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The importance of Kaur

Have you ever thought why Guru ji, Guru Gobind Singh, gave the Kaur

surname to Sikh women? Why did he not accept the status quo and keep the tradition of the woman's surname being determined by her family's name? What was Guru ji trying to achieve by calling the Sikh woman "A Princess" (literal meaning of Kaur)?

To try to understand the possible reasons behind Guru ji's decision, we need to look at the situation at the time in different cultures. In Indian society, the brides first and last name was often changed after her marriage. This still happens today. However, this tradition of name

changing does not occur just in India. It is a phenomenon which occurs

across the whole world today. Why are women's surnames changed?

The reason is family linkage. Surnames allow others to identify you and your family. In some cases the surname can tell others much more about you, such as your caste. For women the linkage to family is different in comparison to men. Their identity changes with marriage. They are no longer associated with their parents, but with their Husband's family. Unsurprisingly, the man’s name never changes. Some cultures go as far as considering the woman to be the property of others. This was so for the Hindu Law giver, Manu, who claimed that no woman should ever be independent. Christianity considered woman to be a product of man as Eve had come from "the rib" of Adam.

Psychologically, women have accepted these unjust rules. They have resigned to male dominance and allowed themselves to become second class citizens. Guru ji changed all this with the revelation of the Khalsa. He gave women the opportunity to live life free of the chains of a dogmatic

society. It was God's Hukam (will).

Once initiated into the Khalsa, Sikh women obtain the surname Kaur.

The surname Singh (Lion) is given to men, but Kaur (princess) is

reserved solely for women. This difference in names is not about inequality. Rather, Guru ji recognises the difference between men and women. As individuals we are all different from each other, but this difference does not imply inequality. Women and men are different but remain equals. Guru ji considered women and men to be unique. He respected the sexes and, therefore, made the distinction in surnames.

When you take amrit you are told to consider Guru Gobind Singh as

your father and Mata Sahib Kaur as your mother. By joining the Khalsa

you abandon all previous chains of linkage. You become the direct descendants of Guru Gobind Singh and Mata Sahib Kaur. You become their daughters. The Khalsa becomes your family. Thus, from the day you are born to the day you die your name remains the same. You do not have to change it due to marriage.

Unfortunately, the tradition of using the "Kaur" surname has all

but disappeared amongst Sikh women. It is either dropped, in favour of

caste surnames, or misused as a middle name. Guru ji never designed it as such. Have we not belittled his concepts? Have we lost so much

self-esteem that we must copy the bigoted traditions of others ?

Sikh women are today demanding equal rights. Rightly so. However,

they fail to realise that they themselves create inequality by not

considering themselves princesses. They no longer consider themselves as daughters of the Khalsa. Why should Sikh women feel that they must change their names after marriage ? This is not part of the Sikh tradition. It belongs to others. Leave it to them. It has nothing to do with the Sikhs.

Waheguru gave us these names. Real freedom can only be found in Sikhi. Real freedom is the freedom ones feels from within, and not the show of freedom we pretend to have in the outside world.

By keeping your unique and beautiful Sikh identity you are

maintaining the freedom given to you by Guru ji. Ultimately, only those who keep the "Kaur" surname can truly understand its importance. Others will make excuses about the difficulty of having such a common surname. It makes paper work and identification difficult! Why make such excuses? We do not hear Patels or Smiths complaining. Mere excuses.

The importance of "Kaur" is truly inexpressible. It is something

very unique in the history of the world.

Vaheguroooooooooooooooooo

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By keeping your unique and beautiful Sikh identity you are

maintaining the freedom given to you by Guru ji. Ultimately, only those who keep the "Kaur" surname can truly understand its importance. Others will make excuses about the difficulty of having such a common surname. It makes paper work and identification difficult! Why make such excuses? We do not hear Patels or Smiths complaining. Mere excuses.

tru say.... brilliant post...

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