HisServant Posted October 27, 2017 Report Share Posted October 27, 2017 Also forgot to mention working out - Lift at least 3 times a week. But 5-7 would be extremely good. Strengthen both mind and body. Grow the warrior side - I don't know why but working out has always pushed me to fight the internal battle with dhoots. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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lostsikh Posted November 21, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 21, 2017 Today i broke my fast (physical action) after 2/3 weeks it felt like a build to nothing after the pleasure was over. A little bit by bit grows into this which happened today me using a chatline. During the last few days i was again watching porn and looking at profiles again then today it exploded by using the chatline especially when i saw my fav operator online. It is worse when i am home alone and nobody to stop me. But i need to fix up on this. Even though now i feel dirty and worthless after commiting this flith act. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylitol Posted November 22, 2017 Report Share Posted November 22, 2017 Bro it's difficult but you need to stay busy. Even if you have nothing to do do some seva, there's always dishes to be washed shoes to be cleaned at the Gurdwara!! That sadhsangat will help protect you. Try to stay in their energy more by going to Gurdwara more often. This is the biggest, easiest thing you can do. On top of that, I found salty or overly sweet foods cause increase in kaam, especially when eaten in the latter half of the day. Same with achar taken in later half of day. Coffee/tea are also stimulating. Eating from manmukh people, their negative thought energy in the food will influence you negatively. Don't leave lots of excess energy in the tank. Work out, go for a run or take martial arts. Burn up that excess energy in useful activity. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulfinder Posted November 22, 2017 Report Share Posted November 22, 2017 Veer listen to these katha recordings about what your desires will lead you to. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted November 24, 2017 Report Share Posted November 24, 2017 @lostsikh - In addition to other diseases, you can also contract Hepatitis via sexual activities. Bhul chuk maaf 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted November 25, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 25, 2017 On 24/11/2017 at 9:57 AM, paapiman said: @lostsikh - In addition to other diseases, you can also contract Hepatitis via sexual activities. Bhul chuk maaf Bro you are right it is nasty to look at those images on google images on herpes. It is sickening a right turn off. Anyways i am happy yet disapointed as i was talking to my fav sex chatline girl and long story short i was reading her reviews which another caller gave. So before she used to say i am her fav caller stud etc. When i asked her who was better me or him she said both of you as he has been on for 10 years and i have 5/6 years. I feel so disapointed that i used to jerk over her and have fantsies over her and wasted time and money over her. But it is safe to say i don't ever feel like using chatlines ever again. This is one of my strongest vices every time i saw her online on the page i would you know go for it call her but after this experince never again. I am so glad that i am free from her and this is a step forward to my chatline addication. Thank God Waheguru Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted November 25, 2017 Author Report Share Posted November 25, 2017 On 22/11/2017 at 8:56 PM, Soulfinder said: Veer listen to these katha recordings about what your desires will lead you to. Thank God this is just thoughts at the moment and nothing partical has been done. It is really scary listening to this. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulfinder Posted November 25, 2017 Report Share Posted November 25, 2017 29 minutes ago, lostsikh said: Thank God this is just thoughts at the moment and nothing partical has been done. It is really scary listening to this. I am glad you are reliazing kaam is not everything in life and a sin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaur Inder Posted November 26, 2017 Report Share Posted November 26, 2017 I don’t know if I should be posting here but after reading all the posts it seems like ur crazy about blondes maybe coz of white skin or what.. but I think no one should look at the outer/physical appearances because that’s actually not our true identity.. anyways ur story is sooo similar to One of My friend’s boyfriend’s frnd.. he also had these urges and all.. he use to do the same thing after doing everything he’ll be like oh I feel ashamed, i feel nasty.. I feel like people should throw shoes at me this and that.. and he was married as well.. but the good thing is that u want to get over it.. there are some people who don’t even think about u know getting any better.. but all u can do is control urself. Yes it is hard but that’s what we are told by our guru’s to fight each and everyday like a battle with our enemies and our enemies are lust, anger, greed, attachment and pride.. and trust me after little hard work you will be so grateful to god. And the only way u can win ur battle is by doing simran, seva and everything you’ve been told to do by other members.. I can suggest one more thing always keep waheguru in ur mind. Like never forget him not even for a sec.. when u have this thought in ur mind whatever I do my waheguru is always watching me thn That might help in controlling urself.. good luck brother and I’m sry if I said anything wrong. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted December 1, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 Right now i am thinking that for so many years i have had these mental blockages thoughts that are distrubing me which is based on my desire to just have sex with a good looking blonde gori. I know it sounds disgusting but i feel like if i let this desire out just once. I am hoping it will clear out my thoughts and i will have a fresh start in my life free these blocks described. I have stood naked infront webcams and chat lines and what differences does it make if i just do it once in ral life. I feel like these thoughts are like a something stuck in my nails which need to be pulled out or like a pin stuck needing release or like the uncomfortable feeling before doing vomiting. I would like to is being a virgin really important ? Does it even effect persons spritualty ? I mean can't have i have a fresh start after letting my dirty desire out in real life and afterwoods leading a Gursikh lifestyle ? I mean i have seen so many people who have done worse things then me like conning people drugs everything and they became amritdhari gursikhs afterwoods. What are sangats views on this please post or pm me i really need gudience with this after this thought i which i have written. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted December 1, 2017 Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 11 hours ago, lostsikh said: I mean can't have i have a fresh start after letting my dirty desire out in real life and afterwoods leading a Gursikh lifestyle ? What you are contemplating is similar to one trying to douse a fire (Class A) with kerosene/oil. The fire will spread more, if you do so. How to extinguish the fire? Use Water. Similarly, you have to use Gurbani to douse this wild fire of Kaam within you. Once, you put your desire into action, it is very much possible that your desire will keep increasing more and more and there might be no coming back. Remember, if a dam breaks, destruction could be devastating. Bhul chuk maaf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted December 1, 2017 Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 12 hours ago, lostsikh said: I mean i have seen so many people who have done worse things then me like conning people drugs everything and they became amritdhari gursikhs afterwoods. Bro, you cannot justify one sin with another one. Are you sure you will become an Amritdhari after fulfilling your desire? Those people who do drugs, con people, etc and then later become Amritdharis, how much do you know about them? Maybe they have way more Kamai (spiritual merits) than you from previous lives. Do you know how much Kamai you have? What if all your Kamai ends with your proposed sinful act? Have you ever thought about this? We even don't know if we will be alive the next moment or not. Have you ever thought - what if you die after committing this sin? What is going to happen to you in the court of Dharam Raj? Are you ready for brutal punishments for the sake of a pleasure of few moments? Bhul chuk maaf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted December 1, 2017 Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 12 hours ago, lostsikh said: I would like to is being a virgin really important ? Does it even effect persons spritualty ? Celibacy (for unmarried) and Sexual restraint (for married) are very critical, in order to grow spiritually. Bhul chuk maaf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted December 1, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 5 hours ago, paapiman said: Bro, you cannot justify one sin with another one. Are you sure you will become an Amritdhari after fulfilling your desire? Those people who do drugs, con people, etc and then later become Amritdharis, how much do you know about them? Maybe they have way more Kamai (spiritual merits) than you from previous lives. Do you know how much Kamai you have? What if all your Kamai ends with your proposed sinful act? Have you ever thought about this? We even don't know if we will be alive the next moment or not. Have you ever thought - what if you die after committing this sin? What is going to happen to you in the court of Dharam Raj? Are you ready for brutal punishments for the sake of a pleasure of few moments? Bhul chuk maaf Bro you are right. I however had thought that like after a shoot off over porn cam i go back to normal. So i thought it will be like that in out thing and me following sikhi. Believe me if this desire is out of my system if done i will be free and became amritdhari fully. But i could be addicated to escorts after like drugs. Also it does sound scary to burn my karmas especially good ones . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulfinder Posted December 1, 2017 Report Share Posted December 1, 2017 Veer this is going to far now. I normally don't write about these things but as i have read these posts all i can say read Charitropakhyan in english. I know i shouldn't say this but i watched a bollywood movie a while back which is not suitable for a family film. It has similar themes to this bani like characters wise. I watched it after reading the charitars and i was shocked and made me believe the writtings even more. This is not suitable for everyone so caution is adviced. Watch the movie and i hope it will show what happens when you have finished the movie or anyone here who is struggling with kaam. If anyone has watched the movie please share your views on it as we need to help our lost brother from a paap. http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0156014/ http://sridasamgranth.blogspot.co.uk/2014/02/charitropakhyan.html?m=1 https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.globalsikhstudies.net/pdf/Chritro%20pakhyaan%20Vol%20II.pdf&ved=0ahUKEwiDltWL_-nXAhVDyRQKHa67CEM4HhAWCDMwBg&usg=AOvVaw1n6LUE0IHZ-b8kH7GNPG1m 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted December 12, 2017 Report Share Posted December 12, 2017 @lostsikh - Hope you read the experience shared by the brother below. If not, please read. Bhul chuk maaf 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted December 12, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 12, 2017 5 hours ago, paapiman said: @lostsikh - Hope you read the experience shared by the brother below. If not, please read. Bhul chuk maaf Bro thanks its so nice to read and uplifting as it shows the nasty side to what i wanted. Very hard hitting read. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted December 12, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 12, 2017 On 01/12/2017 at 11:47 PM, Soulfinder said: Veer this is going to far now. I normally don't write about these things but as i have read these posts all i can say read Charitropakhyan in english. I know i shouldn't say this but i watched a bollywood movie a while back which is not suitable for a family film. It has similar themes to this bani like characters wise. I watched it after reading the charitars and i was shocked and made me believe the writtings even more. This is not suitable for everyone so caution is adviced. Watch the movie and i hope it will show what happens when you have finished the movie or anyone here who is struggling with kaam. If anyone has watched the movie please share your views on it as we need to help our lost brother from a paap. http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0156014/ http://sridasamgranth.blogspot.co.uk/2014/02/charitropakhyan.html?m=1 https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.globalsikhstudies.net/pdf/Chritro%20pakhyaan%20Vol%20II.pdf&ved=0ahUKEwiDltWL_-nXAhVDyRQKHa67CEM4HhAWCDMwBg&usg=AOvVaw1n6LUE0IHZ-b8kH7GNPG1m Bro thanks a lot out of all the movies i have seen they have made me more lustful with songs and on screen kaam. However as you judging by your posts seem a highly religious person gave a recommendation of this movie i thought lets watch it. As i have just watched it without spoiling the great movie. It showed me never to fall in love with anyone as kaam is a hell and worse the movie as a anti love story rather than promoting love stories. Although it is quite ahead and unsuitable for a family film it hits hard the message. The way it is made has showed me never to ever look at a girl ever again in a lustful way. Bro you have opened my eyes with this movie. From now if i love the main character from the movie i will never desire love from lust kaam but from Waheguru. Thanks from the bottom pits of my heart. I will aslo try to read the chirtars you have posted when i get a chance. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulfinder Posted December 13, 2017 Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 4 hours ago, lostsikh said: Bro thanks a lot out of all the movies i have seen they have made me more lustful with songs and on screen kaam. However as you judging by your posts seem a highly religious person gave a recommendation of this movie i thought lets watch it. As i have just watched it without spoiling the great movie. It showed me never to fall in love with anyone as kaam is a hell and worse the movie as a anti love story rather than promoting love stories. Although it is quite ahead and unsuitable for a family film it hits hard the message. The way it is made has showed me never to ever look at a girl ever again in a lustful way. Bro you have opened my eyes with this movie. From now if i love the main character from the movie i will never desire love from lust kaam but from Waheguru. Thanks from the bottom pits of my heart. I will aslo try to read the chirtars you have posted when i get a chance. Veer ji i am glad you have watched this movie as it has many deep messages although it is not a suitable family movie it was very controversal when released as the censor board wanted to ban it. Anyway i am glad you have watched it and have learned a lesson never to fall in lust,anger,greed,ego and worldy attachments. You say compared to other posts i mentioned this movie why ? Cos a friend of mine said its a very good movie of course i have never heard of it back then as i heard of other good hindi movies mentioned by him like Khiladi,Dacait,Krodhi,Ghayal,Mohra,Sadak,Shakti, Hukmat etc to watch. He mentioned this movie Red Rose saying it was a very good, so when i watched it was a completely different type of movie to be made in bollywood as compared to the other movies mentioned. Although Das has cut down a lot on movies,tv serials it was a few years ago as i wanted to a watch a movie. So anyway as Das had read quite a few of the Chirtars from Chirtarpikayan the stories from it made more sense as this movie showed and displayed it in many of the key moments. So i am glad you have watched it and it should lead to a new direction. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostsikh Posted December 13, 2017 Author Report Share Posted December 13, 2017 16 hours ago, Soulfinder said: Veer ji i am glad you have watched this movie as it has many deep messages although it is not a suitable family movie it was very controversal when released as the censor board wanted to ban it. Anyway i am glad you have watched it and have learned a lesson never to fall in lust,anger,greed,ego and worldy attachments. You say compared to other posts i mentioned this movie why ? Cos a friend of mine said its a very good movie of course i have never heard of it back then as i heard of other good hindi movies mentioned by him like Khiladi,Dacait,Krodhi,Ghayal,Mohra,Sadak,Shakti, Hukmat etc to watch. He mentioned this movie Red Rose saying it was a very good, so when i watched it was a completely different type of movie to be made in bollywood as compared to the other movies mentioned. Although Das has cut down a lot on movies,tv serials it was a few years ago as i wanted to a watch a movie. So anyway as Das had read quite a few of the Chirtars from Chirtarpikayan the stories from it made more sense as this movie showed and displayed it in many of the key moments. So i am glad you have watched it and it should lead to a new direction. Bro thanks this movie has impacted me a lot and i feel clearer today compared to before Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted March 25, 2018 Report Share Posted March 25, 2018 Powerful lines regarding lust in Sri Gyan Prabodh Sahib (Sri Dasam Gurbani) ਮੰਚਕ ਬਾਣ ਮੋਚਨੰ ॥ Oh Lord (Almighty God), you destroy the arrows fired by Kaamdev (Demi-God of love) Bhul chuk maaf 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angy15 Posted April 3, 2018 Report Share Posted April 3, 2018 Meditation sometimes creates more sexuality in you as energy is generated and it tends to move downwards towards sex centre. Mind plays a critical role in it .It only knows one passage i.e sexual passage. What should be done .Just be aware of it.Be aware of all the sexual images,X rated thoughts .Be aware of them, but do not do anything about the situation; just be aware of it. The sexual passgae cannot operate without your support.So do not cooperate with it, just be aware of it. You have just been aware of what is happening to your mind, to your body. You are just aware; then energy is conserved. Then the quantity of the energy becomes more and more intense and an upward thrust becomes necessary. Now the energy will go upward; by its very force, a new passage will be thrown open.All chakras will be awakened and you will experience the ultimate divine . 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted April 3, 2018 Report Share Posted April 3, 2018 56 minutes ago, angy15 said: It only knows one passage i.e sexual passage. Not always true. The excess energy can also be dissipated via the Anger/Ego passages. We have to be aware of other exhaust passages too, along with the sexual one. If we start discussing those passages, then we will go off-topic. We can discuss them in some other topic. Bhul chuk maaf 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angy15 Posted April 3, 2018 Report Share Posted April 3, 2018 2 hours ago, paapiman said: Not always true. The excess energy can also be dissipated via the Anger/Ego passages. We have to be aware of other exhaust passages too, along with the sexual one. If we start discussing those passages, then we will go off-topic. We can discuss them in some other topic. Bhul chuk maaf Definitely very true. Views expressed were in context of Kaam . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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