GurpreetKaur

Sada suhagan raho!!

I am the oldest and most mature member here. All of these kids take my advice. So putt listen up, it's coming from my 80 years of life experiences ( I am an advanced buddhi). I would say go talk to a doctor even though I have nothing to do with doctors, but in your situation she or he can guide you well. I have had a mild OCD when I became a health freak and te amount of time I washed my hands( sorry environment) and checked stuff was crazy. I don't know if you know about emotional freedom technique, it's a good thing . Search on YouTube bunch of videos there. You do need help since things are crazy. So do get an appt before it goes more crazy. Try hypnosis or deep breathing to calm the mind.

The thing is you said that in order to be a sehajdhari sikh I have to be from a different religion. No matter how much love I have for sikhi, I am not even a sehajdhari sikh because I am born in a Sikh family. Apparently that sikh family is not a sikh family since none of my family members are amritdhari. So what is my religion to begin with.? What is my ancestor's religion? As soon as a non amritdhari member was born in our lineage we were not sikh so in that case we are Hindu? Then that makes me a sehajdhari sikh right?

No it's no take crying. Anybody would cry when two members in the family are arguing to the point where a physical fights chances are so heavy. It's just I can hold my tears outside and can let them out when I come in my room and usually I have done it. But I let them out front of them few times thinking maybe it will make at least one of them calm down. Usually want brother to calm down since he is strong and can do a lot of damage . but can't blame him either dad pushes all of his buttons. tears never melted dad even though when bro and I were nikkey nikkey. when alcohol get inside him no matter good father he is he throw everything outta window. I think that alcohol freakin posses him. I don't know I hate sharab with passion. But I can't escape from it my cousins not only try to get me drinking, can't believe they offered my mom beer too many times and mom is like tut painey. Lol Bros almost 29. And about tears I don't know if I try to manipulate but from my point of view if I am in pain and I cry front of someone that's just my way of showing hey listen I am too weak to handle this, help me of you love me lol. I don't know how is it in uk and canada but here if I or any of my girl cry front of their bro and dad, we think they will think we have a guy issue so crying is a big no no. Men don't cry since they don't wanna look bad, we girls suck up our tears cuz don't want Fam to get wrong signal. Being an Indian girl with a closed minded family sucks big time.

Paapiman ji, you have humility but your thinking is not very right. This thinking will create blockage since you spend most of the time defending Gurmat principles ( which are so many by different sampardas) rather than loving and opening your mind. When I was around 8, I was eating Langar and being a kid was not able to handle my Chunni, my chunni slipped from head and within a second, a very angry amritdhari man went, kuriyeh ser dhak apna. He said in such an anger, I cried at the spot. He walked away like some emotionless man and mom handled me lol. An image of religious people left a bad mark on my mind and I joined the people saying oh Religion is the reason of war lol. I know stupid example, but develop love for everybody regardless of anything. For a person you seem like a nice guy but your weird ideas for sikhi are something.

He is amritdhari i think. He said he did sins.

Peshi? Good luck .

Hahaha.. That reply is classic lol

Apparently, you are judging people based on whether they have taken Amrit or not. Religious fanaticism is the reason I got away from Sikhi and never had the desire to learn, until my Love increased for this Path. Niguray is such an offensive word lol. I am listening to it and having love for 10th Master and then I read your comments about me being Niguri. Ouch!! Lol. It's all good, in few years, your religion and my Niguri status will just stay here with our dead body.

you know there are many people born in Sikh families who don't drink, eat halal and sleep around, have love for sikhi. Follow everything a good person is supposed to be. Don't call me non sikh just because I am not amritdhari and not Hindu. Umm rude lol

Do people get married in the samparda you follow? Since celibacy is a High choice and women are not human. I think most of the men just avoid women like plague so anand karaj is not even needed. Right?

like this but want iron.

It's in the sentence, you just gotta read it.

Where can I buy simrana? Like Kara type but with Iron beads. But want it to fit my arm. Like not too lose and not too tight. I have big hands but small wrist so fitting anything is a huge problem for me. There is a story of 8th Master about Mala too. @paapiman My Sikh encyclopedia brother, Do you know this saakhi? It's about a man asking 8th Master about Mala and he said 7th Masters Mala is even prettier. Man was a thief and wanted to steal i think. Never thought that way. Thank you for explaining.

If you have faith in my words then I would say do 44 paths of Japji sahib in a day and you will be Enlightened. But the trick is do you have 100% faith in my words, do you believe my words will come true? I would say give it a go and see how it goes. 4 Paaths pf Japji sahib can be done in an hour so 11 hours of Hard work to complete 44. See where it gets you.Good Luck!

Also for those of you who are scared of technology radiation and EMF, putting phone or iPad in an airplane mode helps a lot. I just found out few days ago, now I don't wrap my phone in an aluminum foil .:p

This is soo beautiful, especially when I had a dream of an adorable baby and saw this picture after few hours . It was not mine, I think I was taking care of somebody's chubby cute Jeya baby. His round cheeks and was wearing an orangish patka. He's was being so naughty and someone told me to slap him so he will reform. I did that in automatic suggestion way and he just went quiet. I picked him up and started walking and was feeling horrible so started kissing him to make the pain go away. But he was so quiet :(. I stil feel bad. I need to go back in that dream and tell him to slap me or kick me. :(( Btw just discovered this, used to hear female version. This is good too

all those Eff words reminded me of this guy and now he's on repeat. Now you might be wondering how. I don't like cursing and that's why I gave up rap music long time ago but then I stumbled upon this spiritual religious guy and his cursing does not make me mad. I forgot about him and now after many years I found him lol. So thank you. What if he had Formula type, Can he still pight ju? I dislike this word so much, I don't know how to make my Aunt/mom stop saying it without letting them know what is it. Another thing I hear is Benis ( beans). Don't call my mind dirty lol but it's so obvious when I hear Benis, what I think, brother of Benis is. Sorry young kids on the forum.

Great job for doing sehaj path in 7 days. That's great.

Yessss!!!! shes back :)

What is admin cut?

I never read it as f**** up I always read it as effed up. Cuz I think then it's not that offensive. And even punjabi people use that word so much, daney eff loh. Like seriously it's better to say daney kha loh. Smh

I quit!!.. You just took all the fun outta this Game.

Galah née kadi deeaa hundiya.

Some of the things are automatic, for me I woke up couple times in the middle of the night by hearing loud noises outside. I wake up and my heart is going crazy and I just rush outside to make sure everything is okay and find bro and dad arguing and talking so loudly since dad is drunk and bro can't handle his madness. The emotions I go through are hard to express but will try. It's usually a fight or flight response where I rush outside to save both of them so they won't get into physical fight but when my pleading does not make them stop verbal argument then I start shaking like crazy and that shaking gets so hard I don't have enough stamina to stand. I don't cry at that moment, it's just stupid shaking gets me so weak. I know usually fear of one of my family member getting hurts get so heavy that my body starts shutting down. Man it's crazy, luckily it has been calm since couple few months. Thank vaheguru. I have cried couple times too but it usually because I was like maybe one of them will see the tears and will control the drnk attitde or anger. I guess at that moment, when pleading does not work, I have used tear to make them stop bu oh well men and their ego are barely loosen up with tears :( My mom freaks out over small stuff and her breathing gets so heavy and then she go around like saying haye rabba haye rabba. We all have different ways to cope with trauma but yea that fake crying is annoying. I onl saw it back in India here people stay calm. when my dadiI ji passed away, I was 16 I think. I got the news around 4 am and I had no emotions. No pain at all. Did not spend much time with her so maybe there was no bond and she did not care about me much either. Even though I used to g to her when she was diagnosed with cancer and used to take care of her but I did not do it cuz I wanted too. Dad forced me so needless to say there was no emotional attachment. She passed away and I did not cry, I went to funeral. It was not that much crying. No one did fake crying and even cousins were calm too. I stayed in funeral and was waiting for my tears to show up cuz I did not want people to think I did not care she went away. I was super emotionless that day. I was even the last one to give her the flower and have a last look and as soon as I went near her and tried to put flowers and saw her face that's when I got the shock that shes gone and she's dead. I burst into tears and had a loud cry and being a quiet person that surprised me. So I realized that some time in situations like this you can stay calm until it hits you hard. My bro cousin kept going to restroom to cry since he did not want anyone to see his tears, I wish he would have not care about that men should not cry . also when she passed away, before dying she always talked about tractors, land back in Punjab. Now I know where her surti was, she did path on and off but was not that good with her heart area. I have way too much attachment with my dada ji, he's healthy and happy but I know one day he will have to go too and that sucks. Like I want him to live 20 more years so he can play with my future kids. But karmi apo apni so I won't think a lot abou this stuff but losing people sucks