Guru Nanak says that in delusion r all our relations.
Guru Arjan Dev Ji
Siree Raag
47
Mother, father, children and relatives-all relations are false
Guru Arjan Dev Ji
Raag Gauree
268
False are body, wealth, and all relations.
Guru Arjan Dev Ji
Raag Raamkalee
963
have seen that all relationships are false, and so I have grasped hold of the hem of Your robe, Lord. ||1||
This Shabad is by Bhai Gurdaas Ji in Vaars Bhai Gurdaas on Pannaa 15
krqw purK n cyiqE kIqy noNkrqw kr jwxY]
karathaa purakh n chaethiou keethae no(n)akarathaa kar jaanai||
O man, you have not remembered the creator and have accepted the created as your creator.
nwir Bqwr ipAwr kr puq poqy ipau dwd vKwxY]
naar bhathaar piaar kar puth pothae pio dhaadh vakhaanai||
Getting engrossed in wife or husband you have further created relationships of son, grandson, father and grandfather.
DIAW BYxW mwx kr qusin rusin swk bbwxY]
dhheeaaa(n) bhainaa(n) maan kar thusan rusan saak babaanai||
Daughters and sisters proudly become happy or annoyed and such is the case of all relatives.
sIhru pIhru nwnky prvwrY swDwr iD|wxY]
seehar peehar naanakae paravaarai saadhhaar dhhin(g)aanai||
All other relation's such as the house of father-in-law, one's mother's house, the house of the maternal uncles and other relations of the family are disdainful.
cj Acwr vIcwr ivc pMcw AMdr piq prvwxY]
chaj achaar veechaar vich pa(n)chaa a(n)dhar path paravaanai||
If conduct and thoughts are civilised, one gets honour before the high ups of the society.
AMq kwl jm jwl ivc swQI koie n hoie iswxY]
a(n)th kaal jam jaal vich saathhee koe n hoe sin(j)aanai||
However, at the end, when caught up in the web of death, no companion takes notice of the person.
gur pUry ivx jwie smwxy ]÷]
gur poorae vin jaae samaanae ||a||
Bereft of the grace of the perfect Guru, all persons become scared of death.