Sat Nam jjj, and all
N3Osingh mentioned the teachings of Yogi Bhajan, and I would like to respond from that point of view.
There is something we must always remember as Sikhs of the Guru. The question is not, How wrong am I?, but instead, How right can I become?
Sexual energy is creative energy which can be blocked in the first two chakras, (energy centers) of the body. Sexual energy is the energy to create, understood by many humans as procreation and reproduction, but understood by artists as passion for life. We all have this life essence, Kundalini energy based in our spine. When that Kundalini energy is activated and flowing smoothly, we see the world from a relaxed, focused, and energetic point of view. We can participate smoothly in conversation, in relationships, and at work, with intelligent assertiveness and a kind of sensuality that brings color to our positive interactions. When this energy is blocked in the 1st or 2nd Chakra, one can feel the need to release. To release one might either masturbate, or might find a partner to aid in that release. Neither of these two options allows one to blossom and expand. Both of these options will weaken the individual. A young man who releases with these methods stunt their power of creativity and expression.
There are things you can do to circulate this energy within yourself. Sat Kriya, as was mentioned, is a way, particularly for a man, to raise his energy and to utilize it as creative energy. You will need to locate a Kundalini yoga teacher to help you to begin, to practice the posture correctly and to learn the mantra to tune into Guru sahib first. There is a potent yoga set called “Raising the Lower Triangle to the Upper Triangle” that I highly recommend. You will feel great if you practice these Kriyas and yoga sets regularly, up to two to three times a day depending on your urges. If you have time to masturbate, you have time to meditate!
If there does come a time when you choose to pleasure yourself, we have been taught to, just after release, either completely relax for some time, and/or squeeze every part of your body, every muscle…squeeze tight. Then relax. This will help to maintain and contain your energy. Sex, in any form, should never be rushed, and this is no exception. The nervous system takes on quite a load and needs to rest to recuperate so that you don’t blow-out your system.
There is one more thing that you might find helpful. A man has one arc line. It reaches over his head. This is like an energy shield. A woman has two, one over her head, one stretching from nipple to nipple. When you embrace a woman, it is this second arc line which you notice. Since you don’t have it, you feel more complete when you are engaged with one who does. It is something similar during intercourse. Men experience orgasm as release, a planting of seed. When a woman goes through her tidings, her entire energy field expands and encompasses the man. He greatly benefits from this cushion of energy, it is very healing for him. Obviously, this cannot occur with masturbation. You lose your essence, your seed, but do not gain that cushioned comfort provided by a woman. It is a drain on your system rather than an energy boost.
I pray that these explanations are helpful.