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Hey Friends Lets talk about topic rather the heatlh.......

I M not agree @ all with u my dear friend. A little clerification is here. U can ask for more... Here are some things I found about what love is... Scientific AnswersResearchers (Hatfield & Rapson, 1995) have broken up love into two main types:· Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions. Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you. Now one of the best known theories of love (which means an educated guess that isn't proven fact) is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. The three components of the Triangular Theory of Love are: Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone. Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment. Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other. Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough. Now Sternberg also uses his Triangular Theory of Love to answer some of the most commonly asked questions about love: Is there love at first sight? This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). Sternberg calls this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away. Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time? This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. Sternberg calls this Hollywood love. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end. Can their be love without sex? Ah yes, companionate love, where intimacy and commitment are present without any sexual passion. Why doesn't romantic love last? Passion and intimacy without commitment is Romantic love. When the passion fades, and the intimacy wanes, the relationship ends. This a close friend sent me e-mail: Infatuation vs. Love Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for. Unscientific Answers Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?· It isn't Love, it's Like. You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?· It isn't Love, it's Lust. Are you proud, and eager to show them off?· It isn't Love, it's Luck. Do you want them because you know they're there?· It isn't Love, it's Loneliness. Are you there because it's what everyone wants?· It isn't Love, it's Loyalty. Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?· It isn't Love, it's Pity. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?· It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?· It isn't Love, it's Infatuation. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?· It isn't Love, it's Friendship. Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?· It isn't Love, it's a Lie. Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?· It isn't Love, it's Charity. Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?· Then it's Love. Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?· Then it's Love. Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?· Then it's Love. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?· Then it's Love. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?· Then it's Love. But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?· Then it's Love. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?· Then it's Love. Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,why do we Love? Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for? This torture, this powerful death of self? Why?Because it's...Love

Sioux Indian Story "My grandfather took me to the fish pond on the farm when I was about seven, and he told me to throw a stone into the water. He told me to watch the circles created by the stone.Then he asked me to think of myself as that stone person. "You may create lots of splashes in your life but the waves that come from those splashes will disturb the peace of all your fellow creatures," he said. "Remember that you are responsible for what you put in your circle and that circle will also touch many other circles. You will need to live in a way that allows the good that comes from your circle to send the peace of that goodness to others. The splash that comes from anger or jealousy will send those feelings to other circles.You are responsible for both." That was the first time I realized each person creates the inner peace or discord that flows out into the world.We cannot create world peace if we are riddled with inner conflict, hatred, doubt, or anger. We radiate the feelings and thoughts that we hold inside, whether we speak them or not. Whatever is splashing around inside of us is spilling out into the world, creating beauty or discord with all other circles of life. JOYCE WISHES U ALL A HAPPY NEW YEAR....

Jerk in our Actions One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. He was carrying all of his books. His name was Kyle. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd." I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes. My heart went out to him. I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw tears in his eyes. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face. One of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play football on Saturday with me and my friends. He said yes. We hung all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you're gonna really build serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books. Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than me and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous. Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said. As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach... but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story." I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable." I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and Dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth. Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse. God puts us all in each other's lives to impact one another in some way. Look for God in others. You now have two choices, you can: 1) Pass this on to your friends; or 2) Delete it and act like it didn't touch your heart. Let's Commit ourselves to do at least a good this evening... JOYCE WISHES U ALL A HAPPY NEW YEAR....

From Extraordinary Classical Collections : MILK Paid in Full This story always inspire me to fullfill my responsibilities towards others. Just Great

Hope can always cope. P. K. Thomajan (1902-1990) Writer

Sorry Friend, But i hav totally a different approach towards UR views as for Friend 'n' Friendship - Love 'n' Lover. One more thing friendship dosnt define limits between friends. Its our blunder sociaty 'n' own narrow think horizons. And upto the talk of question I dont think there is anything which cant be controled if U determine 2 do so. As per me LOVE is like .... My love for you is deep, Because it's there even in my sleep. I enjoy the love that you give me, And I want you to know we will always be. My love for you is true, Because I didn't feel love till I found you. I will never love another so deep, I will always cherish you and I never wanna see you weep. Because we lasted so long, You and me will always belong Or so my heart said to me And so I responded it was meant to be Till the day of my death, My love for you will never skip a breath. You make me so happy, love has stricken me Sending me a beautiful angel so tender and sweet. My love for you grows stronger as time goes by, And by the hands of time, I swear never to say good bye.

Funny GOL ZINDAGI(Circle of Life) Zindagi Hai To Khwaab Hai Khwaab Hai To Manzilein Hai Manzilein Hai To Fasaley Hai Fasaley Hai To Rastey Hai Rastay Hai To Mushkilein Hai Mushkilein Hai To Hausla Hai Hausla Hai To Vishawas Hai Vishvas hai to Paisa hai Paisa hai to Shohrat hai Shohrat hai to Izzat Hai Izzat hai to Ladki hai Ladki hai to Tension hai Tension hai to Concern hai Concern hai to a Khayaal hai Khayaal hai to Khwaab hai Khawab hai to Growth hai Growth hai to Zindagi hai Zindagi hai to khwaab hai Matlab duniya Gol Gol hai Bas ghumnewala chahiye...... Applying this to any project Requirements hai to design hai Design hai to Development hai Development hai to Testing hai Testing hai to Defects hai Defects hai to Fixing hai Fixing hai to More Defects hai More Defects hai to Rework Hai Rework hai to Analysis hai Analysis hai to Requirements hai Requirements hai to Design hai Design hai to Development hai Matlab Project Gol Gol hai Bus ghumnewala chahiye... :wink:

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LIFE CHANGING QUIZ Can you name the following: Name the five wealthiest people in the world. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners. Name the last five winners of the Miss America contest. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer prize. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress. Name the last decade’s worth of World Series winners. How did you do? The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday. These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields. But the applause dies. Awards tarnish. Achievements are forgotten. Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners. Here’s another quiz. See how you do on this one: List a few teachers who aided your journey through school. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with. Name half a dozen heroes whose stories have inspired you. Easier? The lesson? The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards. They are the ones that simply care the most.

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The Victor If you think you are beaten, you are. If you think you dare not, you don't. If you like to win but think you can't, It's almost a cinch you won't. If you think you'll lose, you're lost. For out in the world we find Success begins with a fellow's will. It's all in the state of mind. If you think you are out classed, you are. You've got to think high to rise. You've got to be sure of your-self before You can ever win the prize. Life's battles don't always go To the stronger or faster man. But sooner or later, the man who wins Is the man who thinks he can.

Desire Is the Fire of Life (© Max Stein) The key that insures your success in any endeavor, is desire. If you are willing to pay the price, even your circumstances will change. If you want something badly enough, you are sure to get it. Reality forms around the commitments you make. Your desires will in time externalize themselves into concrete facts. Obstacles don't matter very much. Pain or other circumstances can be there. But if you want to do something bad enough, you'll find a way to get it done. You only have to love a thing greatly to get it.

DEH SHIVA VAR MOHE IHE, SUBH KARMAN TE KABHON NA TAROn.

We All Need Someone Who Understands....... A store owner was tacking a sign above his door that read: "Puppies For Sale". Signs like that have a way of attracting small children and sure enough, a little boy appeared under the store owner's sign. "How much are you going to sell the puppies for?" he asked. The store owner replied, "Anywhere from $30 to $50." The little boy reached in his pocket and pulled out some change. "I have $2.37," he said. "Can I please look at them?" The store owner smiled and whistled and out of the kennel came Lady, who ran out in the aisle of his store followed by five teeny, tiny balls of fur. One puppy was lagging considerably behind. Immediately the little boy singled out the lagging, limping puppy and said, "What's wrong with that little dog?" The store owner explained that the veterinarian had examined the little puppy and had discovered it didn't have a hip socket. It would always be lame. The little boy became excited. "That is the puppy that I want to buy." The store owner said, "No, you don't want to buy that little dog. If you really want him, I'll just give him to you." The little boy got quite upset. He looked straight into the store owner's eyes, pointing his finger, and said, "I don't want you to give him to me. That little dog is worth every bit as much as all the other dogs and I'll pay full price. In fact, I'll give you $2.37 now, and 50 cents a month until I have him paid for." The store owner countered, "You really don't want to buy this little dog. He is never going to be able to run and jump and play with you like the other puppies." To his surprise, the little boy reached down and rolled up his pant leg to reveal a badly twisted, crippled left leg supported by a big metal brace. He looked up at the store owner and softly replied, "Well, I don't run so well myself, and the little puppy will need someone who understands." Don't we all need someone who understands?

DO U HAVE A BRIDGE TO BE BUILD....LETS FIND IT Once upon a time two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch. Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence. One morning there was a knock on John's door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter's toolbox. "I'm looking for a few days work" he said. "Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there. Could I help you?" "Yes," said the older brother. "I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That's my neighbor, in fact, it's my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I'll go him one better. See that pile of lumber over by the barn? I want you to build me a fence --an 8-foot fence -- so I won't need to see his place anymore. Cool him down, anyhow." The carpenter said, "I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post-hole digger and I'll be able to do a job that pleases you." The older brother had to go to town for supplies, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day. The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer's eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped. There was no fence at all. It was a bridge -- a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work, handrails and all -- and the neighbor, his younger brother, was coming across, his hand outstretched. "You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I've said and done." The two brothers met at the middle of the bridge, taking each other's hand. They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox on his shoulder. "No, wait! Stay a few days. I've a lot of other projects for you," said the older brother. "I'd love to stay on," the carpenter said, "but I have so many more bridges to build." It's a New Year - are there any bridges you should build? The year is still fresh and so if in your life you have any gaps to close with anyone do it today and this will be a very blessed way to start your new year.

Sikhi as any other religion also give us the uniform and universal principal to help those in needy by a proper mode. It might be in the shape of food, shelter, physical protection or/and survival of kind(mankind for say). Marriage is known as the oldest association of sociaty which allows (give environment 'n' permission) two souls to have their pathology for a single goal it might be in the form of old said MOKSHA or some tangible/intangible SANSARIK form goal objective or target . There is nothing in Sikhi which lead us about not to have the (As my respected friend already mentioned) the GRAHASTA JIWAN. One more reason to have such association is formed by the Mother Nature itself. It also expects such association that is why it make Adam 'n' Eves as uncomplete creature which can only be complete via such association. Nature requires such association for all living creatures except Plants, trees etc. coz such class is formed as complete in itself and it can florish without such association we called Marriage.

Go for Thrine ................. & Check – Mind, Body & Courage & Fight for- Freedom, Honesty & Justice & Bow to Daily- Mother, Father & Teacher & Treat Well- Servant, Poor & Elders & Be Ready For – Sorrow, Death & Difficulty & Praise for – Knowledge, Charity & Good Habits & Have Qualities – Love, Politeness & Patience & Keep Away from – Jealousy, Pride & Fashion & For Complete Study – Reading, Writing & Listening & Do or Die for – Truth, Religion & Country

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared; he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body,which would contract in time.Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If nature allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly... THERE IS NO SHORT CUT FOR SUCCESS THEN HARD WORK.

Once there was a bus conductor, who was very rude to his passengers. One day a beautiful young girl, of around 18 years,tried to board the bus, but he didn't stop the bus. Unfortunately the beautiful young girl came under the us and died on the spot. Angry passengers took the conductor to the police station, who in turn took him to the court. The judge was not at all impressed with him and gave him capital punishment.He was taken to the electrocution chamber. There was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room. The conductor was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him. But to everyone's amazement, he survived. The judge decided to set him free, and he returned to his profession. After a few months, this time, a good looking middle aged woman tried to board the bus but the conductor didn't stop the bus.Unfortunately, this time also,the good looking middle aged woman came under the bus and died on the spot. Again angry passengers took him to the police station, who in turn took him to the court. The judge took one look at the conductor and gave him capital punishment. The Bus conductor was taken to the same electrocution chamber where there was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room. He was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him. This time also to everyone's amazement, he survived. The judge decided to set him free, and he returned to his profession. A couple of months later, an elderly gentleman tried to board the bus. This time the Bus conductor, remembering his earlier experiences, stopped the bus. Unfortunately the elderly gentleman slipped and died due to his injuries. The conductor was taken to the police station and then to the court, to the same judge. Though he hadn't done anything wrong, but considering his past record the judge decided to set an example and gave him capital punishment. The Bus conductor was again taken to the same electrocution chamber where there was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room. He was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him. This time he died instantly !!!!!!!!!!! The question is why didn't he die on the first two occasions, but died instantly the third time?? Try to solve it yourselves. This is rather interesting and answer is perfectly logical. If necessary read the puzzle once again. Still you couldn't, Then see below......... think hard tired.... wanna know the answer???? Answer : During the first two times, the conductor was a Bad Conductor,therefore electricity didn't pass through him. But during the third time, he was a good conductor, electricity passed through him freely and he died!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :wink: :wink: :wink: :wink: !!!!!!!! Obviously you gotta revise your science chapter on Electricity ??? OK, OK.... No violence please...

The truth is that all of us attain the greatest success and happiness possible in this life whenever we use our native capacities to their greatest extent. Smiley Blanton (1882-1966) Speech pathologist

Extreme of LOVE A girl and a boy were on a motorcycle, speeding through the night. They loved each other a lot..... Girl:"slow down a little.. I'm scared.." Boy: "No, it's so fun.." Girl: "please..it's so scary.." Boy: "Then say that you love me.." Girl: "Fine..I love you..can you slow down now?" Boy: "Give me a big hug.." The girl gave him a big hug. Girl: "Now can you slow down?" Boy: "Can you take off my helmet and put it on? It's uncomfortable and it's bothering me while I ride." The next day, there was a? story in the newspaper. A motorcycle had crashed into a building because its brakes were broken.There were two people on the motorcycle, of which one died, and the other had survived...The guy knew that the brakes were broken. He didn't want to let the girl know, because he knew that the girl would have gotten scared. Instead, he was told the last time that she loved him,got a hug from her, put his helmet on her so that she can live, and die himself... Once in a while, Right in the middle of an ordinary life, Love gives us a fairy tale... Message "Life consists not in holding good cards but? in playing those you hold well"

"The Twenty Commandments" 1. If you feel far away from God, guess who moved? 2. Fear knocked. Faith answered. No one was there. 3. What you are is God's Gift to you. What you become is your gift to God. 4. I am God's Melody of Life and He Sings His Song through me. 5. We can never really go where God is not, and where He is, all is well. 6. No matter what is happening in your life, know that God is Waiting for you with open Arms. 7. God Promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. 8. Do your best and then sleep in peace. God is Awake. 9. God has a Purpose and Plan for me that no one else can fulfill. 10. The Will of God will never take you to where the Grace of God will not protect you. 11. We are responsible for the effort, not the outcome. 12. We set the sail; God makes the wind. 13. Begin to weave and God will Give you the thread. 14. When God says "no", it's because He has something better in store for you. 15. The task ahead of us is never as great as the Power behind us. 16. Prayer: don't bother to give God instructions, just report for duty. 17. It's my business to do God's Business, and it's His Business to take care of my business. 18. Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amid the storm. 19. How come you're always running around looking for God? He's not lost. 20. God put me on earth to accomplish a number of things; right now, I'm so far behind I will live forever.

Success Path 'Success isn't the absence of failure. It is having the determination to never quit because "quitters never win and winners never quit". Almost every person who has achieved anything worthwhile with his or her life has not only experienced failure, but experienced it many times... God wants you to achieve something worthwhile - not necessarily spectacular... If you feel you have failed, be encouraged. Now's the time to give God a chance. "He'll mend even a broken heart if you'll give him all the pieces."'