sikh_fauge Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 No offence, but at 19 you should be focusing on studying hard. Women come and go, put your head down and get to where you want in life..a woman wont make you complete if you havent acheived your goals. Get that out the way and gyal dem will come in time. P.S dont kill yourself. Then you wont be able to talk to anyone singh!! Theres alot to live for mate. Life aint that bad. Beleive me. Your problems are mi-nute compared to some people; remember that! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orchids Posted November 24, 2004 Author Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 i know enough girls who dont drink or smoke! Come to London Unis, you can find them there! and yes.... there are jatts too ! Singh, you just gota look in the right place ! Anyway, wots wrong with a girl who goes to pubs and clubs ? it can benefit your life in other ways. . . . . Gurfateh Harpreet oh what man...how dare u mension jatts if u have read any of my posts u will know im from the ramgaria community and i suffer trouble from jatts day in day out.. anyway i was born into the khalsa so caste has no meaning for me.. i wouldnt mind marrying any caste..but why u mensioned jatts.. whats right with a grl who pubs and clubs? im looking for family type girl not one that goes out too much!.. 2 the guy that said about studying i am studying im at uni 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sikh_fauge Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 Orchids i dont know where to start a) theres nothing "wrong" with a gurl who smokes and drinks..you wanted to commit suicide, maybe thats their way of dealing with what life throws at them..dont assume why people do what they do..life isnt black and white i think you misunderstood me when i said study..anyone can take up a course in anything..what im saying is, be a complete student..try and absorb yourself in your work so you dont have time to think about a woman..the lordy knows i dont have time!! and at 19 theres loads of things you can take up! (its not too late!) c) jatts rule lol joke..i know where your coming from, alot of jatts do give it the big 'un..but its ego at the end of the day..and ignorance really..just ignore them..i get alot of akjs (most of the ones i know are "thakan" who abuse jatts all the time..but it doesnt bug me..because its insecurities on their side) d) my names fauge..sikh fauge (not guy) e) your 19 years not 19 months..stop feeling sorry for yourself..if your so hell bent on being paka in your rehit, then focus on your bhagti and become learned in gurmat sangeet; shastar vidiya; become learned in our three scriptures, etc etc. Theres loads to do..get cracking init!! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
challenge_everything Posted December 26, 2004 Report Share Posted December 26, 2004 I can translate the suleman ghost thing for you 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAadmin Posted December 26, 2004 Report Share Posted December 26, 2004 I can translate the suleman ghost thing for you Gurbar AKAAAAAAAAAAL wicked seva... let me know if you need any help...lets work together 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nectar Posted December 27, 2004 Report Share Posted December 27, 2004 which stuff have u seen....i am curious i live in the west midlands...how can someone expect me to get married to a girl who smokes, clubs, drinks and has had previous bf;s? i know they aint all like that but the majority are...and they speak and act like kaalia...im looking for family type girl...as for girls in india most of them marry passports.... if any1 asks why i came 2 this site i came because the world shut me out i suffered humiliation from the jatt community and they kept on saying stuff 2 me so i came on here to gain some insight into sikhi from proper sikhs.. and jeah...i talked to one of my buddies about my depression and guess what the stuff he came out with...he was a muslim dude and he asked me to convert....omg this is how the world is its so mean... so where do u expect me to turn for help.. I am sorry to say but its sheer stereotyping...that girls in Punjab marry for passports...Mr Orchid Sir...let me tell you that the most cultured , family oriented ,gharelu girls are still found in Punjab...since thanks to Waheguru many are still untouched by the freakiness of the western culture...call it social pressure,moral values or their principles... :evil: :evil: :evil: huh...All because ur in a foreign country don't think ur superior to ur counterparts in Punjab... :evil: :evil: :evil: akduu NRP(Non residential Punjabi) :evil: :evil: :evil: 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAadmin Posted December 27, 2004 Report Share Posted December 27, 2004 well post googly kaur.. great post..you smashed it 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orchids Posted December 27, 2004 Author Report Share Posted December 27, 2004 I am sorry to say but its sheer stereotyping...that girls in Punjab marry for passports...Mr Orchid Sir...let me tell you that the most cultured , family oriented ,gharelu girls are still found in Punjab...since thanks to Waheguru many are still untouched by the freakiness of the western culture...call it social pressure,moral values or their principles... :evil: :evil: :evil: huh...All because ur in a foreign country don't think ur superior to ur counterparts in Punjab... :evil: :evil: :evil: akduu NRP(Non residential Punjabi) :evil: :evil: :evil: I said that most girl marry passports...just like most girls in the UK smoke and drink....i did not say all....so how am i stereotyping? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orchids Posted December 27, 2004 Author Report Share Posted December 27, 2004 are u from india googli ji? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palm_w1 Posted December 27, 2004 Report Share Posted December 27, 2004 let me tell you that the most cultured , family oriented ,gharelu girls are still found in Punjab...since thanks to Waheguru many are still untouched by the freakiness of the western culture...call it social pressure,moral values or their principles i have been to ਪੰਜਾਬ many times and lived in india for over a year earlier in my life. to be honest i think it is a myth to say many people are still untouched by western culture. from my own experiences (in doaba at least) i find that the myth that every1 is sida saday is far from the truth! although i agree not every1 fits into my streotype. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beast Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 but also, not every desi drinks and smokes as orchids believes. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cybersingh Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 ok i'm gonna add my 2 paise to this............. Boy, dun make me whoop ur @$$.......... jus kiddin on this..... but seriously, this is what is makin u sad?............... :shock: Lemme clarify some stuff for u.......now this may sound harsh but I am gonna tell u the truth.........1st thing......ur 19, as SF said ( :yo: rite on bro....oohhhhhhhh jeeessssssss........ ) focus urself on ur studies and waheguru and the rest will fall in place. Dude, i'm way hella old and time is of the essence for me but I try not to worry as I have faith Waheguru (Sachay Pita) will arrange it for me. I know it's kinda hard to understand but trust me with time u will. Also as googlykaur ji mentioned, not all are like that. Not all are stereotypical though it seems like that. How do I know and say this? I have been to niteclubs, have done stuff that i'm not proud of but am back on track with waheguru's kirpa and meher and angels such as N30....................... :bow: who have helped me to realize that this world is nothing but a dirty pond and we gotta be like the lotus flower and rise above it. But not all gals are like that, I know some that are true angels and don't any of that stuff like clubbing n all but rather chill at home so it's unfair to say that as well as the fact that guys are the same. Not all guys are the same, but most are stereotyped to be sweet-talkers and will do anything "to get what they want".... :wink: Dude I am worse than you in the way that you feel but I do my paath (sukhmani sahib at minimum) to help me through my day. I got screwed by women (not in that sense.......... :roll: , come on peeps, get ur minds out the gutter........... ) but emotionally and have been hurt really bad but i am not thinkin bout suicide n stuff.....when i feel down or angered i usually go to the gym and take out my agression. I'm 28 man I should think about marriage n stuff (which I do) but i am jus waiting for the rite person. So here's my suggestion, first focus on your studies and make something of your life. Set some goals and go for them like the Sikh Sher that you are. Think of what u wanna do and be etc.....and go for it. 2) don't worry bout girls, they will come to you. be self-confident, honest, Just be yourself and watch. u will tell us all a different story in 6 months. 3) Put your trust and faith in waheguru and he will arrange your affairs for you. Whatever is destined will happen, just be and do good and watch the results. It is anand hii anand................. 8) Sorry if this sounds harsh but it's reality and the truth. I mean look at the latest tragedy, and yet we are sitting here thinking, "oh my i don't have this, have that etc........" The latest death toll of the earthquake caused tsunami is at 40,000 and we're cryin bout marriage......? gimme a break...... bro jus listen to everyone here and u'll know that we're here to help and not put u down. We all would like to see u smile...... and be happy. again, Bhul chuk maaf karna for the harsh reasoning. I apologize if it offended you in way. I did not mean it. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh......... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nectar Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 are u from india googli ji? Haanji from PUNJAB :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nectar Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 I said that most girl marry passports...just like most girls in the UK smoke and drink....i did not say all....so how am i stereotyping? Mr Orchid ...most girls in interior Punjab don't use their own will....they marry where their parents tell them not even ask them....Do u know there are about 15000 women waiting for their husbands to take them to their sasural....but those Men married them....fooled them...and are gone...and these women have nowhere to go....its easy to make this statement...that Most marry for passports....What about those CRUEL men who marry 3 or 4 times and leave these women ...to face the hell back here...in Punjab. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orchids Posted December 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 Mr Orchid ...most girls in interior Punjab don't use their own will....they marry where their parents tell them not even ask them....Do u know there are about 15000 women waiting for their husbands to take them to their sasural....but those Men married them....fooled them...and are gone...and these women have nowhere to go....its easy to make this statement...that Most marry for passports....What about those CRUEL men who marry 3 or 4 times and leave these women ...to face the hell back here...in Punjab. thats good..but u cant say all of them are good either... i said most girls are bad...not all... and...2 the guy who said all my problems were about marriage...my problems run deeper then this...my heart is torn out ripped 2 shred.. i cannot say what other problems are but they r very bad 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pheena Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 do you have family or friends that are very close you. TAlk to them, Share with them your problems. One cannot solve the problem unless he/she does not share with those who wish to help them. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orchids Posted December 28, 2004 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 my friends have backstabbed me... my family r busy ppl... i find it hard 2 talk much 2 them... that is why i am in need of a partner 2 confide in 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palm_w1 Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 Mr Orchid ...most girls in interior Punjab don't use their own will....they marry where their parents tell them not even ask them....Do u know there are about 15000 women waiting for their husbands to take them to their sasural....but those Men married them....fooled them...and are gone...and these women have nowhere to go....its easy to make this statement...that Most marry for passports....What about those CRUEL men who marry 3 or 4 times and leave these women ...to face the hell back here...in Punjab. i think this is a big problem. i also here of many people marrying in punjab who have no real interest in getting married and then abandoning there wives in this country. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beast Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 I know of 2 such victims. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palm_w1 Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 here=hear sorry, feeling thick! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palm_w1 Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 my friends have backstabbed me... my family r busy ppl... i find it hard 2 talk much 2 them... that is why i am in need of a partner 2 confide in have u tried talking to professionals. your universities councilling service, or a specialist nhs unit. to be honest its not always the case that your partner is going to be any better than your friends or family. don't think just getting a girl is gonna solve all ur problems. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pheena Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 my friends have backstabbed me... my family r busy ppl... i find it hard 2 talk much 2 them... that is why i am in need of a partner 2 confide in a point comes when everyone goes thru similar stages, feel not so depressed, Time heals all wounds. I've had friends back-stab me, i've had my family too busy that i couldn' really open up to them...but depression was not a problem, nor do i think you are depressed. You are just a very sensative person who is very emotional. There is nothing wrong with that, but remember emotions are like tidal waves the more you bottle them up the bigger they get and soon they come crashing down. So Release some stress by going to a gym. Physical exercise has been known to releive stress. Do not wait for someone to come and rescue you from your situatin. Find a solution yourself. Become confident in yourself. Turn the situation you are into something positive. Pray, do Padth, Sit in the Gurudwara and just silently alone. Remember "God Helps those who help themselvs. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nectar Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 my friends have backstabbed me... my family r busy ppl... i find it hard 2 talk much 2 them... that is why i am in need of a partner 2 confide in Try talking to Waheguru.... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nectar Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 http://www.sikhawareness.com/sikhawareness...opic.php?t=5962 read this...hopefully this helps 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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