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On 6/22/2020 at 12:23 AM, kdsingh80 said:
Muslim stalker murders Sikh girl in front of parents, days before her wedding: Ghaziabad
Sadly many Sikh's now these days think that Muslims are poor oppressed people in India while the reality is muslim guys are one worst culprits in crime against women and many of their victims are non muslim girls of all religions. Is this the sign of an oppressed community.
There is recent case of girl from Nankana Sahib converted to Islam. It is just very shocking.
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The preachers never talk a out it because they have no first-hand experience of it just like everything else they preach about. They are not bramgianies or advance souls. Their knowledge is all parrot fashion learning! They just repeat everything they have learned by rote in various different ways in various different times and venues. They never reflect on anything they learn that’s why they all come across as superficial unable to communicate a deeper understanding of Gurbani. Best is do your own reflections and meditations on what you learn yourself. This helps to expand your understanding and you are better able to make sense of the teachings.
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On 2/4/2020 at 11:17 PM, KIRNY25 said:
Hi guys. I am a non-amritdhari sikh woman. I used to cut my hair a lot before I met my husband who is amritdhari. When I met him we both instantly connected because we had similar values - both vegetarian, never had alcohol, didn't party and were close to family and believed in Waheguru. The only thing is that he was always more into sikhi than me. But he never asked me to change anything about myself besides stop eating eggs- which I did. So things got serious pretty fast, we fell in LOVE and I met his family who was really traditional, conservative and every member was an amrit dhari sikh. They even had the GGSJ in their house. Initially I felt like I am way too different, his fam is way more strict than mine in terms of religion and that I didn't fit in. I told my husband at the time and he said DW once they get to know you they will love you.
BUT they were so closed off for even getting to know who I was until I accepted their terms and conditions to stop cutting my hair. This was hard for me because I feel pressure from society and am personally really insecure about how I look and I want to look pretty. I want to feel pretty and that involves me wearing make up/cutting hair/doing eyebrows/shaving.....but to please his family I agreed. My husband also said you can cut it a bit but not a noticeable length and just don't let his parents find out. I agreed out of fear to this promise. And I always felt it was wrong for them to impose their views on me, but I also understood that I was not their "ideal daughter-in-law" who was amrit dhari, knew how to read punjabi and do kirtan. I continued growing my hair long until we got married, but always trimmed it a bit.
And let me tell you I was 21 when I agreed to start keeping my hair. I got married when I was 24 and now I just turned 25. it has been 6 months since we have been married and we moved away from home because of my husbands job. I don't live with my in-laws.
Recently I wanted to change my hair around. It has grown so long and it bothers me, its not comfortable for me to leave out or tie up, I just didn't feel pretty. Then my mother in law sent me a family video of relatives celebrating Lohri. That's when it clicked in my brain...when I saw all those relatives with hair cuts/highlights and really expressing themselves however they wanted to be, I decided that I AM GOING TO STOP PPL PLEASING. I told my husband that I am tired of all of this, I want his family to accept me for me. I know hair is a big deal to them but they should not define me based on my hair length. I just felt like everyone in this life is free to live on their own terms. Even his parents used to eat meat before they DECIDED to become amritdhari sikhs. IT WAS THEIR CHOICE. Why is that I do not have the freedom to make my own choice in this relationship????
My husband and I had a huge argument because I wanted to cut my hair and also highlight it. My family, mom, sisters - they all colour/cut their hair. His extended fam can also do the same. Why am I SO POLICED on this topic. I just don't understand why they can treat me this way. My husband got so mad at me and said that you are going against your word that you gave to my family. And i told him even you knew that I didn't willingly want to make that promise, I felt pressured to otherwise I would never have been able to see him. And he is the one who told me to just leave his family in the dark about me trimming my hair.
Either way, I have been really angry at him for not supporting me and his family for being so superficial. I am a kind person. Hair is not all that Sikhi is. Connecting to Waheguru is personal and every person should have the right to decide how they want to practice their religion. If I don't feel connected when I am keeping my hair and am simply keeping it out of fear so people accept me.....that is not a good reason.
Just today I highlighted and got my hair cut. My husband is super angry with me. I feel like if he is being so close-minded about this I feel like his parents are going to disown me. He should understand me and how I was raised. The family and background I come from. It's so hard feeling like people will disown you if you change something about yourself. I just want to live like a free woman.
Before I got married my family was strict in other ways (going out/hanging with friends/travelling) and they would say when you get married then do whatever you want.
Now I am married and have to do whatever my husband and his family want.
I just feel so trapped. Any advice? Did I do the right thing? I feel like I did because it makes me feel more confident in my own appearance and I want the freedom to make my own choices. If I decide to do something I want it to be based off of authenticity, not because someone forced/pressured me.
I appreciate all your thoughts.
If just by cutting your hair will make you feel confident in your life, it goes to prove you have nothing else in you to feel that confidence. In other words, you are a very insecure unsure about yourself kind of a person. I wonder why could he not marry someone more like himself?
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On 29/04/2017 at 0:33 PM, paapiman said:
Please listen to Gyani Inderjeet Singh jee Raqbewale narrating a sakhi, which illustrates how Saints can greatly assist a person.
Please start listening after 06:05 min:
Bhul chuk maaf
It is really true.
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Sikhs should not eat meat and that is what sikhi is all about.
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On 14/04/2009 at 6:59 PM, Matheen said:
Satnaam.info is the official site of the cult led by Narinder Grewal, the site is maintained by his chela - Harjit Lakhan. Just search for Grewal's name here, there was a lot said about him some years ago. They've dressed up the site and removed controversial material but it's all a trap.
Sarbloh has too many blatant lies to be taken seriously, some of them quite offensive to certain goups. Most of it is very poor 'research' but a few bits are ok.
Is he the one who claims to be receiving darshans of shiva and ram chander ji?
Bhai Desa Singh RehitNama
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No, there isn’t! It’s a myth constructed by the British and their European counterparts to sell meat and force those ruled to slaughter animals for their consumption. They have changed many aspects of Sikh, hindu and Jain information deliberately to suit their political agendas, nonstop. Hunting had to be practised by Khalsa Singhs and Singhnies to sharpen their warfare skills in the battles and not for their consumption.