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Some people might have the notion that viewing husband as God is only a Hindu belief, but they are wrong. This belief is also part of Sikh ethics and values. Gurbani clearly instructs a woman to look upon her husband, as God. There might be many more arths of the Shabad below, but in this topic, the one based on sociological perspective will be discussed. Here is the shabad: ਕਲਿਜੁਗ ਮਹਿ ਮਿਲਿ ਆਏ ਸੰਜੋਗ ॥ In the Dark Age of Kali Yuga, they come together through destiny. ਜਿਚਰੁ ਆਗਿਆ ਤਿਚਰੁ ਭੋਗਹਿ ਭੋਗ ॥੧॥ As long as the Lord commands, they enjoy their pleasures. ||1|| ਜਲੈ ਨ ਪਾਈਐ ਰਾਮ ਸਨੇਹੀ ॥ By burning oneself, the Beloved Lord is not obtained. ਕਿਰਤਿ ਸੰਜੋਗਿ ਸਤੀ ਉਠਿ ਹੋਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Only by the actions of destiny does she rise up and burn herself, as a 'satee'. ||1||Pause|| ਦੇਖਾ ਦੇਖੀ ਮਨਹਠਿ ਜਲਿ ਜਾਈਐ ॥ Imitating what she sees, with her stubborn mind-set, she goes into the fire. ਪ੍ਰਿਅ ਸੰਗੁ ਨ ਪਾਵੈ ਬਹੁ ਜੋਨਿ ਭਵਾਈਐ ॥੨॥ She does not obtain the Company of her Beloved Lord, and she wanders through countless incarnations. ||2|| ਸੀਲ ਸੰਜਮਿ ਪ੍ਰਿਅ ਆਗਿਆ ਮਾਨੈ ॥ With pure conduct and self-restraint, she surrenders to her Husband Lord's Will; ਤਿਸੁ ਨਾਰੀ ਕਉ ਦੁਖੁ ਨ ਜਮਾਨੈ ॥੩॥ that woman shall not suffer pain at the hands of the Messenger of Death. ||3|| ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਜਿਨਿ ਪ੍ਰਿਉ ਪਰਮੇਸਰੁ ਕਰਿ ਜਾਨਿਆ ॥ Says Nanak, she who looks upon her Husband as God, ਧੰਨੁ ਸਤੀ ਦਰਗਹ ਪਰਵਾਨਿਆ ॥੪॥੩੦॥੯੯॥ is the blessed 'satee'; she is received with honor in the Court of the Lord. ||4||30||99|| Uthanka: A Sikh informs Satguru jee (fifth master) that a lady has become a Sati (burnt herself on pyre) with her husband today. Context: The first tuk is talking about "sanjog", which means relation. Therefore, it is very clear from the uthanka and the context that this shabad is talking about a spousal relationship. Four translations (including non-DDT ones) will be provided below. All of them agree that this Shabad is instructing a wife to view her husband, as God. 1. Prof.Sahib Singh (regarded highly by Missionaries): - Please notice that Professor Sahib has used the word "Khasam", which can refers to God too. 2. Gyani Harbans Singh jee (non-DDT): 3. Fareedkot wala Teeka (Nirmalay scholars): 4. Amir Bhandar (DDT): 4. Historical Perspective - 1: - Mata Sewan jee* (a female Brahamgyani) used to consider her husband as God. 5. Historical Perspective - 2: - Tenth master praises a woman who has never abused/cursed a man in her life. * - for more details on the life of Mata jee, please check the link below: In conclusion: A Sikh woman is instructed to view her husband, as God. A Sikh woman does not need to burn on the pyre of her husband, to prove that she is a Sati. A Sikh widow must look upon the Almighty God, as her husband. Women should not be forced to burn on husband's pyre. Coercion is not permitted in this case. Women, who are forced to burn on their husband's pyre, may or may not be Satis. Both males and females should look upon the Almighty God, as their husband. Bhul chuk maaf