having no morals. I know that people will gossip about me, and I will bring shame on my family and ruin my reputation as well as my family’s reputation. As a result of this shame, I feel the best option for me would be to have an abortion at this stage. I feel that this will help protect me and my family's reputation. My plan for later this year is to marry the same man and to have children but I don't feel I am able to continue with this pregnancy as it is out of wedlock. He wants to keep the baby and he will not support me if I were to have the abortion. What should I do?