JOYce

Think about life. When we were born, we came with

nothing. Naked we were born into this world. When we

die, we will leave with nothing too. We will not be

able to take our cars, houses, credit cards and other

material goods with us.

At our deathbed, though, one thing we will have with

us is our memories. Whether good or bad, they will all

have played their part in making us what we will be.

The tangible is temporary. But no one can take our

memories away from us. They make life truly memorable.

So let's make more everlasting sweet memories!

Life is a coin. You can spend it any way you wish, but

you can spend it only once.

Legal Liasioness

At the 1994 annual awards dinner given for Forensic

Science, AAFS President Dr Don Harper Mills astounded

his audience with the legal complications of a bizarre

death.

Here is the Case:

On March 23, 1994 the medical examiner viewed the body

of Ronald Opus and concluded that he died from a

shotgun wound to the head. Mr. Opus had jumped from

the top of a ten-story building intending to commit

suicide. He left a note to the effect indicating his

despondency .As he fell past the ninth floor his life

was interrupted by a shotgun blast passing through a

window, which killed him instantly.

Neither the shooter nor the deceased was aware that a

safety net had been installed just below the eighth

floor level to protect some building workers and that

Ronald Opus would not have been able to complete his

suicide the way he had planned.

"Ordinarily," Dr Mills continued, "A person, who sets

out to commit suicide and ultimately succeeds, even

though the mechanism might not be what he intended, is

still defined as committing suicide." That Mr. Opus

was shot on the way to certain death, but probably

would not have been successful because of the safety

net, caused the medical examiner to feel that he had a

homicide on his hands.

In the room on the ninth floor, where the shotgun

blast emanated, was occupied by an elderly man and his

wife. They were arguing vigorously and he was

threatening her with a shotgun. The man was so upset

that when he pulled the trigger he completely missed

his wife and the pellets went through

the window striking Mr. Opus. When one intends to kill

subject "A" but kills subject "B" in the attempt, one

is guilty of the murder of subject "B".

When confronted with the murder charge the old man and

his wife were both adamant and both said that they

thought the shotgun was unloaded. The old man said it

was a long-standing habit to threaten his wife with

the unloaded shotgun. He had no intention to murder

her.

Therefore the killing of Mr. Opus appeared to be an

accident; that is, if the gun had been accidentally

loaded. The continuing investigation turned up a

witness who saw the old couple's son loading the

shotgun about six weeks prior to the fatal accident.

It transpired that the old lady had cut off her son's

financial support and the son, knowing the propensity

of his father to use the shotgun threateningly, loaded

the gun with the expectation that his father would

shoot his mother.

Since the loader of the gun was aware of this, he was

guilty of the murder even though he didn't actually

pull the trigger. The case now becomes one of murder

on the part of the son for the death of Ronald Opus.

Now comes the exquisite twist. Further investigation

revealed that the son was, in fact, Ronald Opus. He

had become increasingly despondent over the failure of

his attempt to engineer his mother's murder. This led

him to jump off the ten-story building on March 23rd,

only to be killed by a shotgun blast passing through

the ninth story window. The son had actually murdered

himself, so the medical examiner closed the case as a

suicide.

(A true story from Associated Press, Reported by Kurt

Westervelt)

Best Moments in Life

To fall in love.

To laugh until it hurts your stomach.

To find mails by the thousands when you return of the vacations.

To manage for a vacation with UR loved one at some pretty place.

To listen to your favorite song in the radio.

To go to bed and to listen while it rains out.

To leave the shower and find that the towel is warm.

To clear your last exam.

To receive a call from someone, you don't see a lot, but you want to.

A good conversation.

To find money in a pant that you didn't use last year.

To laugh at oneself.

Calls at the midnight that last for hours.

To laugh without reasons.

To hear accidentally that somebody says something good of you.

To wake up and realize it is still possible to sleep a couple of hours.

To hear a song that makes you remember a special reason.

To be part of a team.

The first kiss.

To make new friends.

To feel butterflies in the stomach every time that you see that person.

To pass a while with your best friends.

To see people that you like, feeling happy.

To use a sweater of the person that you like.

See an old friend again and to feel that the things didn't change.

To look at an evening.

To have somebody that tells you that he/she loves you

Its UR message Read IT or Leave it

'n' They Said

If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for everything.

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. That is where they should be. Now put the foundation under them. -- Henry David Thoreau --

Kites rise highest against the wind; not with it. -- Sir Winston Churchill --

You cannot raise a man up by calling him down.

-- William Boetcker --

Leadership is doing what is right when no one is

watching.

-- George Van Valkenburg --

You can discover more about a person in an hour of

play than in a year of conversation.

-- Plato --

Life is like a dogsled team. If you ain't the lead

dog, the scenery never changes.

-- Lewis Grizzard --

Don't ever take a fence down until you know why it was

put up.

-- Robert Frost --

When you are right, you cannot be too radical; When

you are wrong, you cannot be too conservative.

-- Martin Luther King, Jr --

Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory

banks of our children.

-- Charles R. Swindoll --

Good is not good where better is expected.

-- Thomas Fuller --

I don't like that man. I must get to know him better.

-- Abraham Lincoln --

Deal with the faults of others as gently as with your

own.

-- Chinese Proverb --

A successful person is one who can lay a firm

foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or

her.

-- David Brinkley --

Argue for your limitations and sure enough they're

yours.

-- Richard Bach --

Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you

get there.

-- Josh Billings --

Constant dripping hollows out a stone.

-- Lucretius --

A man always have two reasons for doing anything; a

good reason and the real reason.

-- John Pierpont Morgan --

Say nothing good of yourself, you will be distrusted;

say nothing bad of yourself, you will be taken at your

word.

-- Joseph Roux --

We see things not as they are, but as we are.

-- H. M. Tomlinson --

The whole secret of life is to be interested in one

thing profoundly and in a thousand things well.

-- Hugh Walpole --

The eyes of other people are the eyes that ruin us. If

all but myself were blind, I should not want neither

fine clothes, fine houses, nor fine furniture.

-- Benjamin Franklin --

Income these days is something you cannot live without

or within.

-- Anonymous --

Spoon feeding in the long run teaches us nothing but

the shape of the spoon.

-- E. M. Forster --

The brighter you are, the more you have to learn.

-- Don Herold --

Don't dwell on reality; it will only keep you from

greatness.

-- Rev. Randall R. McBride, Jr. --

Be true to your work, your word, and your friend.

-- Henry David Thoreau --

Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say,

abstains from giving wordy evidence of the fact.

-- George Eliot --

In matter of principle, stand like a rock; in matters

of taste, swim with the current.

-- Thomas Jefferson --

Nothing is a greater impediment to being on good terms

with others than being at ill ease with yourself.

-- Balzac --

Too many people don't care what happens so long as it

doesn't happen to them.

-- William Howard Taft --

You can only live once, but if you live right, once is

enough.

-- Joe E. Lewis --

What we see depends mainly on what we look for.

-- John Lubbock --

I have never had a policy. I have simply tried to do

what seemed best each day, as each day came.

-- Abraham Lincoln --

Always do right; this will gratify some people and

astonish the rest. -- Mark Twain --

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

-- Theodore Roosevelt --

Genius is one percent inspiration and 99 percent

perspiration.

-- Thomas Edison --

Life consists not in holding good cards, but in

playing those you hold well.

-- Josh Billings --

The tragedy of life is not that a man loses, but that

he almost wins.

-- Heywood Brown --

There is more to life than increasing its speed.

-- Gandhi --

And in the end it's not the years in your life that

count. It's the life in your years.

-- Abraham Lincoln --

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not

an act, but a habit.

-- Aristotle --

Success is that old ABC -- ability, breaks, and

courage.

-- Charles Luckman --

The price of greatness is responsibility.

-- Winston Churchill --

Wisdom begins in wonder.

-- Socrates --

It is not the length of life, but the depth of life.

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson --

Courage is the price that life exacts for granting

peace.

-- Amelia Earhart --

It is a mistake to try to look too far ahead.

The chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a

time.

-- Sir Winston Churchill --

Patience, persistence and perspiration make an

unbeatable combination for success.

-- Napolean Hill --

Vision without action is a daydream, Action without

vision is a nightmare.

-- Japanese Proverb --

Courage is the mastery of fear, not the absence of

fear.

-- Mark Twain --

Common sense is the knack of seeing things as they are, and doing things as they ought to be done.

-- Harriet Beecher Stowe --

He's no failure. He's not dead yet. -- William Lloyd George --

Every day do something that will inch you closer to a

better tomorrow.

-- Doug Firebaugh --

Without involvement, there is no commitment. Mark it

down, asterisk it, circle it, underline it. No

involvement, no commitment.

-- Stephen Covey --

Beware of rashness, but with energy and sleepless

vigilance go forward and give us victories.

-- Abraham Lincoln --

Hope is a waking dream. -- Aristotle --

It is better to be making the news than taking it; to

be an actor rather than a critic.

-- Winston Churchill --

Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.

-- Benjamin Franklin --

Arise, awake, stop not till the goal is reached. -- Swami Vivekananda --

Unless a person has trained himself for his chance, the chance will only make him ridiculous. A great occasion is worth to man exactly what his preparation

enables him to make of it. -- J.B. Matthews --

The heights by great men reached and kept Were not attained by sudden flight But they while their companions slept Were toiling upwards in the night.

-- Longfellow --

Its UR Life Use it ot Lose It.

You Know

We have exploited the poor and called it "the lottery";

We have rewarded laziness and called it "welfare";

We have killed our unborn and called it "choice"

We have shot abortionists and called it "justifiable";

We have neglected to discipline our children and called it "building self-esteem";

We have abused power and called it "politics";

We have coveted our neighbor's possessions and called it "ambition";

We have polluted the air with profanity and pornography and called it "freedom of expression";

We have ridiculed the time-honored values of our forefathers and Called it "enlightenment".

So vat u recommend to improve the situation Dear ?

You cannot raise a man up by calling him down.

-- William Boetcker --

LIFE AS A JUGGLER

In a university commencement address several years

ago, Brian

Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises, spoke of the

relation of work to

one's other commitments: "Imagine life as a game in

which you are juggling

some five balls in the air. You name them - work,

family, health,

friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these

in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball.

If you

drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls

- family, health,

friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop

one of these, they will

be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or

even

shattered. They will never be the same.

You must understand that and strive for balance in

your life.

How?

-Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with

others.

It is because we are different that each of us is

special.

-Don't set your goals by what other people deem

important. Only

you know what is best for you.

-Don't take for granted the things closest to your

heart. Cling

to them as you would your life, for without them, life

is meaningless.

-Don't let your life slip through your fingers by

living in the

past or for the future. By living your life one day

at a time, you

live ALL the days of your life

-Don't give up when you still have something to give.

Nothing

is really over until the moment you stop trying.

-Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than

perfect. It is

this fragile thread that binds us to each other.

-Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking

chances

that we learn how to be brave.

-Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's

impossible to

find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the

fastest way to

lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way

to keep love is to

give it wings.

-Don't run through life so fast that you forget Not

only where

you've been, but also where you are going.

-Don't forget, a person's greatest emotional need is

to feel

appreciated.

-Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a

treasure

you can always carry easily.

-Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be

retrieved.

-Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each

step of the way.

Abraham Lincoln

Probably the greatest example of persistence is

Abraham Lincoln. If you want to learn about somebody

who didn’t quit, look no further.

Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat

throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice

failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.

He could have quit many times - but he didn’t and

because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest

presidents in the history of our country.

Lincoln was a champion and he never gave up. Here is a

sketch of Lincoln’s road to the White House:

1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had

to work to support them.

1818 His mother died.

1831 Failed in business.

1832 Ran for state legislature - lost.

l832 Also lost his job - wanted to go to law school

but couldn’t get in.

1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a

business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt.

He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this

debt.

1834 Ran for state legislature again - won.

1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and

his heart was broken.

1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for

six months.

1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature

- defeated.

1840 Sought to become elector - defeated.

1843 Ran for Congress - lost.

1846 Ran for Congress again - this time he won - went

to Washington and did a good job.

1848 Ran for re-election to Congress - lost.

1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state

-rejected.

1854 Ran for Senate of the United States - lost.

1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his

party’s national convention - get less than 100 votes.

1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again - again he lost.

1860 Elected president of the United States.

MORAL: NEVER NEVER NEVER GIVES UP

The Power Of Positive Thinking

Norman Vincent Peale

A man once telephoned Norman Vincent Peale. He was

despondent and told the reverend that

he had nothing left to live for. Peale invited the man

over to his office. "Everything is gone,

hopeless," the man told him. "I'm living in deepest

darkness. In fact, I've lost heart for living

altogether."

The famous author of The Power of Positive Thinking

smiled sympathetically.

"Let's take a look at your situation," he said calmly.

On a sheet of paper he drew a vertical line

down the middle. He suggested that they list on the

left side the things the man had lost, and on

the right, the things he had left. "You won't need

that column on the right side," said the man

sadly. "I have nothing left, period."

Peale asked, "When did your wife leave you?"

"What do you mean? She hasn't left me. My wife loves

me!"

"That's great!" said Peale enthusiastically. "Then

that will be number one in the right-hand

column—Wife hasn't left. Now, when were your children

jailed?"

"That's silly. My children aren't in jail!"

"Good! That's number two in the right-hand

column—Children not in jail," said Peale, jotting it

down.

After a few more questions in the same vein, the man

finally got the point and smiled in spite of

himself. "Funny, how things change when you think of

them that way," he said.

It is to good to be comment upon...

SO

NO COMMENTS

Hey buddies i love that guy with also Jacki Chan and Van Damm..... Love to watch them all the time..

I m fully appriciate that we cant force anyone to be aware about not only Sikhi but any topic if he/she dosnt have any interest. It is a matter of ones own state of mind.

But while talking about the other issue as u said that

............ ghetto wannabe would want to give up his girlfriend, clubbing lifestyle and cigarettes just to live the ..........

dear sit a while n ask yourself that who is responsible for such a situation. No my dear it is not that guy/gal who is responsible it is our environment, our culture @ home our moral values which we got from our elders.

Life give U everything which we all expect from it. No matter it is a sip of Cigar or amitation with Sri Sukhmani Sahib

SSA

PLANNING

Planning Brings Your Future Into Present

It isn't enough just to want something.

You've got to ask yourself,

"What am I going to do to get the things that I want."

You're going to need a plan.

Your problem is to bridge the gap which exists

between where you are right now

and the goals that you want to reach.

With a definite, step by step plan, you cannot fail,

because each step will carry you along to the next

step, like a track.

All you need is the plan, the road map,

and the courage to press on to your destination.

Knowing where you're going is all you need to get

there.

You can't get lost on a straight road.

Everyone Needs Someone

People need people and friends need friends And we all need love for a full life depends

Not on vast riches or great acclaim, Not on success or on worldly fame,

But just in knowing that someone cares And holds us close in their thoughts and prayers-

For only the knowledge that we're understood Makes everyday living feel wonderfully good, And we rob ourselves of life's greatest need When we "lock up our hearts" and fail to heed The outstretched hand reaching to find A kindred spirit whose heart and mind

Are lonely and longing to somehow share

Our joys and sorrows and to make us aware

That life's completeness and richness depends

On the things we share with our loved ones

and friends.

The ultimate motivator is defeat. Once you are

defeated, you have nowhere to go except the top.

Then only thing stopping you is yourself.

There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come. So do

it today.

Intentions don't count, but action's do.

Don't let who you are, stunt what you want to be.

Success is the greatest motivator.

Your goals must be clear, but the guidelines must be flexible.

I have a question lalleshvari ji...... you said "I personally don't mind any ceremony as long as the lavan are recited. The Nirankari type of mariage was quite a new thing actually and only became a norm after 1909. Apart from the Namdharis there is also mention of havan in mariage ceremonies of the Nihangs. "

1) Mind telling us here in which book or granth is says that that "nirankari type" of marriage became a norm?? any quote?

2) where can i find the informaiton about NIHUNG marriage where havan is mentionned??? any quote?

thankx.

Sorry to intrupt UR discussion. But friends i have a different appoarch towards wedding ceremonies. I think it does not matter in which religion, caste or class u belong the basic idea behind all those arrangements is only to have such ceremonies in the presence of great GOD.

It might be in Hinuism style i:e: HAVAN presence

It might be in Sikhism styled i:e: Sri Guru Granth Sahib

.

.

.

.

.

It might be in Westren styled i:e: In Holy Church

Sat Sri Akal:

Hindu: Sardarji, Barah Baj Gaye!!!

Sikh: Bhai Sahib Ji, Je Barah Na Bajde, ta Hinduan Di Ghari Bahut Daer Toh Rook Jandee!

Exactly

Sorry genteman,

I thing u hadnt read what i want to be discuss about in this thread. I m not talking about any cate or creed question, but i m talking about the basic moral values regarding spiritual values between our Gen X and i dont thing this must require any additional space for knowledge which we want to impart to our childrens.

I think it should be a part of extra curricular activities. U cant force anyone to learn the subject if that buddy dont like to do so. Or does ot possible.

One more thing i had nowhere mention any reference regarding state or culture here anywhere.

Friend in Wait

Do U done something for UR friend which u can if not hit the sack

http://www.sikhawareness.com/sikhawareness...t=2547&start=15

Cost of Attitude

Dara liked school until Kim Li came. She didn't like Ms. Royson saying, "It's great how well you're learning English, Kim Li." Kim Li's English wasn't that great.

Dara turned away when Ms. Royson asked, "Kim Li, would you like to sit here? Dara won't mind." Kim Li smiled and said, "Yes." Before Dara moved to a new seat she whispered, "Kim Li, you're too tall to sit up front. I can't see Ms. Royson.

Move! I want my seat!"

Kim Li kept smiling. "My father too tall. He tall American."

"Kim Li, you talk funny. Yuck!"

"Now, Dara," said Ms. Royson as she stood beside Kim Li's desk, "we all want new students to feel welcome, don't we?" And that very afternoon Ms. Royson asked, "Kim Li, would you dust the erasers for me?"

As Kim Li did Dara's jobs, she asked Dara, "I do right?"

"No," said Dara, but Ms. Royson said, "You're doing just great."

"Don't play with Kim Li the Great," Dara told everyone at recess. Other children began to chant: "Kim Li the Great! Kim Li the Great!"

Kim Li said, "Thank you," and smiled and hung jackets on the top hooks that were too hard to reach. After school, Dara added more words to the chant: "Down with Kim Li the Great!"

The next day, Timmy pushed Kim Li really hard against the game box, and said, "Down with Kim Li!"

Ms. Royson came over. "Here, here! Kim Li needs to choose."

Dara said, "Don't you choose the big blue ball, Kim Li!"

Kim Li picked an ordinary jump rope. "Thank you. I like jump."

"Kim Li sure talks funny," Dara said loudly. Everyone laughed. Then someone noticed Kim Li doing "hot peppers" with her jump rope. Kickball was forgotten. Everyone watched Kim Li do crisscrosses. And double crisscrosses! Kim Li said, "This fun doing."

Dara shouted, "Kim Li the Great, you're a show-off!" Everyone laughed so hard that Ms.Royson came running. "What happened?"

"I talk more badder. I try. Everybody laugh."

Ms. Royson's face tightened. "Recess is over. Back inside." Dara smiled and put her arms around two friends. Kim Li was not included.

Kim Li didn't know that every Friday was fire drill, room art and sharing day. Good thing; she would have come with something great.

At the next recess, Dara did her grandest somersaults, forward and backward. Kim Li did them while running. "We be friends?" she asked.

Dara thought she might quit school...until Ms. Royson said, "Dara, if you don't mind skipping workbooks, we need our mural finished." Dara didn't mind at all. When Kim Li came to help color the big mural, Dara was way too busy to get up and leave --- or even argue. Br-r-r-ring-ing-ing! It was the firebell. Quickly, quietly, Dara joined the line to walk outside in an orderly way. Where was Kim Li?

"For goodness sake, Kim Li, that's the fire bell!" She pulled her hand and didn't let go until they got outside. Kim Li threw both arms around Dara and yelled, "Dara save my life. Dara the Great!"

Everyone started laughing and dancing around the playground, chanting: "Dara the Great!"

"It was only a fire drill," said Dara.

"Will you teach me to do criss-crosses?" she asked Kim Li.

"I help you," Kim Li said.

"Say 'I will help you'," whispered Dara to her new friend.

Kim Li said, "You will help me. I will help you."

For days they helped each other and when Ms. Royson said, "Kim Li, you're picking up English so quickly," Dara was pleased. She thought she might even do crisscrosses during sharing time. But Kim Li got up first, smiling. Finally, she spoke. "I have good good friend. Dara!"

Dara didn't correct Kim Li. She let it go. Just this once.

Berniece Rabe

Farmer's Donkey

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well.The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally he decided the animal was old and the well needed to be covered up anyway, it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.

So he invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first,the donkey realised what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement, he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw.

With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.

As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!

Moral: Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick

to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up!

Hey RUPZ,

I never observe such things so closely But i think u have a good question.

Let me go for a small survay for this to decide before something.

K

if we cant do a lot for a friends we are always there to do the small vat we can do....

Here is the example ..........Vat U say

One cold evening during the holiday season, a little boy about six or seven was standing out in front of a store window. The little child had no shoes on and his clothes were mere rags. A young woman passing by saw the little boy and could read the longing in his pale blue eyes. She took the child by the hand and led him into the store. There she bought him new shoes and a complete suit of warm clothing.

They came back outside into the street and the woman said to the child, “Now you can go home and have a very happy holiday.”

The little boy looked up at her and asked, “are you God, Ma’am?”

She smiled down at him and replied, “No son, I’m just one of His children.”

The little boy then said, “I knew you had to be some relation.”