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  7. GOD?

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    The Humble Sikhi

    One big company was hiring new staff, the question of the written exam is:

    you are driving a car on one big storm night, you are passing a station, there are three people who are waiting for the bus; one old lady who is dying, one doctor who saved your life before, one guy/lady who is someone you have been dreaming to be with. You can only take one passenger, which one you will choose?

    Please explain your reason.

    Think about it before you read the following

    I am not sure whether it is some kind of personality test, since every answer has its reason. One lady is going to die, you should save her first, however, one people always end up dying anyway, you should take the doctor, because the doctor saved my life before, this is the perfect chance to pay him back. At the same time, some people believe that you can always pay the doctor back in the future, but you may never be able to find the perfect lover once you pass this chance.

    What do you think? A great answer, right?

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    Within the two hundred candidates, the one who has been hired did not explain his answer, he only simply stated that " give the car key to the doctor, let the doctor take the old lady to the hospital and I stay to wait for the bus with the lady of my dream!"

    I always tell my friends this story as a joke, and I realize that everyone I know think the above answer is the best answer, but there is no one (including myself) can think of this answer first. Is that because we never want to give up any advantage we held in our hands (the car key)? Sometimes, we would gain more if we were able to give up our stubborn, limitation, and advantage.

    Exactly The is the spirit of Sikhi TO GIVE

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  10. Can U Adapt this

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    His HighNess

    Today, fathers will open presents of cologne, ties, golf balls, pens and books.

    But Teju Srivastav is simply grateful for the simple blessing of being a part of his child's life, everyday, for 12 years.

    It could have been different, as 13 years ago, his marriage crumbled and he and his wife separated. They retained joint custody. And his daughter Karuna has lived with him since she was three-years-old. Considering that he was only the third person in New Jersey to get legal and physical joint custody, it was both an achievement and relief.

    "What I would like to do this Father's Day, is not focus so much on gifts and meals, but retake the pledge I took 12 years ago. This time, I will have to take advantage of the fact that now my child can understand and really appreciate that pledge, and find a way to communicate it to her, so that when my child grows up I can be proud to say 'she grew up just like me'," said Srivastav, 45, who lives and works in Piscataway, New Jersey, as a CEO of the Internet portal dakhanna.com

    He immigrated to the US as a student 25 years ago from New Delhi.

    He quotes, from a song by Harry Chapin, Cats and the cradle, whose opening lines go, "My child arrived just the other day, He came to the world in the usual way. But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay. He learned to walk while I was away. And he was talking 'fore I knew it, and as he grew, He'd say, "I'm gonna be like you, dad. You know I'm gonna be like you.''

    Parenthood, experts say, is an acquired skill in the fast-paced, ever-changing world. And Srivastav agrees.

    "Unfortunately, marriages crumble, jobs and businesses take over. Like many before me and many I am sure after me, I have been guilty of "catching planes and paying bills" and not spending as much time as I would have liked with my child. Also as the years are going by, I am beginning to realize that my daughter is growing up faster than I anticipated," Srivastav said.

    Today, Srivastav says it's relatively easy to be a father.

    "It was a lot of hard work when she was younger. I had to cook, clean, bathe and do everything for her. Over the years, it grew easier and easier," he said.

    Narain Bhatia, CEO and president of asianmatches.com Inc and suitablematch.com estimates that of the total Indian American population -- which stands at 1,678,765 according to the 2000 census -- about six per cent marriages end in divorce.

    "The main reason for divorce is the mismatch of personalities, conflict due to identity crisis, which means Indians tend to be 'eastern' in India and change to 'western' outside, and finally they have no access to proper guidance/advice, which helps them resolve conflicts," Bhatia said.

    "In some marriages, people want everything; they want horoscopes to match and yet they want a modern spouse. Or they want someone from their caste and still want her to be contemporary. That's why things go wrong."

    Srivastav has advice for single dads who do not have custody: "Never give up on your kids just because your ex-wife makes it difficult to see them," he said.

    The biggest casualty of divorce is the child. And the children are often used as pawns in the battle between estranged spouses.

    "The impact of divorce on Indian children is just as devastating on the child as in any other divorce. We work with many families and we always tell both spouses that they have to keep the interest of the child ahead of their own differences," said Dr Ravi Sarma, who lives and works in Atlanta.

    An example is Ajay, who was married with two kids. He spent a decade commuting between Manhattan and his home in New Jersey everyday, putting in long hours, all days of the week. His marriage became one in name only, because his wife could not understand his need to advance in Wall Street.

    However, his colleague did and a close relationship developed between them, leading him to ask his wife for a divorce. It was bitterly given. He got visitation rights.

    But when he would turn up on Friday evening, she would insist he was late and refuse to allow him to see the kids. After heated arguments, one of them would call the cops to intervene. After months of this, she picked up the kids and moved to Texas. He still left early on Fridays and flew there to see his kids.

    She continued to bicker about his being late.

    Finally, he stopped visiting. It's been seven years since he has seen his kids.

    Srivastav knows he is one of the lucky ones. And he analyses what Father's Day means to him.

    "As I reflect upon this, I go back to the warm June morning 12 years ago when my daughter was born.

    No amount of preparation can actually prepare you for the moment when you first hold your child in your arms. The feeling of love is so overpowering and the promises that you make to your child at that time, knowing that they are more promises to yourself," he said.

    "A promise to love and cherish this tiny creature, a promise to care and provide for this tiny creature, and perhaps most important, a promise to become a role model, so that she can grow up to be a human being who is happy, content and fulfilled."

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  13. NEVA ARGUE WITH A CHILD

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    Few from Me....

    A small boy wrote to Santa Claus : " Send me a brother "

    Santa wrote back : " Send me your mother "

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    Child enters kitchen and opens the sugar box. Sees inside and closes it.

    His Mother observes the whole episode

    Again he comes and does the same stuff.

    Mother asks : Why are you doing this?

    Child replies: Mother Docter told to check sugar level regularly

    :wink:

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  17. Success Orientation

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    Never Mess up with the Judge

    There were three men at a bar. One man got drunk and started a fight

    with the other two men. The police came and took the drunk guy to

    jail. The next day the man went before the judge. The judge asked the

    man, "Where do you work?"

    The man said, "Here and there."

    The judge asked the man, "What do you do for a living?"

    The man said, "This and that."

    The judge then said, "Take him away."

    The man said, "Wait, judge when will I get out?"

    The judge said to the man, "Sooner or later.”

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  19. Formal Education N Sikhism Awareness

    in Formal Debates & Discussions

    Posted

    I've read your post three times over and over...

    Not a single thing made sense to me....

    You or anyone help out please..

    Hey Rupy dear,Sorry. i cant do anything if u not understand vat i mean coz i already used simple language / vocab to express myself.

    On the other hand giani_g i dont mean only the behaviour of childs parants will influence upon the reactions or character of one child. It is environment my dear fellow. It is the whole environment which does so , i made some stress on parants coz those are the nearmost members to whom one should have to be in contact most of the time @ their early ages of life.

    One more thing there is not only the question of cigar or drinks which are resultant habits even every action of that creature will symbolize the upbringing of his/her, symbolizes the atmosphare of his/her. For example it will be his/her dressing sense, social ettiquates, his/her performance results in acedemic or in other extra curricular activities, his/her interests, his/her priorities n all those etc.

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  20. Great Personality Says

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    When you truly care for someone,

    you don't look for faults,

    you don't look for answers,

    you don't look for mistakes.

    Instead,

    you fight the mistakes,

    you accept the faults,

    and you overlook excuses.

    So Never abandon an old friend. You will never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

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  22. Life : Our Relations N US

    in General Discussion

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    FRIENDSHIP GARDEN

    Life is like a garden

    And friendship like a flower,

    That blooms and grows in beauty

    With the sunshine and the shower.

    And lovely are the blossoms

    That are tended with great care,

    By those who work unselfishly

    To make the place more fair.

    And, like the garden blossoms,

    Friendship's flower grows more sweet

    When watched and tended carefully

    By those we know and meet.

    And, if the seed of friendship

    Is planted deep and true

    And watched with understanding,

    Friendship's flower will bloom for you.

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  23. Formal Education N Sikhism Awareness

    in Formal Debates & Discussions

    Posted

    I really liked what someone said on this board once.." Your parents only set up the foundation for your future..it is up to child - to build upon that foundation" ...

    .....................self - ..Your parents can be the hardcorest desis in the world - but it doesn't do anything in the end -You can only put a certain amount of influence in a child. ..The brain is still of the child..The decisions and choice he/she makes depends on its brain.

    Meanwhile, "AkhiyaN OtheY LaYeo JithE Mah PEh DI IzzAT HOvEY"...

    :wink: :wink:

    Sorry Fair lady,

    I M not a little bit agree with UR viewpoint of distingusing childs behaviour as east or West categories. This is purely Human Psycology which will determine to make someones character. It dosnt mean UR in East or West. I will show U the Total Quality People in both of the regions and vice versa. Which are only the coz of proper mental breeding to them. This is the environment of UR home (first of all) which is the class room of UR child.

    This is conversation between father-monther.

    This is their(father n mothers) behavior to their parants (if any),

    This is their(father n mothers) behavior to their friends, their reletives, This is their(father n mothers) behavior to their subordinates

    This is their(father n mothers) behavior to their negihbourhood

    and all those concerned.

    This is how much true and lies they are talking before child.

    Does they drink

    Does they smoke.

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    List is endless. All such minor things are deceicive factors my dear.

    School, Collage and the outer world is the second most learning place for a child.

    The principle of GARBAGE IN GARBAGE OUT, has the cent percent implementation on making ones character. I m asking to you why the situations for 'SHUT UP' AND 'DONT TALK ME THAT WAY' will arise.

    This is the foundation my dear if it is solid their is no such whirlpools which can dissolve that foundation so easy.

    I totaly appriciate Ur thinking regarding enforcing someone to do something or vice versa. This is not tha way to mend the things and situations. One must have to be familier. A carrort is more effective then stick, and this is now also proven by human psycologists.

    Sometime Freedom is more required then the boundries or discipline.

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  25. Success Orientation

    in Inspirational Stories | Sakhia

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    For MANAGEMENT ASPIRENTS

    Once PVNR (PV Narasimha Rao), L.K. Advani and Laloo

    Prasad Yadav were travelling in an auto rickshaw.

    They met with an accident and all three of them died.

    Yama was waiting for this moment at the doorstep of

    death. He asks PVNR and Advani to go to HEAVEN.

    But, for Laloo, Yama had already decided that he

    should be sent to HELL. Laloo is not at all happy

    with this decision.

    He asks Yama as to why this discrimination is being

    made. All the three of them had served the public.

    Similarly, all took bribes, all misused public

    positions, etc. Then why the differential treatment?

    He felt that there should be a formal test or an

    objective evaluation before a decision is made; and

    should not be just based on opinion or preconceived

    notions. Yama agrees to this and asks all the three

    of them to appear for an English test.

    1] PVNR is asked to spell "INDIA" and he does it

    correctly.

    Advani is asked to spell "ENGLAND" and he too passes.

    It is Laloo's turn and he is asked to spell

    "CZECHOSLOVAKIA".

    Laloo protests that he doesn't know English. He says

    this is not

    fair and that he was given a tough question and thus

    forced to fail

    with false intent.

    Yama then agrees to conduct a written test in Hindi

    (to give another

    chance assuming that Laloo should at least feel that

    Hindi would

    provide

    an equal platform for all three).

    2] PVNR is asked to write "KUTTA BOLA BHOW BHOW". He

    writes it

    easily and passes.

    Advani is asked to write "BILLY BOLI MYAUN MYAUN".

    He too passes.

    Laloo is asked to write "BANDAR BOLA GRRRRRR....."

    Tough one. He

    fails

    again.

    Laloo is extremely unhappy.

    Having been a student of history (which the other two

    weren't), he

    now

    requested for all the 3 to be subjected to a test in

    hi! story Yama

    says OK

    but this would be the last chance and that he would

    not take any more

    tests.

    3] PVNR is asked: "When did India get

    Independence?".He replied

    "1947" and

    passed.

    Advani is asked "How many people died during the

    independence

    struggle?"

    He gets nervous. Yama asked him to choose from 3

    options: 100,000 or

    200,000 or

    300,000.Advani catches it and says 200,000 and

    passes.

    It's Laloo's turn now.Yama asks him to give the Name

    and Address of

    each

    of the 200,000 who died in the independence

    struggle. Laloo accepts

    defeat

    and agrees to go to HELL.

    Moral of the story :

    IF YOUR MANAGEMENT HAS DECIDED TO SCREW YOU, THERE IS

    NO ESCAPE.

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