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  1. Salutations, There is a real incedent followed by one of my friend here I M sharing that one in her own words. Dont count it as a story. Please have a initiative to apply that (moral) into UR life. This is UR assignment for the week. I hope u'll prefer to do this rather to visit GURUDWARA SAHIB as I did. I expect UR experience after such a divine trial written on the forum. C U with JOY(ce) I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree. The last class I had to take was Sociology. The teacher was absolutely inspiring with the qualities that I wish every human being had been graced with. Her last project of the term was called "Smile." The class was asked to go out and smile at three people and document their reactions. I am a very friendly person and always smile at everyone and say hello anyway, so I thought, this would be a piece of cake, literally. Soon after we were assigned the project, my husband, youngest son, and I went out to McDonald's one crisp March morning. It was just our way of sharing special play time with our son. We were standing in line, waiting to be served, when all of a sudden everyone around us began to back away, and then even my husband did. I did not move an inch...an overwhelming feeling of panic welled up inside of me as I turned to see why they had moved. As I turned around I smelled a horrible "dirty body" smell, and there standing behind me were two poor homeless men. As I looked down at the short gentleman, close to me, he was "smiling". His beautiful sky blue eyes were full of God's Light as he searched for acceptance. He said, "Good day" as he counted the few coins he had been clutching. The second man fumbled with his hands as he stood behind his friend. I realized the second man was mentally deficient and the blue eyed gentleman was his salvation. I held my tears as I stood there with them. The young lady at the counter asked him what they wanted. He said, "Coffee is all Miss" because that was all they could afford. (If they wanted to sit in the restaurant and warm up, they had to buy something. He just wanted to be warm). Then I really felt it - the compulsion was so great I almost reached out and embraced the little man with the blue eyes. That is when I noticed all eyes in the restaurant were set on me, judging my every action. I smiled and asked the young lady behind the counter to give me two more breakfast meals on a separate tray. I then walked around the corner to the table that the men had chosen as a resting spot. I put the tray on the table and laid my hand on the blue eyed gentleman's cold hand. He looked up at me, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Thank you." I leaned over, began to pat his hand and said, "I did not do this for you.God is here working through me to give you hope." I started to cry as I walked away to join my husband and son. When I sat down my husband smiled at me and said, "That is why God gave you to me, Honey. To give me hope." We held hands for a moment and at that time we knew that only because of the Grace that we had been given were we able to give. We are not church goers, but we are believers. That day showed me the pure Light of God's sweet love. I returned to college, on the last evening of class, with this story in hand. I turned in "my project" and the instructor read it. Then she looked up at me and said, "Can I share this?" I slowly nodded as she got the attention of the class. She began to read and that is when I knew that we, as human beings and being part of God, share this need to heal people and be healed. In my own way I had touched the people at McDonald's, my husband, son, instructor, and every soul that shared the classroom on the last night I spent as a college student. I graduated with one of the biggest lessons I would ever learn: ____________________________________________________________ UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE. Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to LOVE PEOPLE AND USE THINGS - NOT LOVE THINGS AND USE PEOPLE. An Angel wrote: Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. To handle yourself, use your head, To handle others, use your heart. God Gives every bird it's food, but He does not throw it into it's nest.
  2. Salutations, Moderator i have some funny T shirt design which i want to post on the sports form. But before that i want all those must be reviewed by a responsible person like u. So let me know where i will post them for a pursual before posting those on the forum. Waiting in JOY(ce)
  3. Hey dont mind i m a funny guy, but it applouds from UR views that UR a real desi. How did u belive that there is no histoty of any (word) or something else. There is nothing in this galaxy which evolve & hasn't its own hostory. If U & me dont know bout that it does not mean it hasn't any background. Did U think one day early morning all the earth's creatures or said human beings awake from their sleeps & said to each other HELLO . How funny it is, isnt it think & respond. No my dear fellow lady it does not happen like this. Open UR imagination & be flexible. Regarding bout RSVP read my views again & u'll got what i written over there. RSVP means response expected it dosn't mean vie mail/phone or by person. It has a broader meaning now after Oxford's new dictionary. G o in the book store & ask for a newer version of the book. Be updated. & talking bout as u said 'been rules of courtesy' , there is nothing like rules in courtesy there R norms respected fellow. I M not a fan of any language or culture coz every one has its own sphare & features exclusive in its own, like UR for French. And lastly talking bout the mailing system of INDIA. This is only INDIA who is tackling the population of 106 Crores & running its infrastucture for them. & For UR kind INFO this is the INDIA where more then 57 MILLION people r connected to eSATTELITE services including Cell & email facilities. Go for some better statics if u does have for any other country. I M waiting a few more facts which relize u the true success of UR devolped couries U called what ever they R . I ask U to think bout they development without such following invetion which give India to the whole planet: India invented the Number system. Aryabhatta invented ‘zero.’ According to the Forbes magazine, Sanskrit is the most suitable language for computer software. Although western media portray modern images of India as poverty striken and underdeveloped through political corruption, India was once the richest empire on earth. The art of navigation was born in the river Sindh 5000 years ago. The very word “Navigation” is derived from the Sanskrit word NAVGATIH & U said HELLO hasnt its own history.. The value of pi was first calculated by Budhayana, and he explained the concept of what is now known as the Pythagorean Theorem. British scholars have last year (1999) officially published that Budhayan’s works dates to the 6th Century, which is long before the European mathematicians. Algebra, trigonometry and calculus came from India. Quadratic equations were by Sridharacharya in the 11th Century; the largest numbers the Greeks and the Romans used were 106 whereas Indians used numbers as big as 1053. USA based IEEE has proved what has been a century-old suspicion amongst academics that the pioneer of wireless communication was Professor Jagdeesh Bose and not Marconi. Sushruta is the father of surgery. 2600 years ago he and health scientists of his time conducted surgeries like cesareans, cataract, fractures and urinary stones. Usage of anaesthesia was well known in ancient India. Who is the creator of Pentium chip (needs no introduction as 90% of the today’s computers run on it)? Vinod Dahm Who is the founder and creator of Hotmail (Hotmail is world’s No.1 web based email program)? Sabeer Bhatia K BABA LIST IF UNLIMITED I CANT PUBLISH OVER HERE . ask me personally if u want to view the whole list, coz this discussion is not for such controversies. So be flexible & appriciate others if u dont have any ideas. I hope u'll in future. with JOY(ce)
  4. Hey Miss Desi Check it out it is always required to have constent conversation to achive some meaning full result. It is not the end of conversation if u wish someone. for example in armies there r 2 code Over & out & i think u well aware bout difference of both so like to hear from u means now its UR turn to talk after me. 2nd Love to C U soon is for both no matter for a friend or a rival/enemy. 3rd if U cant miss U somebody U cant say Hello to that particuler guy or gal. I dont think U say HELLO to all 'RAH JANDE NU KHA-M-KHA style' or U do so. I dont. I fully appriciate with UR urge with that Hello is a wayout to wish. And talking upto the TIE , we all learned a lot of thinks from school self-discipline & knot of TIE is just 2 from them. We learnt it from school coz seniors know that we need it in future & that is why we have it in our (professional) life & not in personal life(where required). One more think I dont want to be the part of controversy. I have my views with all U. If u have some better history or meaning of the word i 'll obiviosly expect to hear from U. Please dont mind if something pinchs U. so, search it with JOY(ce)
  5. No Dear Ladla & Miss Desi it is 'Respondez S'il Vous Plait' which means we (all the list after RSVP word) expects UR reply or UR holy & precious presence on the occasion. This term has its origin from French language. so RSVP with JOY(ce)
  6. I M the first to have against all such agents. I M giving a story to have my fair views towards the question..... _____________________________________ On the last day before Christmas, i hurried to go to the supermarket to buy the remaining of the gift I didn't manage to buy earlier. When I saw all the people there, I started to complain to myself:'It is going to take forever here and I still have so many other place to go...' 'Christmas really is getting more and more annoying every year. How I wish I could just lie down, go to sleep and only wake up after it...' Nonetheless, I made my way to the toy section, and there I started to curse the prices, wondering if after all kids really play with such expensive toys. While looking in the toy section, I noticed a small boy of about 5 years old,pressing a doll against his chest. He kept on touching the hair of the doll and looked so sad. I wondered who was this doll for. Then the little boy turned to the old woman next to him: 'Granny, are you sure I don't have enough money?' The old lady replied: 'You know it that you don't have enough money to buy this doll, my dear.' Then she asked him to stay here for 5 minutes while she went to look around. She left quickly. The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand. Finally, I started to walk toward him and I asked him who did he want to give this doll to.'It is the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much for this Christmas. She was so sure that Santa Clauss would bring it to her. 'I replied to him that maybe Santa Clauss will bring it to her, after all, and not to worry. But he replied to me sadly. No, Santa Clauss can not bring it to her where she is now. I have to give the doll to my mother so that she can give it to her when she goes there.' His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My sister has gone to be with God. Daddy say that Mummy will also go to see God very soon, so I thought that she could bring the doll with her to give it to my sister' My heart nearly stopped. The little boy looked up at me and said:'I told daddy to tell mummy not to go yet. I asked him to wait until I come back from the supermarket'Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing.He then told me:I also want mummy to take this photo with her so that she will not forget me.' 'I love my mummy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister' Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly. quickly reached for my wallet and took a few notes and said to the boy.'What if we checked again, just in case if u have enough money?''Ok' he said. 'I hope that I have enough.'I added some of my money to his without him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll, and even some spare money. The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money' Then he looked at me and added:'I asked yesterday before I slept for God to make sure I have enough money to buy this doll so that mummy can give it to my sister. He heard me'I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mummy, but I didn't dare to ask God too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and the white rose.'You know, my mummy loves white rose' A few minutes later, the old lady came again and I left with my trolley.I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind. Then I remembered a local newspaper article 2 days ago,which mentioned of a drunk man in a truck who hit a car where there was one young lady and a little girl.The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-assisting machine, because the young lady would not be able to get out of the coma. was this the family of the little boy? Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the newspaper that the young lady had passed away. I couldn't stop myself and went to buy a bunch of white roses and went to the mortuary where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wish before burial.She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest. I left the place crying, feeling that my life had been changed forever.The love that this little boy had for his mother and his sister is still, to that day, hard to imagine. And in a fraction of a second, a drunk man had taken all this away from him. Say NO TO ALCOHOL, SAY JOY(ce) TO LIFE !
  7. Salutations fellow, I want a fair discussion on the said topic that why we(Sikh) are not allowed to have alcohal and other type of agents(drugs etc.) which cause/check our senses to work properly. I encounter a few people in my near sociaty who recommend such agents as energy boosters & never have any hesitation to have them. As per them in Sikhi only to killing of other creatures (JEEV HATYA) is a sin, but to have alchohal or other such natural agents is not a sin at all. Even if i often hear about some Amritdhari Sikhs to have such drinks and some Nihangans to have those agents(Bhang/ Sukha etc.) Please give UR viewpoints with some good examples & logics. Thanx JOY(ce) If Sikhi don't allow to have them then why they do so.
  8. Hello Miss desi, Might be u 're right to extent but u must have to provide logical aspects to prove UR viewpoint. I hope u'll do it for heaven sake. Anyway i M not here to critisize U, but demands UR contribution to full. I hope might be in UR language 'those aren't the meanings or origin, full form , and etc. of these words.. ', but have a sniff to compare it with words true sense. But i M sure that my dear respected fellow TIE is nothing but part of a formal dress code, part of Personality development programme & in westren culture it is a part of professional life. I hope u know that is in eastren regions only a 0.086 % of working professional who use TIE as their daily dress code. So now compare My Gudia's(Nice) definition or URz acronyms with my full form. I hope u dont mind if something not liked by U. & Will definetly contribute to the discussion. Thanx & Hope with ... JOY(ce)
  9. Tess was a precocious eight year old when she heard her Mom and Dad talking about her little brother, Andrew. All she knew was that he was very sick and they were completely out of money. They were moving to an apartment complex next month because Daddy didn't have the money for the doctor bills and our house. Only a very costly surgery could save him now and it was looking like there was no-one to loan them the money. She heard Daddy say to her tearful Mother with whispered desperation, "Only a miracle can save him now." Tess went to her bedroom and pulled a glass jelly jar from its hiding place in the closet. She poured all the change out on the floor and counted it carefully. Three times, even. The total had to be exactly perfect. No chance here for mistakes. Carefully placing the coins back in the jar and twisting on the cap, she slipped out the back door and made her way 6 blocks to Rexall's Drug Store with the big red Indian Chief sign above the door. She waited patiently for the pharmacist to give her some attention but he was to busy at this moment. Tess twisted her feet to make a scuffing noise. Nothing. She cleared her throat with the most disgusting sound she could muster. No good. Finally she took a quarter from her jar and banged it on the glass counter. That did it! "And what do you want?" the pharmacist asked in an annoyed tone of voice. "I'm talking to my brother from Chicago whom I haven't seen in ages," he said without waiting for a reply to his question. "Well, I want to talk to you about my brother," Tess answered back in the same annoyed tone. "He's really, really sick ... and I want to buy a miracle." "I beg your pardon?" said the pharmacist. "His name is Andrew and he has something bad growing inside his head and my Daddy says only a miracle can save him now. So how much does a miracle cost?" "We don't sell miracles here, little girl. I'm sorry but I can't help you, "the pharmacist said, softening a little. "Listen, I have the money to pay for it. If it isn't enough, I will get the rest. Just tell me how much it costs." The pharmacist's brother was a well dressed man. He stooped down and asked the little girl, "What kind of a miracle does you brother need?" "I don't know," Tess replied with her eyes welling up. "I just know he's really sick and Mommy says he needs an operation. But my Daddy can't pay for it, so I want to use my money. "How much do you have?" asked the man from Chicago. "One dollar and eleven cents," Tess answered barely audibly. "And it's all the money I have, but I can get some more if I need to. "Well, what a coincidence," smiled the man. "A dollar and eleven cents--the exact price of a miracle for little brothers." He took her money in one hand and with the other hand he grasped her mitten and said "Take me to where you live. I want to see your brother and meet your parents. Let's see if I have the kind of miracle you need." That well dressed man was Dr. Carlton Armstrong, a surgeon, specializing in neurosurgery. The operation was completed without charge and it wasn't long until Andrew was home again and doing well. Mom and Dad were happily talking about the chain of events that had led them to this place. "That surgery," her Mom whispered. "was a real miracle. I wonder how much it would have cost?" Tess smiled. She knew exactly how much a miracle cost ... one dollar and eleven cents ...... plus the faith of a little child. A miracle is not the suspension of natural law, but the operation of a higher law......
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  11. Yesterday My nice (age 9) come to me & speak to me a very common but strange thing which was learnt by her in her school premises that We speak a lot of words in our daily life and few of them are very common. She said but U KNOW, CHACHU MOST OF US DON'T KNOW THE MEANING OR FULL FORM OF THOSE WORDS. I think she was kidding but gone wondered when she tell me a few ones. So that is why i M going to start a discussion in which i hope U all will contribute such type of common words, their origin & full form of such words. I M taking the initiative to have 2 common words & their meanings: 1. TIE(neck-tie) - To Impress Everybody 2. HELLO H How R U E Everything all right ? L Like to hear from U L Love to See U soon ! O Obiviosly, I Miss U
  12. Hello There R some pictures loaded in my personal gallary. Spare some moments to have a look on them. http://www.sikhawareness.com/sikhawareness...e.php?pic_id=93 with JOY(ce)
  13. Last night thinking of u 1 tear rolled out, I asked, “why u are out?". Tear said," there is someone so beautiful inside now, there is no place 4 me!" Love Life seems to be tough when u see the trouble that u go through but that the only part which life really love's us. Has without life being though life wouldnt have been a life worth living. U have 1 life, live to its max no matter happy so sad and life will love u back. Rest leave it to the partner (almighty god) to decide its all that in his hand. He has got us to this life so that we can love and bring happiness to all those people who we know and whom we don’t “or even if we cant atleast we can pray for them to our partner (god) to fill their life with blossom forever”
  14. http://www.zeenews.com/znnew/articles.asp?...&archisubsec=54 Microsoft's MSN to shut down, limit Internet chats worldwide Seattle, Sept 24: Microsoft Corp. is shutting down Internet chat services in most of its markets around the world and limiting the service in the United States to help reduce criminal solicitations of children through online chat discussions. The changes will take effect October 14, Microsoft said yesterday in an announcement from Europe. In most of its 34 markets in Europe, Latin America and Asia, Microsoft MSN has chosen to simply shut down the service, the Redmond, Washington-based software company said. However, MSN will continue to offer chat services to users in the United States, Canada, Japan and Brazil. In the United States, MSN will require users of its chat service to subscribe to at least one other paid MSN service. That way, the company will have credit card numbers to make it easier to track down users who violate MSN's terms of use. The sessions will not be moderated, Microsoft said. In Canada and Japan, the company will offer some moderated chat rooms. Users can also subscribe to an unmoderated service. MSN will offer some moderated chat discussions in New Zealand and Brazil. Bureau Report
  15. A young man was getting ready to Graduate College. For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told him that was all he wanted. As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the morning of his graduation his father called him into his private study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son a beautiful wrapped gift box. Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible. Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said, "With all your money you give me a Bible?" and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book. He never contacted his father again for long long time. Many years passed and the young man was very successful in business.He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He had not seen him since that graduation day.Before he could make arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He needed to come home immediately and take care things. When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and regret filled his heart. He began to search his father's important papers and saw the still new Bible just as he had left it years ago. With tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he read those words, a car key dropped from an envelope taped behind the Bible. It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation, and the words..PAID IN FULL. How many times do we miss GOD blessings because they are not packaged as we expected? If this touched your heart, please recommend it to others, does not matter what religion you belong to... the message is for everyone. Thought today is the right day when we all will need to read this nice,short story, As today is the day of big suspense. Some will be happy and some will be not. But remember GOD has his own way of blessing everyone. Everything that one expect may not come in the way you expect. So trust HIM and be happy with JOY(ce)
  16. The Florida State University, Tallahassee, Florida has put up a very interesting Java applet on their site. It begins as a view of the Milky Way Galaxy viewed from a distance of 10 million light years and then zooms into towards Earth in powers of ten of distance. 10 million, to one million, to 100,000 light years and so on and then when it finally reaches a large Oak tree leaf. But that is not all it zooms into the leaf until it reaches to the level of the quarks viewed at 100 attometers. Copy and paste the link below to your browser address bar to view this: http://micro.magnet.fsu.edu/primer/java/sc...of10/index.html This is a fantastic representation of how magnificent the Universe is and how vastly infinite it is both in the macroscopic and the microscopic level. JOY(ce) Galaxy View
  17. A young man, a student in one of the universities, was one day taking a walk with the Professor, who was commonly called the student's freind,from his kindness to those who waited on his instructions. As they went along, they saw lying in the path a pair of old shoes which they supposed to belong to a poor man who was employed in a field close by and who had nearly finished his day's work. The student turned to the Professor saying:" Let us play the man a trick; we will hide his shoes and conceal ourselves behind the bushes and wait and see his perplexity when he cannot find them." "My young friend," answered the Professor," we should never amuse ourselves at the expense of the poor.But you are rich and may give yourself much pleasure by means of this poor man. Put a coin in each shoe, and we will hide ourselves and watch how this affects him." The student did so and they both placed themselves behind the bushes close by. The poor man soon finished his work, and came across the field to the path where he had left his coat & shoes. While putting on his coat he slipped his foot into one of his shoes but feeling something hard, he stooped down to feel what it was,and found the coin. Astonished and wonder were seen upon his countenance, he gazed upon the coin, turned it around,and looked at it again and again.He then looked around him on all sides, but no person to be seen. He now put the coin into his pocket , and proceeded to put on the other shoe; but his surprise was doubled on finding the other coin. His feelings overcame him, he fell upon his knees, looked upto heaven & uttered aloud a fervent thanksgiving in which he spoke of his wife, sick & helpless, and his children without bread, whom this timely bounty, from someone unknown would save from perishing. The student stood there , deeply affected and his eyes fileld with tears. "Now , " said the Professor, are you not much better pleased than if you had played your intended trick?" The youth replied " You have taught me a lesson which I will never forget .I feel now the truth of these words, which I never understood before."Its more blessed to give than to receive." IF YOU WANT TRUE HAPPINESS.......... For an HOUR....... Take a nap For a DAY ........... Go fishing For a MONTH...... Get married. For a Year.............. Inherent a Fortune For a LIFETIME......HELP SOMEONE
  18. This is a speech picked from a COO of Booz-Allen Ms. Sambia Stonz. It will ensurely help U to evaluate UR approach towards success with different viewpoint. ____________________________________________________________ Public figures like Maureen often find their success defined by others in artificial terms like "rating points." But, it's not just newscasters, athletes, and celebrities whose success seems linked to score-keeping and winning. If you ask the average American to define success, you'd probably get answers like this: Driving a Lexus Scoring a hole-in-one Having a big house in Great Falls (a prestigious address in the Washington, DC metropolitan area) Getting a child into Harvard. Likewise, in the business world, success tends to be measured by the yardsticks of pay and promotion. In December, when I was elected to be the new Chairman and Chief Executive Officer of Booz·Allen, someone asked me "so, what does if feel like to achieve the ultimate success?"I was rather taken aback. Clearly, it felt good to get the vote of confidence from my partners—but I didn't for a minute equate "success" with "being CEO." In fact, I thought I already had the best job in the firm. As I talked to people about success, a fascinating pattern emerged. The people I really admired, defined success quite differently from the conventional "score-sheet" method. So, in preparing for this speech, I decided to explore this idea further. I wanted to see who else held a different view of success, and I wanted to learn more about what people consider to be the key enablers and obstacles to their success. I turned to Booz·Allen's Women's Advisory Board, a group of 15 accomplished women of diverse ages, backgrounds, and career specialties. I established this Board four years ago to advise me and the firm's top management on issues they believe are important to work and work-life balance for employees at our firm. I asked the Women's Advisory Board Members if they'd be willing to share their perspectives on six questions: #1. Thinking about your own overall life goals and accomplishments, how do you define success? #2. What are the key enablers for you in achieving success? #3. What are the main obstacles to you in achieving success? #4. How have you overcome setbacks in the past? #5. If you could change one thing about your life today, what would it be? #6. If your employer could change one thing to improve your situation, what would that be? I was intrigued with the responses and was surprised by how consistent they were. The answers were both consistent with each other (even though there' s a wide diversity of age, level, and background among the Women's Advisory Board members) and consistent with my own views about success. Theories abound about what it takes to succeed and reach your life goals. Some people talk about a "master plan" set early in life and followed religiously to their desired outcome. Others see life as a wheel of fortune that can be neither predicted, nor influenced. But my experience, the experience of our Women's Advisory Board members, and the experience of other accomplished people I know, suggest that neither a master plan nor lucky stars drives success. And, that success is not about keeping score. This is what I want to share with you today: Success is not an outcome—it's a way of living. And the keys to living well are: responsibility, relationships, and resilience. Responsibility Success has to do, first, with knowing what your goals are—and then, taking the responsibility, building the relationships, and having the resilience to achieve them. Truly successful people know what they want—not so much in terms of specific outcomes—but in terms of balance and direction. They believe they are responsible for their lives—not fate or other people; they have strong relationships at home, at work, and beyond; and they have the resilience and optimism to profit from change—both positive change in the form of opportunities, and difficult change that comes from setbacks. While some people use different words, these common themes—responsibility, relationships, and resilience emerge as "success strategies" in the advice and experiences of many accomplished women I know. And as I look back, they factor strongly in my own experience. So, for the next few minutes, I'd like to share with you—in a bit more detail and through some personal stories—what I believe success really is and how these three success strategies play into it. "So, What is success?" In the words of one of the Women's Advisory Board members, "For me, success is achieving a balance between a satisfying career, whatever I define that to be, and family life. Unfortunately, in the eyes of many people, success is often measured by what kind of car you drive, what neighborhood you live in, or your job title. For some, success is having a spouse and two healthy children. For others, it is achieving a certain position within your company by a certain age." Another Advisory Board member defined success as: "Making consistent progress towards personal and professional goals; making a positive difference; enjoying what I do." And, another said : "I used to think I would wake up one day and feel that I had 'achieved success.' Now, I feel that success is a constant, positive journey through life's challenges." Joyce Doria, the most senior woman partner at Booz·Allen, defines success as "being able to have impactÖ and for it to be recognized." I was amazed to look down at my own notes and see so many of the same words. For me, I view success as achieving a comfort level between my personal and professional lifeÖenjoying what I do, having an impact, being a real part of the game. It's been said so often that it's become a clichÈ—but life really is a "journey, not a destination." And, therefore, we shouldn't define success in terms of destinations. We will only be, and only feel, successful when we truly enjoy and take pride in our journey. This may sound funny, but one measure of success for me is being oblivious to the days of the week. Many years ago, when I worked for RCA outside of Philadelphia, I could tell you at any given point in time, exactly how many days and hours it was until the weekend. I lived for the weekends, and being a self-admitted sports-junkie, I wished the Flyers Hockey games on Sunday night would last forever—it was the last big celebration of the weekend. You know—I haven't felt that way in years—because I truly enjoy what I do, every day. I recently saw a quote from the author Annie Dillard. She said, "How we spend our days is—of course—how we spend our lives." Think about it: "How we spend our days is how we spend our lives." To me, that is the real measure of success—that day-by-day we enjoy what we're doing and feel that we're making an impact. So, if achieving this state of contentment and satisfaction with our life journey is what success is all about, how do we get there and how do we stay there? That's what I was looking for in the answers to my other questions about the enablers and obstacles to successÖ how people overcome setbacksÖ and what things they would change in their life and work. As I noted, three themes emerged. First, successful people take responsibility—for their actions, attitudes, and outcomes. They make things happen, and they don't rely on, nor blame, fate or other people. Under the heading of responsibility, I also put excellence—which is taking the responsibility to do things very well, and determination, which is carrying responsibility through and through. The Women's Advisory Board members expressed responsibility this way: "Being goal-oriented and having a strong work ethic" Ö "Having the drive to go after what I want" Ö "I view my success as being in my hands." One Advisory Board member said, "My first boss taught me that you can control your destiny by ensuring you put your energy into the things you can control, like the quality of your work." Another turned it around and noted that a key obstacle to success is "failing to take responsibility for your own performance." She observed, " Too many people are unwilling to accept that their fate really lies within their own control in many casesÖthey find it easier to blame someone else for lack of success than to acknowledge a mistake, or weakness, or setback and then learn from it and move on." Joyce Newman, a nationally-known media and speech coach, said this about the importance of responsibility, "You can't take your abilities or success for granted. You have to give 100% every day—in work and in relationships. To me, that's what separates the wheat from the chaff." Relationships The second success strategy is relationships: "Build strong relationships—in all aspects of your life and work." The theme of this year's Women's Center Conference is "Leadership in a Networked World." When you get right down to it—relationships ARE your network. And, relationships aren't something you can just go out and acquire, they're something you have to build and nurture over time. They take time, energy, and personal investment. Relationships enrich our lives. They make it possible for us not only make to succeed, but also to share our success. After I was elected Chairman of Booz·Allen, I got a call from Jim Farley, congratulating me. Jim was the Chairman of Booz·Allen in 1974, when I joined the firm, and is someone I have admired for many years, so his call meant a lot. But, the calls and e-mails I got from employees meant even more. I got calls and notes from the staff in our mail room and personal congratulations from our receptionist and security guard—and I want to tell you, they meant every bit as much to me as Jim Farley's call. There are a lot of days at work when having a good relationship with the building engineer is more important than having one with the Senior VP. When I asked the Women's Advisory Board members, "what are the key enablers to achieving success," the majority said "other people" —most often family members and bosses (the good bosses). One said simply that a key to her success was, "People who believed in me." Another said, "The ability to form and keep strong relationships in my business and personal life is crucial. I feel that deep bonds with other people are key to a successful life experience." Another Advisory Board member put it this way, "On a personal level, everyone needs to find the person or persons and outside interests that balance their lives—whether a spouse, a friend or associate who is a sounding board. You need a place to vent, and a place to share successes and defeats so they stay in perspective. I read where the actress Marlene Dietrich said, "It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter." She's right. Resilience The third success strategy that emerged from my discussions and experience is resilience. We need to be resilient—able to deal with, and profit from, change—both in good times and bad. In good times, resilience makes you prepared, ready to leap and take advantage when opportunities present themselves. My partner at Booz·Allen, Joyce Doria, talks about being creative and opportunistic, about "reinventing what you do" to succeed over time. Joyce has built on her expertise in human resources and organization to lead a string of successful businesses—from Total Quality Management, to Business Process Reengineering, to applying "commercial best practices" to government agencies. Joyce's resilience has enabled her to change with the needs of her clients and the marketplace. Bill Stasior, Booz·Allen's current Chairman and my long-time friend and mentor, has a favorite Chinese proverb that he uses to convey the importance of vision and optimism. The proverb says, "When your cart reaches the foot of the mountain, a path will appear." But, it's up to us to see that path when it appears, and to have the confidence to set out on it. Resilience gives us the self-confidence to take risks and also to withstand criticisms and setbacks when we find ourselves on a rough path. Resilience is especially important when times are tough. Joyce Newman, who coaches executives, athletes, and celebrities to work with the press, stresses the importance of optimism and self-confidence in handling stressful situations—whether with the media or in life. She credits "being a glass-half-full person" with helping her overcome personal and professional hurdles. As a true media professional, Joyce boils down her advice about resilience in the face of setbacks into a single sound-bite, "Get over it." That expression has taken on a bit of a put-down connotation recently, but viewed in the positive sense of resilience, "Get over it" is good advice. ***** So, this is the point I want to leave you with: Think about success differently—not as an outcome, but as a way of living. And explore how you can put success strategies of responsibility, relationships, and resilience—to work every day. I mentioned a few minutes ago that I'm a sports junkie. I really enjoy and appreciate all sports. One of the athletes I've admired for a long time is the Olympic figure skating champion, Peggy Fleming. Listen to what she said about success: "The ultimate goal should be doing your best, and enjoying it." Think about it for a minute. Peggy Fleming won the Olympic gold medal when she was 19 years old. If that outcome had been her measure of success, her life would have headed downhill at a very young age. But she didn't define success as "standing on the podium in 1968." She defined success in terms that would guide her life journey long after the Grenoble OlympicsÖ She defined success in terms that each of us can embrace: "The ultimate goal is doing our best, and enjoying it." ____________________________________________________________ I M fully appriciate her thinking.Please give UR views on the definition of success. I mean how much U agree with her. JOY(ce)
  19. A wealthy man and his son loved to collect rare works of art. They had everything in their collection, from Picasso to Raphael. They would often sit together and admire the great works of art. When the Vietnam conflict broke out, the son went to war. He was very courageous and died in battle while rescuing another soldier. The father was notified and grieved deeply for his only son. About a month later, just before Christmas, there was a knock at the door. A young man stood at the door with a large package in his hands. He said, "Sir, you don't know me, but I am the soldier for whom your son gave his life. He saved many lives that day, and he was carrying me to safety when a bullet struck him in the heart and he died instantly. He often talked about you, and your love for art." The young man held out this package. "I know this isn't much. I'm not really a great artist, but I think your son would have wanted you to have this." The father opened the package. It was a portrait of his son, painted by the young man. He stared in awe at the way the soldier had captured the personality of his son in the painting. The father was so drawn to the eyes that his own eyes welled up with tears. He thanked the young man and offered to pay him for the picture. "Oh, no sir, I could never repay what your son did for me. It's a gift". The father hung the portrait over his mantle. Every time visitors came to his home he took them to see the portrait of his son before he showed them any of the other great works he had collected. The man died a few months later. There was to be a great auction of his paintings. Many influential people gathered, excited over seeing the great paintings and having an opportunity to purchase one for their collection. On the platform sat the painting of the son. The auctioneer pounded his gavel. We will start the bidding with this picture of the son. Who will bid for this picture?" There was silence. Then a voice in the back of the room shouted, "We want to see the famous paintings. Skip this one." But the auctioneer persisted. "Will someone bid for this painting? Who will start the bidding? $100, $200?" Another voice shouted angrily. We didn't come to see this painting. We came to see the Van Goghs, the Rembrandts. Get on with the real bids!" But still the auctioneer continued. "The son! The son! Who'll take the son?" Finally, a voice came from the very back of the room. It was the longtime gardener of the man and his son. "I'll give $10 for the painting." Being a poor man, it was all he could afford. "We have $10, who will bid $20?" "Give it to him for $10. Let's see the masters" someone shouted. "$10 is the bid, won't someone bid $20?" The crowd was becoming angry. They didn't want the picture of the son. They wanted the more worthy investments for their collections. The auctioneer pounded the gavel. "Going once, twice, SOLD for $10!" A man sitting on the second row shouted, "Now let's get on with the collection!" The auctioneer laid down his gavel. "I'm sorry, the auction over." "What about the paintings?" "I am sorry. When I was called to conduct this auction, I was told of a secret stipulation in the will. I was not allowed to reveal that stipulation until this time. Only the painting of the son would be auctioned. Whoever bought that painting would inherit the entire estate, including the paintings. The man who took the son gets every thing! Those r the only small & ordinary things, my dear fellows, which make a ordinary men into a succesfull Personality. So have attention to all them no matter how ordinary they R.
  20. The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy." The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They're all for you, Daddy." The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses... from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this. So respect others love for u from heart with JOY(ce)
  21. During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?" Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello'." I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy. 2 - Second Make an Always Helping approach - Pickup in! the Rain One night, at 11:30 PM, an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away.! God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others." Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole. 3 - Third Always remember those who serve. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked "Fifty cents," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. "Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied." The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When t! he waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip. 4 - Fourth The Obstacle in Our Path In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load ! of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse ! contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand. Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition. 5 - Fifth Giving When it Counts Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate f! or only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at The doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her. You see, after all, understanding and attitude, is everything. JOY(ce) Living
  22. Salutations dear fellow(s), I want some nutral discussion on the topic that is it fair to have someone fall in love with some fellow who doesn’t belong to same caste-religion & have got married with him/her. If yes why can't such a knot will be a successfull mutual consent and if yes then why and then why we press our youth to have arrange marriages & all those. Please give UR views only if you have some logical concepts / proofs to prove UR viewpoints. Coz it is not a matter of time-pass, it is a serious subject. Hope you'll respect feelings of concerned youth who R on a DORAHA(s) to select their pathway. Thankx Ladies & Gentemen, JOY(ce)
  23. Lust is the origin of sin. I M quoteing a conversation between Lord Krishna & Arjuna during Mahabharat to explain my viewpoint on the subject & for some conceptual proof... How to control lust The senses are said to be superior to the body; the mind is superior to the senses; the intellect is superior to the mind; and Atma (Spirit) is superior to the intellect. Thus, knowing the Self (Atma) to be superior to the intellect, and controlling the mind by the intellect (that is purified by spiritual practices), one must kill this mighty enemy, lust (Kaam). So it is quite logistic & possible that we can control our lust if we have control on our mind & senses. JOY(ce)
  24. Hi fellows, Please let me know the exact procedure that How to upload a picture from my PC to my profile as well as from my other online collections, i:e: Yahoo galary. I had tried a few times but the server is not displaying it in my profile & also not cozing any errors. Hope to hear from U some techinical logics to handle the situation. Thanx JOY(ce)
  25. Ladla Bhaji great, But tuhada reference chalda taan hai nahin. Please check it again for Waheguru sake. I badly need a few topics. Thankx JOY(ce)
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