G.Kaur

I'm not goin to tell people what they should do, I just told my opinion on this issue.

I don't see a big difference between marrying your cousins and marrying someone you've called paajee/bhainjee. Today we see a lot of young people calling each other paajee or bhainjee and then they get married. How disgusting is that. I mean, what are you going to tell your children "5 years ago your mother was my bhainjee, and now she's the mother of my children". Please have some respect for the words you are using. I've had numerous discussions about this with my Muslim friend, and she said in Islamic culture it doesn't mean you're someone's sister if a guy calls you a sister, it's just a polite way of talking to each other. Hmm I'm wondering if the same thing has started in our culture?

Speaking of social influence, I was just sent this article http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2000871/Sarah-Burge-Human-Barbie-gives-daughter-boob-job-voucher-7th-birthday.html Isn't that a message to the child that she can never be beautiful without surgery?

Could someone shed some light on my questions? Another question: Most people I've heard recite Chaupai Sahi say "sagree srisat dhikhaee achanbhav" while Taksali Singh's and people who have taken Santhiya say "sigree srisat dhikhaee achanbhav". Is it sagree or sigree?

I was looking in 2 gutke about the pauree that is in japji sahib and rehraas sahib. In japji sahib it says "kar kar vekhai keeta aapna jiv tis dee vadiiaai" and in rehraas sahib it says "kar kar dekhai kitaa apna jio tis dee vadiiaaii". Sorry for being ignorant, but isn't it suppose to be the exact same pauree from japji sahib in rehraas sahib?

Who said I was normal? I've just learned in the last few years not to care about what society and people think of me. There are more important things that I have to worry about.

Kdsingh, I'm not telling you this to boost my won ego, but I don't wear western clothes. I don't care if people think I'm a pendu for not wearing trousers and shirts. I've even had family members and door rishtedar telling me (indirectly) that I look like a pendu because I wear a suit when I live in Europe. I couldn't care less what people think of me. In India most people think you are a pendu if you wear suit and you are cool if you wear western clothes. I was at my mami's sisters house in Ludhiana and she said that her daughter think it's too hot to wear a suit (!) in Punjab in the summer so instead she's wearing tight jeans and a t-shirt. Seriously some people need to get a grip and stop acting like/and pretend they are some Europeans. Why are we denying our own identity? What I see here in my country is that the Indian girls think it's embarrassing to wear suits in public (like at a Nagar Keertan) but the Pakistani girls are very proud of wearing their shalwar kameez. Why aren't we proud of our background? Why are we trying to pretend something we aren't? I can understand you've had a hard childhood because the kids were bullying you, but I think we've all been through hard times in our lives, and I guess it's just a part of being a human. It comes with the packet "life", lol

Yeah that's true, but things have also changed in the last 5-10 years. For many years there was only adverts on TV, in magazines, posters, movies etc. about women and what they should look like, weight-loss, make-up, hair removal, surgery etc. But in the last few years men have also started thinking about "is my nose too big, do I look fat, am I too hairy". I'm not joking, lately there have also been programs on TV about men and their self-esteem and the pressure they are under from the society.

There's a difference between looks and the situation where you don't want other people to interfere or to know about your family problems. I'm not an exception. Lots of people don't give a damn about what other's think of them, and we even have members here who don't care, and I think you know who I'm talking about, lol. Regarding kesh and society I have already written my opinion, so I don't think I need to repeat myself.

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Lately there has been a lot of spam on this site. Why don't you put all new members under moderation (their first 5 posts) to check if it's a person and not some Russian/Chinese spambot?

I agree that there's a big difference between what is normal and abnormal, but who cares about what society and other people think of you? Well I don't. If I was going to worry about if people think I'm a pendu or they like me, then I wouldn't have time for anything else in my life. I can't answer for other people, but are you saying that if a man or a woman has excessive hair growth on their body they should remove it?

While you are at it, why not look for 3 wives instead of just one? Aren't you allowed 4 wives and then you'll get 72 virgins in heaven, or do you only get that if you become a martyr?

Well it depends on what kind of arranged marriage you go into. Some people talk to each other, go out etc. before they get married and then they get to know each other. Other people don't even get a chance or aren't allowed to talk and only talk when the family is there and they eat ladoo and mithai together at the girl's house. But again you never get to know a person once you've lived with them. Women can develop excessive hair growth on their bodies due to different things; hormonal imbalance, either they are born with too much testosterone or it could also be from all the chemicals (parabens, phthalates etc.) that are in shampoos, creams, make-up, conditioner, toy and food. There could be other reasons too.. In the western world there are more parabens in products, phthalates, the environment, pollution and other things that could have an effect on the hormonal system for men and women. This is why we see girls who get into puberty at the age of 7, boys who are born without their private parts (well they are there but you can't if it's a girl or a boy), men whose sperm quality is decreasing, and women who get hirsutism. In my opinion, it doesn't matter how much hair is normal for women, because the fact still remains that Amritdhari's are not allowed to remove hair from their bodies.

Bhai Jarnail Singh's Speech from 2011 Freedom March and Remembrance Rally. Author of "I Accuse". Buy it on http://www.jsks.co.in/sh_i_accuse.htm

True. I love the way apne say "haiii mera BP wad gaya"

On a serious note, Punjabis need to learn that it is not good and/or healthy to be fat and they need to start thinking what they put in their pateelay. In most homes it's too much oil, butter, salt and other unhealthy ingredients which can lead to cardiovascular diseases, high blood pressure, diabetes and apoplexy, just to mention a few.

Suryadev, attraction towards people doesn't necessarily have to be psychical features. A person can be very attracting because of her/his charm, personality, intelligence etc. People choosing a life-partner only because of their looks is ridiculous. What are they going to do if the spouse get's hit by a car and you can't even recognize their face after the accident? Are they going to divorce their spouse because now he/she isn't attractive anymore? What are people going to do when the wrinkles starts appearing, the black hair become white, you get cellulite here and there. Are people going to divorce their spouse's when this happen and find a "new, younger model"?

Wait and see. You'll love your jatti

Another thing Suryadev, there are always topic's on forum's on men complaining about women who don't want to marry keshdhari men. Women who want clean-shaven "sikh's". But why is it okay the other way around? The fact is that every human being has hair all over his body except under his hands and feet. Read a biology book if you don't believe me. These are the only 2 places where you don't have hair. Some people have very light hair color so you don't notice the hair while other people have dark hair and you can see it easily. If we as a kaum can't accept women with facial hair (women following rehat given by Guru Gobind Singh Jee) phir sada ki rehgaya? What's the point of our religion and taking Amrit then? I don't know what men's problems are. Maybe they've seen too many bollywood movies?

Yes, maybe you could teach us. I'm looking forward to Dal's cooking classes! Yeah, then my life will be so much better........ Yeah just wait and see...

Suryadev, it is about rejecting a girl who's following her dharam. There's a big difference between a woman with a beard (hirsutism) and a few hairs here and there. If an Amritdhari man can't accept a woman with facial hair, what was his reason to chak Amrit in the first place, if he can't accept the Rehats given by Panj Piare? Maybe looks is the main reason for you to get married or not to get married to a woman, but to other people things like Rehat, spirituality, nitnem are more important than looks.

Dal, you don't need to worry about me and my roti skills. Just make sure the woman you're going to get married to can make you rotiyaan, daal and sabji.

Exactly. That's why I said I will start learning when the right time comes

I can make turka. You don't need a ph.d. in brain surgery to make that. I can make samose, pakore, tikki-aan, rice, aloo gobi and other sabjis too. I just find it boring. P.s. I'm glad you said turka and not tarka.