Chamkilla

OK, firstly I would like to say that I am not here to offend anyone and if I did than im sorry. You are correct to say that it is just as much the guys fault. You say the guy gets away with it scot free, but this is rubbish because as i have already said that the only judgement that counts is that from god. what people think is not really that important. Also I would like to say that I did not label her or pass judgement on HER, I simply said that having sexual relations before marriage is wrong. This isn't my judgement this is my religions judgement. Also all these 'sikh' players tend to be people who cut their hair, trim singhs, people who drink or people who do not pray. I have never met a player who is a singh with a beard who doesnt drink and prays every day. These players are clearly not serious about the religion in the first place and it is obvious by their actions, so if the girl gets involved with them what can they really expect? The same analogy cant really be used for girls since I have never met a girl who doesn't cut her hair from at least one part of the body. So the point is that even though with a male you can see if the person is true to his religion, with a girl you cannot any longer 'see' if they are proper sikhs since the vast majority have lost this physical identity.

I would just like to share my opinion, I dont think it can be anybody's right to judge another human being as bad since this is God's job, but people can say that certain actions are bad. To me having sex before marriage is a bad action, but it is incorrect for me or anybody else to judge you as a bad person. When a person gets into a relationship it is up to them to properly know there bf/gf and this can never be done in 3 months or however long girls these days take. I can possibly understand if a girl goes out with somebody for like a year and then loses her virginity, even though this isnt the Sikh way, but girls these days are not like that and that is why it is wrong. As far as marriage goes, I dont think that I will end up marrying a virgin (I am one), its probably more likely that I will marry a girl who says she is a virgin but isnt really. But thats life, its difficult to get honesty these days. Getting close to a person is attachment, this only leads a person into loving someone more than God. Again this is not what anybody should do if they truelly love Vaheguru. For example I know this one singh who told me about his life in high school, he lived in a gora area and he used to get beaten up everyday. He used to come home crying, he had no friends, nobody to talk to (even his parents), and he literally had zero confidence. He needed to be loved, and he told me that all he needed to do was cut his hair and he would have been accepted by some of the kids in his school. Did he do it? No, because he knew Vaheguru is more important. My point is that there is a lot of men that go through a hell of a lot of b?llsh?t for sikhi and its about time that girls started to do the same. Finally I just want to say that none of what I said is suppose to be critical, I just said it to give my opinion. I dont believe you are a bad person at all and I hope you realise that only God can judge you (its true baba 2pac Shakur said so! lol) Take care