KAuR P

@paapiman @Gunahgar thank you so much brothers!! You really helped me. Since morning I was not sure that I'll take amrit. But now I am. So I'll surely take it. Thank you so much :)

Hnji I talked to my cousin. He was really happy with my decision. 
Moreover he added that I'll now go to college and there are so many restrictions afterwards ( for instance restrictions of hair cut etc. ).  
He meant that I'll start going to college now. The environment of the college can effect me in any way. He said that I may wish to do makeup and may want to cut my hair. Because I usually trim my hair. But I'll not do it. I secretly heard my mother's and grandmother conversation. My mother said that my dad said it will be difficult to find a suitable match for me. This is the main reason they are not allowing me but dad said that I can marry a amritdhari boy and later I can take amrit. Why should I depend on someone? I am strong enough to be me. If everyone starts to think like this no one will take amrit. Even boys. They can also think that they may not be able to find an amritdhari girl. That's not the right way. We should at least start. The rest of world will start by seeing us. This makes me really sad that my parents think like that. I used to think that they are always right. But no they are wrong here. I am fed off of this. 

Sister, you can listen to the Gurbanis too. There is no requirement that a person must know the 5 banis, by heart, before taking Amrit.
 
Can you please elaborate on this point?
 
Don't worry too much about your mother's statements. As long as you are determined to change yourself and will apologize to Maharaaj, you should be fine. Most likely, you have already apologized to your parents.
Think positive and keep a strong will. This will ensure that you will never break Rehat.
Did you talk to your cousin about this?
 
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Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa Wahe Gur Ji Ke Fateh
 
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The rest penji , the journey the connection is between you and the almighty no one else and that will be unique to every individual. You can talk to waheguru in your own unique way wherever you are . I would say learn about the history, learn kirtan , learn gurmuki , learn learn learn , make it your way of life , its a life long beautiful committment,with its fair share of ups and downs but stick at it  waheguru will 100% guide you regardless of what stage you are at but the most important thing is you want to make that change .

One reason I have heard parents not allow their daughters to is that some sampardas disallow any jewellery, or makeup at all after Amrit. Your Dad might be scared you will have harder time to find a husband.  (trust me you can! I am turban wearing, no makeup though I do wear a necklace once in awhile or my gold bangles and I found an Amritdhari man who is sweetest in the world!)  Also if you still live in their house, there are other implications like not sharing food with your family if they are not Amritdhari as well, or if your parents have alcohol in the house.  Just have conversation with him when he is at home and tell him the reasons why you want this.  Maybe through soft words you can win your parents to the idea and maybe they will take it too someday because of your example!
 

Sister, please make sure that you do through the link below for inspiration.
 
 
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They might ask sister, but don't worry about it. I think they did not ask my family any questions, when we took Amrit.
Please give me sometime. Daas knows Singhs, who do Panj Pyareyan de seva. Gurparsaad, will talk to one of them, and then report back (most likely, on weekend).
 
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@paapiman @Gunahgar thank you so much brothers!! You really helped me. Since morning I was not sure that I'll take amrit. But now I am. So I'll surely take it. Thank you so much :)

ok take your time sister and All the Best!!!   And use that time to contemplate on your actions and build up the mental will to not repeat it again.

Sister, Panj Pyaray won't ask you about your previous sins, but they might ask some questions to gauge, if you are a suitable candidate for Amrit or not. Nothing much to be worried about.
 
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Morning nitnem:  Japji Sahib, Jaap Sahib, Tav Prasad Savaiye, Chaupai Sahib, Anand Sahib
Evening: Rehraas Sahib, Keertan Sohela
Dasvandh: 2.5 hours of including Nitnem + Simran,
You will also be asked to do path of Moolmantar or Waheguru Simran sitting, lying, walking or whenever you can during you daily routine. Goal is to remember him as much as you can.
And avoid following Bajjar Kurehits:  Smoking/Drugs/Alcohol, Meat/Eggs( depending upon Panj Pyara, go with what they say, Shaving/Trimming/Waxing, pre-marital or extramarital relations.
 

Bro, it is very hard to keep (such a thing) secret from the family. She said that they will be happy to know about it. Right now, they might think that she is not serious about it.
 
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Panj Pyare will explain you everything sister. You might be nervous, but dont worry we were all in the same place once.
If its your first time taking Amrit, they wont ask you about your past or anything. You will have chance to start with a clean slate.
True repentance is when you dont repeat the same mistake again.

Brother, lets just keep it easy on Sister. She does not have to surprise anyone.  She can even do it silently.
 

If they think, you are joking, then give them a pleasant surprise, by consuming Amrit and coming back home, dressed similar to the Singhni in the image below.
 

 
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Sister, the actual price of Amrit is one's life, which you know, the original Panj Pyaray paid. Using this Criteria, how many people do you think are good enough to take Amrit?
After taking Amrit, you will gradually move towards becoming an ideal human being. Most humans make mistakes, which even includes highly spiritual people. Learn from your mistakes and never repeat them again.
 
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Thank you ji. I'll surely take amrit. I have a close cousin who is amritdhari. He always encourages me and my grandmother too. And yes please tell me about nitnem and rehits so that I'll not do anything wrong. Thank you again

Dear Sister,
One does not have to be good to take Amrit. We have all done many bad things. None of us is pure. Amrit is just the first step. I knew your family would discourage you. They will say you are too young or you should wait until marriage. 
I follow Baba Ishar Singh Ji Kaleran Nanaksar wale. Acc. to his bachan, if someone has a half-mind of taking Amrit, you should push them to taking Amrit. Guru will take care of the rest.  Since your family is non-amritdhari, it will be difficult for you . But I encourage you to do it secretly if your family tries to stop you. They will be angry for a while and then they will forget.
Where do you live ? US or Canada ?
And if you have questions about Nitnem & Rehit ask us here. Also , Paapiman had given great advice.

Sister, IMHO, tell that family member first, whom you are most attached to. That member can further tell other members about it. Tell that member that you have decided to become a daughter (by taking Amrit) of Sodhi Sache Paatshah, Dhan Dhan Dhan Satguru Sri Guru Gobind Singh jee Maharaaj.
God willing, you will have a great spiritual journey ahead of you.
 
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@KAuR P - Also, Sister, when you go for the ceremony, it is possible that Panj Pyaray will do a screening, by asking you some questions. If they recommend, that you should take Amrit after sometime, then please obey them.
 
Please go through some inspiring stuff below:
 
 
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My dear Sister, go and take Amrit asap. Please listen to Gurbani and Saints.
Gurbani:
Gurbani clearly instructs us, not to cause any delay, when thinking of performing a good deed.
 
ਕਬੀਰ ਕਾਲਿ ਕਰੰਤਾ ਅਬਹਿ ਕਰੁ ਅਬ ਕਰਤਾ ਸੁਇ ਤਾਲ ॥
ਪਾਛੈ ਕਛੂ ਨ ਹੋਇਗਾ ਜਉ ਸਿਰ ਪਰਿ ਆਵੈ ਕਾਲੁ ॥੧੩੮॥
Kabeer, that which you have to do tomorrow do it today instead; and that which you have to do now do it immediately!
Later on, you will not be able to do anything, when death hangs over your head. ||138||
 
Saints:
Srimaan Sant Baba Ishar Singh jee Kaleranwale (one of the greatest saints of the 20th century), used to say that even kids should take Amrit. You are old enough to take Amrit asap.
Quote (Gunahgar jee)
baba Ishar singh ji kaleran wale use to say whole family should shak Amrit even if they are little kids...they can keep kakars when they grow up...sab parvar chadaya bede....whole family has gotten on the ship to sachkhand...
Unquote 
 
Some people might make Amrit look like a huge task, but the fact is that it is a basic/elementary step in Sikhism.
All your sins will be forgiven, when you will take Amrit, as long as you don't repeat them.
The most important aspect, when you take Amirt, is to avoid the 4 cardinal sins. This can be done easily.
Consumption of tobacco Eating Halal meat Premarital/Extra martial sexual relations Cutting Kesh Once again Sister, Daas will humbly request you at your feet, to take Amrit asap. Mind is very dangerous and it can play tricks. Are you sure, you will have same interest in taking Amrit after a month? 
For Nitnem - You can listen to Nitnem. Have you heard of Bhai Jarnail Singh jee (of Damdami Taksaal)? Please have a look below. He neither goes too fast, nor too slow and his ucharan is really good.
 
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@KAuR P  A good way to start with nitnem is listen by MP3.  Then even if you are distracted you are still listening to it being recited.  There is no excuse because even someone who is busy can listen to it.  When I took amrit, the words used were, "recite or listen to recitation of..."  MP3 just makes it much easier. You can of course follow along in your nitnem gutka and recite along with it.  I specifically asked before if it was bad to listen WHILE doing something else, for example if you already have to get up extremely early for work etc.  And Panj Pyaras said that as long as you are listening or reciting it, it doesn't matter where you are of what position you are in, or what you are doing. The key is just doing it.  So if you happen to be a security guard or something (just as an example... no thats not what I do for career haha) you can listen to the MP3 nitnem at your desk or something and it's ok.  Waheguru Ji knows your intent and knows its sometimes difficult in modern world with careers like shiftwork etc.  As for rehets, make sure you know where you are taking Amrit, and what the implications are for you as a female, as there are more than one Rehet Maryada and some sampardas place extra restrictions and limitations on Bibis that the males don't have.  (for example, seeing husband as God, exclusion from certain seva etc) while the Panthic Rehet Maryada (Sikh Rehet Maryada) treats male and female the same as far as rights in Sikhi.  
 
 
 
 
 

Gurfateh bhenji
If you're in doubt, then don't take Amrit. Amrit chak is something one should only do with full conviction and yakeen.
Regarding making changes in your life towards your Family, friends, sangat etc - that is always a good thing to strive for. However, you dont need Amrit to do that. Work on yourself internally and externally and let the Guru do the rest.