Princess_Gina

Thanks N30,what Nicky Kaur said was true,its easier now when you have another angle to look at it from. Theres a lot of ways to look at things,good and bad in particular,most people see things one way,their way...

Confidence is the key lil one,I don't think I have enough of it at the moment,hopefully I can work on that and go from there. Definately no rush. I'm only 20 and he's 22,so I've got time. Age isn't a factor,these days people get married early anyways,early as 17,but thats the least of my concern...I'm mature,finished school.and working,and we know we want to be together so... Anyways,I think I've got enough advice from everyone and its been helpful. Whatever is meant to happen will happen,so we'll see what happens. Thanks P.S- yea I do know my dad prolly better than anyone else,and I know for a fact he would so not kill me! Vancouver incident was sad...I read in the newspaper about a girl in London,16 yr old who was going to run away with her 18 yr old bf,and her dad cut her throat because she was too westernized... :roll:

Guys do get it easier than girls. This one girl was threatened by her dad that she has to marry a jatt else he'd kill her,and then theres her 2 older brothers,ones living with a gori who's pregnant with his kid,not even married....other one is married to a chinese girl...the parents didn't have a problem with the boys but threatened the girl,how messed is that?? :x

That's true Steel,I guess it is a test and it shows how weak we are. Its so sad when you see people who do so much paath and have so much faith in God totally break apart,their situation just gets worse and worse. But like Jassa said,maybe it is because of their past life. And then you see other people,so happy and you think wow,it puts a smile on your face. No one said life is fair,but it would be nice if everyone could be happy,its the nicest thing- to see a smile,its amazing. You see or hear about people with bigger problems than yours and yet they don't show it,makes you think twice,that someones always got bigger problems than you,not that yours don't matter anymore,but just that life does go on.

Thanks for the reply,its great getting a girls view on it. I totally agree with you. Thats what makes it so hard,the fact that I've only got to know this guy,and I've known my dad for all my life. I can't chuck 20 yrs of my life back to him like that. But I also think that maybe my dad should be happy for me if I'm going to be happy with this guy right. Meri khushi ona dhi khushi... Yes my mom knows and I guess in a way she should be the one to confront my dad about it,but I think I should tell because it would put my mom in that position...defending me or my dad...shes always helped me out,she still is and I think she will when the time comes.

Thank you so much,means a lot!

Why is it that when you believe so much in God,you get hurt. When something good happens,we thank and pray to God,basically,we remember him then. But when something bad happens,we turn our backs on him,stop believing in him,just give up. Its sad,but its what really happens,not just to me,I know I'm not the only one who does this. So if we know its not good,why do we do it? I feel guilty but I don't do anything about it. It amazes me how at one point in my life I was so religious and suddenly something happens and I've gone quite the opposite. I've been saying to myself I should get back to doing Japji Sahib paath for awhile now but I just think well God knows when I'm thinking about him anyways and what's the use even. Sounds harsh doesn't it? I see some people doing paath,and it looks so fake,they do paath but their mind is focused else where so that just puts me off as well. Other people I seen do so much paath and their life goes completely upside down. I find it funny how that works out. I know there is a God,at least for me,and I know what's right and wrong. I don't really have a point here but I had that on my mind for awhile. I guess if your not going to believe in God,who else or what else can you believe in right but at the same time believing in God,you pray so much and your so loyal and then you get hurt,you think why did this happen to me,what did I do. My apologises to anyone who might be against what I've written,don't get defensive or anything,I'm just writing my thoughts. I do believe in God,but just curious as to why we do the things we do,in this case,get angry at God when things don't go our way. Anyone else who does this?

Yes,the bf/gf bit is irrelevant,we are way beyond that,we are committed to each other,he respects me as his wife. Your right M,its all about the timing,I had already decided that I was going to wait awhile longer,theres no rush,its just the idea of having to say it eventually that scares me and its constantly on my mind. I know I'm not alone,I've got people who will support me. I guess I need a father point of view or another girls point of view on how she would tell her dad and handle the whole situation. :?

Why is caste such a big deal?? Your allowed to be friends with different kinds of people yet your not allowed to marry someone from another religion let alone marrying a sikh but which isn't of the same caste. I've never fallen in love,finally its happened to me,and I want to spend the rest of my life with this person but caste is a problem. My mom is okay with this guy,she really likes him,and my sisters like him too which is important to me...dad doesn't know but I'm too afraid to even tell him because I know for a fact that he won't agree. I've always obeyed my parents,their trust is the most important thing to me,they always tell people how lucky they are to have me as their daughter,and that I'd never do anything to hurt them,but now I'm stuck between the guy I love and my dad...I can't live without either. I been trying to come up with reasons why my dad should agree but I don't know what to say. And what should I do if my dad still says no?? :cry:

That site appears to be closed...but thanx anyways

:?: I have been trying to find a shabad by Bhai Surinder Singh Ji Jodhpuri called Har Jiyo Nimaniyan Tu Maan...but no luck,so I was wondering if anyone has it downloaded or knows where I could get it,I tried Kazaa...