rps_son_narayan

Dear Veer,

I am sorry to hear about the difficult times you are going through in your life and may Waheguru bless you with good times away from the troubles of day to day life. Like yourself my life is also going through some difficult times and like you I also question, why me? Am I being tested? Even my own mother will ring me up and tell me I'm having an examination from Waheguru and to be honest I don't find those kind of remarks very consoling. Why this parakh/examination? Are they saying the problems we are going through are temporary and waheguru will eventually have pity and wave a magic wand and they will be taken away or are we being tested whether we accept the bad times and remember him. It is only natural when no one else can help you that one turns to the Creator because the only hope left for anyone is him and his prayer. It is easier if one is already doing some kind prayer before hand otherwise people can really drown in all the pain and suffering.

I was listening to a mahapursh only a few days ago he said something that sparked a light within me when I too was drowning in this life and finding it all too difficult to deal with and cope. The worry, stress and difficulties I was going through were starting to take there toll on my own health and I could see myself going downhill. I will share his teaching with you hoping that it sheds some light in your path in the times of darkness.

He said when we wake up in the morning we can choose what clothes we want to wear. One item of clothing is Sukh and the other is Dukh. These are not clothes in the literal sense but clothes we choose to put on our mind. We can either let our mind run free and be engulfed in all the day to day troubles, stresses, worries, anxieties hence wearing the kapra of dukh, or we can bring the mind into some control and focus it on the remembrance of Waheguru. Therefore not giving it time to be occupied by negative thoughts which cause us problems. By dedicating more time to this marg your mind will be given less time to be affected by the troubles and with guru's grace they won't seem so bad and you will sail through these trying times. That is the key difference between a Gurmukh and a Manmukh.

I then took it one step further a did a search for the word "dukh" in Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji and you will see the same guidance coming through. Below are a few pangti's that emphasize this very approach. I hope it helps you dear brother.

hukmee utam neech hukam likh dukh sukh paa-ee-ah.

By His Command, some are high and some are low; by His Written Command, pain and pleasure are obtained.

gaavee-ai sunee-ai man rakhee-ai bhaa-o.

Sing, and listen, and let your mind be filled with love.

dukh parhar sukh ghar lai jaa-ay.

Your pain shall be sent far away, and peace shall come to your home.

gurmukh naadaN gurmukh vaydaN gurmukh rahi-aa samaa-ee.

The Guru's Word is the Sound-current of the Naad; the Guru's Word is the Wisdom of the Vedas; the Guru's Word is all-pervading.

man bairaagee ghar vasai sach bhai raataa ho-ay.

If the mind becomes balanced and detached, and comes to dwell in its own true home, imbued with the Fear of God,

gi-aan mahaaras bhogvai baahurh bhookh na ho-ay.

then it enjoys the essence of supreme spiritual wisdom; it shall never feel hunger again.

too daree-aa-o daanaa beenaa mai machhulee kaisay ant lahaa.

You are the River, All-knowing and All-seeing. I am just a fish-how can I find Your limit?

jah jah daykhaa tah tah too hai tujh tay niksee foot maraa. ||1||

Wherever I look, You are there. Outside of You, I would burst and die. ||1||

na jaanaa may-o na jaanaa jaalee.

I do not know of the fisherman, and I do not know of the net. (Reference here to troubles effecting the mind)

jaa dukh laagai taa tujhai samaalee. ||1|| rahaa-o.

But when the pain comes, then I call upon You. ||1||Pause||

too bharpoor jaani-aa mai door.

You are present everywhere. I had thought that You were far away.

manmukh mohi vi-aapi-aa bairaag udaasee na ho-ay.

The self-willed manmukhs are engrossed in emotional attachment; they are not balanced or detached.

sabad na cheenai sadaa dukh har dargahi pat kho-ay.

They do not comprehend the Word of the Shabad. They suffer in pain forever, and lose their honor in the Court of the Lord.

ha-umai gurmukh kho-ee-ai naam ratay sukh ho-ay. ||1||

The Gurmukhs shed their ego; attuned to the Naam, they find peace.

gurmukh sadaa sohaaganee pir raakhi-aa ur Dhaar.

The Gurmukh is the happy and pure soul-bride forever. She keeps her Husband Lord enshrined within her heart.

mithaa boleh niv chaleh sayjai ravai bhataar.

Her speech is sweet, and her way of life is humble. She enjoys the Bed of her Husband Lord.

sobhaavantee sohaaganee jin gur kaa hayt apaar. ||2||

The happy and pure soul-bride is noble; she has infinite love for the Guru. ||2||

poorai bhaag satgur milai jaa bhaagai kaa ud-u ho-ay.

By perfect good fortune, one meets the True Guru, when one's destiny is awakened.

antrahu dukh bharam katee-ai sukh paraapat ho-ay.

Suffering and doubt are cut out from within, and peace is obtained.

gur kai bhaanai jo chalai dukh na paavai ko-ay. ||3||

One who walks in harmony with the Guru's Will shall not suffer in pain. ||3||

gur kay bhaanay vich amrit hai sehjay paavai ko-ay.

The Amrit, the Ambrosial Nectar, is in the Guru's Will. With intuitive ease, it is obtained.

jinaa paraapat tin pee-aa ha-umai vichahu kho-ay.

Those who are destined to have it, drink it in; their egotism is eradicated from within.

naanak gurmukh naam Dhi-aa-ee-ai sach milaavaa ho-ay. ||4||13||46||

O Nanak, the Gurmukh meditates on the Naam, and is united with the True Lord.

man mayray kartay no saalaahi.

O my mind, praise the Creator.

sabhay chhad si-aanpaa gur kee pairee paahi. ||1|| rahaa-o.

Give up all your clever tricks, and fall at the Feet of the Guru. ||1||Pause||

dukh bhukh nah vi-aapa-ee jay sukh-daata man ho-ay.

Pain and hunger shall not oppress you, if the Giver of Peace comes into your mind.

kit hee kamm na chhijee-ai jaa hirdai sachaa so-ay.

No undertaking shall fail, when the True Lord is always in your heart.

jis tooN rakheh hath day tis maar na sakai ko-ay.

No one can kill that one unto whom You, Lord, give Your Hand and protect.

sabh si-aanpaa chhad kai gur kee charnee paahu. ||1||

Give up all your clever tricks, and grasp the Feet of the Guru. ||1||

man mayray sukh sahj saytee jap naa-o.

O my mind, chant the Name with intuitive peace and poise.

aath pahar parabh Dhi-aa-ay tooN gun go-ind nit gaa-o. ||1|| rahaa-o.

Twenty-four hours a day, meditate on God. Constantly sing the Glories of the Lord of

the Universe. ||1||Pause||

tis kee sarnee par manaa jis jayvad avar na ko-ay.

Seek His Shelter, O my mind; there is no other as Great as He.

jis simrat sukh ho-ay ghanaa dukh darad na moolay ho-ay.

Remembering Him in meditation, a profound peace is obtained. Pain and suffering will not touch you at all.

sadaa sadaa kar chaakree parabh saahib sachaa so-ay. ||2||

Forever and ever, work for God; He is our True Lord and Master. ||2||

tiseh Dhi-aavahu man mayray sarab ko aaDhaar. ||1||

Meditate on the One, O my mind, who is the Support of all. ||1||

gur kay charan man meh Dhi-aa-ay.

Meditate within your mind on the Guru's Feet.

chhod sagal si-aanpaa saach sabad liv laa-ay. ||1|| rahaa-o.

Give up all your clever mental tricks, and lovingly attune yourself to the True Word of the Shabad. ||1||Pause||

dukh kalays na bha-o bi-aapai gur mantar hirdai ho-ay.

Suffering, agony and fear do not cling to one whose heart is filled with the GurMantra.

aas andaysaa door kar i-o mal jaa-ay samaa-ay. ||4||

Let your hopes and anxieties depart; thus pollution is washed away. ||4||

sukh ka-o maagai sabh ko dukh na maagai ko-ay.

Everyone begs for happiness; no one asks for suffering.

sukhai ka-o dukh aglaa manmukh boojh na ho-ay.

But in the wake of happiness, there comes great suffering. The self-willed manmukhs do not understand this.

sukh dukh sam kar jaanee-ahi sabad bhayd sukh ho-ay. ||5||

Those who see pain and pleasure as one and the same find peace; they are pierced through by the Shabad. ||5||

satgur bhai kaa bohithaa nadree paar utaar. ||4||

The True Guru is the only boat on this terrifying ocean. His Glance of Grace carries us across. ||4||

ik til pi-aaraa visrai dukh laagai sukh jaa-ay.

If I forget my Beloved, even for an instant, suffering overtakes me and peace departs.

jihvaa jala-o jalaavanee naam na japai rasaa-ay.

Let that tongue be burnt in flames, which does not chant the Naam with love.

bin sabdai jag dukhee-aa firai manmukhaa no ga-ee khaa-ay.

Without the Shabad, the world wanders lost in pain. The self-willed manmukh is consumed.

sabday naam Dhi-aa-ee-ai sabday sach samaa-ay. ||4||

Through the Shabad, meditate on the Naam; through the Shabad, you shall merge in Truth. ||4||

man har har japan karay.

O mind, chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har.

har gur sarnaa-ee bhaj pa-o jindoo sabh kilvikh dukh parharay. ||1|| rahaa-o.

Hurry to the Sanctuary of the Lord, the Guru, O my soul; all your sins shall be taken away. ||1||Pause||

har har naam japahu man mayray jit sadaa sukh hovai din raatee.

Chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har, O my mind; it will bring you eternal peace, day and night.

har har naam japahu man mayray jit simrat sabh kilvikh paap lahaatee.

Chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har, O my mind; meditating on it, all sins and misdeeds shall be erased.

har har naam japahu man mayray jit daalad dukh bhukh sabh leh jaatee.

Chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har, O my mind; through it, all poverty, pain and hunger shall be removed.

har har naam japahu man mayray mukh gurmukh pareet lagaatee.

Chant the Name of the Lord, Har, Har, O my mind; as Gurmukh, declare your love.

jit mukh bhaag likhi-aa Dhur saachai har tit mukh naam japaatee. ||13||

One who has such pre-ordained destiny inscribed upon his forehead by the True Lord, chants the Naam, the Name of the Lord. ||13||

naam rasaa-in man tariptaa-in gurmukh amrit peevaaN jee-o. ||3||

The Nectar of the Name satisfies my mind. As Gurmukh, I drink in the Ambrosial Nectar. ||3||

dukh sukh pi-aaray tuDh Dhi-aa-ee.

In suffering and in comfort, I meditate on You, O Beloved.

pooray gur kai sabad aDhaaraa.

The Shabad of the Perfect Guru is my Support.

naanak naam milai vadi-aa-ee dukh sukh sam kar jaanni-aa. ||8||10||11||

O Nanak, one who obtains the Greatness of the Naam, looks upon pain and pleasure as one and the same.

dukhee-ay nit fireh billaaday bin gur saaNt na paavni-aa. ||6||

These miserable people wander endlessly, crying out in pain; without the Guru, they find no peace. ||6||

jin keetay so-ee biDh jaanai.

The One who created them, knows their condition.

aap karay taa hukam pachhaanai.

And if He inspires them, then they realize the Hukam of His Command.

Nanak naam chardi kala tere bhane sarbat da bhala...

Sat veere, thnx fr such a detailed reply, I agree that dukh brings you closer to god and he can be seen only by a bairagi heart, heart which longs for him, I have seen him giving a pause status to all my pains, otherwise things could get worse.

Fateh

God will goes not yours, dukh sukh are part of life, relax puts some keertan on and leave it all at the Guru's door

Man up stop whinging like a b**t**

thnx Sat and Jaikara veer ...

@ Pal 07 - veere easy to say....I m not expecting u to help,,,I jus wann my fellow singhs to be aware of tests we can encounter (I know its my fight bro)

WJKK WJKF,

Hi all,

I have been visiting sikh awareness from quiet a while now and need to ask some experts about parakh going on in my life.

We were a very normal sikh family and everything was going good, I use to go to a gym, study and got a decent job in an MNC in India. Back in 2008, my elder brother took amrit and asked me too take it too, but I was hesitant on taking it because it would block me from doing bad deeds (there is discipline, Rehat in a sikhs life which is difficult to follow). One day in 2008, I was going home on my two wheeler and met with a accident and felt the near death experience. Not a single scratch on me but scooter was almost ruined, that day I felt that this could have been my last day and Jamdoots would have taken me to dharamraaj.

In a week's time , I took amrit and started the wonderfull Nitnem daily, 5 banis without taking amrit are difficult to recite, but with power of amrit you start a liking for it. We bought a new home. Me , my elder bro, my father were 3 members earning now...chardikalla was in now, my mother being the house wife. at this time only my mom was not an amritdhari.

We were amritdharis, but not pakke guru ke singhs, some times I missed my nem, listened to songs, I m young n unmarried and naturally liked making new friends and was inclined towards sunder roop, but not in a bad way, just in a normal way.

till 2012, everything in my life was going exponentially well. But things started rolling down, My mother was diagnosed with Kideny failure, she took amrit a year before her problem.....she lost her senses for 1.5 months , her hemoglobin went down to 4.5, and we took her ICU 2 times till now, she undergoes painfull dialysis 2 times a week till now.

My elder bro, recently married was diagnosed with TB, which blocked his food pipe and he was not able to swallow raw food, he is still undergoing his treatment and his problem is 80% cured with Guru's grace.

My father, being a old guy is taking care of expenses for my mother, which is like much more than my monthly salary, with my salary, I can bearly take care of my self. but money is not a problem here.

All this streesed me out and I am a hypertensive guy now, I recently developed a high heart rate problem. Doing night shifts and a stressfull job is taking toll on me. Watching my mothers left arm, which takes two 4 inches long and a wide needle 2 times a week (very painfull) , chops off my desire to live. All relatives have run away, they are just mere spectators now.

I continously devolpe some pain in my body, I am used to it now, Hospital is not a new thing for me now. But all this prompted me towards guru, I listened to Giani thakur singh ji's guru granth sahib katha, watched all mahapurukhs videos on youtube. Took my mom to darbar sahib once, been there 7 times in last year. after all this I realised that our condition halted, its not going bad anymore, but still its not going positive. We are in a loop, I will feel stressed till my mom is not well, which is almost impossible.

One imp thing : Since my childhood, our family used to visit a mahapuruk, Sant narayan singh ji moni, u can search for him on youtube, he is pooran sant like a Son of guru gobind singh ji. some times sant ji comes in my dreams and assures that everything will be good. But when I wake up, everything is same, I also used to get dreams of shaheed singhs.

I also went to Hansalli sahib and had darshan of Mahapurukh Ajit singh ji, but I was not able to tell him my issues , just did ardass there and came back home.

My point is that I am fed up now, some times I feel I can do sava lakh mool mantar (which i have just started) n save my family, but whom to save, I am myself a suffering from depression now. I know this path is difficult, but sometimes you dont have the answer and have to jus bow down to Hukam of akal purakh ji. please do ardass payreo......Fateh