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If you're finding it hard to fully commit - having difficulty with certain things, what should you be doing? I mean, in the sense that you don't want to give up and you want to be a good Sikh but there are things going on in your life/ things that you're doing that aren't considered good practise...

I feel really bad about cutting my hair - especially when I read things like above, giving all the reasons why we shouldn't cut it. But there are still times when I really want to cut my hair. I have a lot of sikh friends and cousins who cut their hair and they see nothing wrong with it and that makes me think - they can't all be bad for cutting their hair can they? On the other hand though, the thought of having a pair of scissors anywhere near my hair doesn't feel right and then it feels right to keep my hair uncut. Also, I read things that say that you're not a true sikh if you cut your hair and I want to be moving towards Sikhi, not away from it... I know this must sound a bit confusing and maybe even a bit trivial but at the moment, it's something I think about quite abit and I'd like to get some advice/opinions etc on the matter Thanx

hi, i can relate to what you're saying because I have these 'mind battles' in my head too. Sometimes, I think about things so much that I get myself more confused than when I started thinking about the issue in the first place. However, there are other times that I realise how important being a Sikh is to me and that makes me think about things in a different light. I hope one day that I can get it right but in the meantime, I find that it helps talking to people and asking questions about the religion and learning from them and their experiences. Also, I understand what you mean about not wanting to make any mistakes-that's why I think it's good to talk to others to learn from their experiences but sometimes in life, you do make mistakes but if you learn from them- that can be a good thing.