Practical Ways Of Avoiding Lust

[Samarbir Singh]

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[Samarbir Singh]

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[GurjantGnostic]

On 12/28/2021 at 3:02 PM, Samarbir Singh said:

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So all of my fellow Sikhs. Would you allow, let’s say hypothetically your a male Sikh with a traditional mindset, would you allow your daughter to date and have causal sex with other people, of course not right! It’s not only a traditional Punjabi mindset but this mindset also comes from a religious standpoint. And don’t get me wrong sex isn’t looked down upon if done with your wife or husband but hooking up with different people for pleasure is not allowed by the gurus. So it’s many things that build this mindset. But I myself sometimes think to myself when I do have kids I cannot force them, but can try your best to show the right path, and kids take it to heart because we tell just tell them no! But we need to tell them through a religious point and why it’s wrong. I had to realize that someone cannot force Sikhi onto you, you have to experience and learn about it through your own curiosity. So this my thinking gursikho!

Bhul Chuk Maaf

My mother did a good job informing me to make my own decisions. So it gave me little to rebel against. Had that advice been Gurmat, I simply would not have made a lot of the mistakes I made. I'm just thankful to be welcomed into Sikhi so I can become healthy and appropriate and heal. 

If our kids choose to actually become Amritdhari, after immersion in Sikhi as Mona or Keshdhari that is the strongest Amrit. We force it on them it's over. Sexual rebellion, drugs, everything we advised against will go out the window. But there is a fine line between speaking truth and giving loving proper advice and condoning horrible selfish destructive behavior. 

[sevak]

On 3/6/2016 at 10:39 AM, paapiman said:

Some more tips (from another topic):

• Diet control - Avoid spicy food, Garlic, eating from outside, etc.
• Before you go to sleep, recite Sri Kirtan Sohela Sahib jee 5 times, instead of one. Do jaap of Rakheya day shabad. This won't take much time
• Keep playing Gurbani on an audio player, while you are asleep
• When you wake up, immediately start doing jaap of Mool Mantar or any Shabad you like. Keep the mala/counter nearby.
• Engage in physical workout, when sexual thoughts attack
• Wash your hands, feet and face with cold water, when sexual thoughts attack
• Start listening to Katha and Kirtan, when sexual thoughts attack. For most people, one can concentrate in them, better than Naam Simran/Nitnem.
• Start playing a game or watching a documentary or engage in any other activity, which can assist you in diverting your mind from sexual thoughts

 

Bhul chuk maaf

The only way is via Guru Shabad / Gurbani. Rest is all superficial. Constant saturation of mind with Gurbani and focussed listenning to Gurbani.

[Guransh SIngh]

On 9/4/2023 at 12:13 PM, sevak said:

The only way is via Guru Shabad / Gurbani. Rest is all superficial. Constant saturation of mind with Gurbani and focussed listenning to Gurbani.

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Even I struggle a lot with lust and man ki mail and I would like too share some bachans of Baba Nand Singh ji which have really helped me in this fight against such a formidable enemy:

1. Always do ardaas to guru sahib that "Baba ji saada imtihaan na lao asi sada fail haa" translating to Guru jee please don't take my test, I will always fail. Do rehem on me.

2. Once Baba ji was disturbed in his meditation by kaljug who told him that why are you not letting me do my work, this is my yug, I have to put people in maya's grasp and you are propagating naam jaap and amrit chhakna and pushing people away from maya and making me powerless thus in the process, then he said that I would have already put a stop to you if you didn't have the pehra of sukhmani sahib. Then baba ji smiled and thanked him that you yourself informed me of what you are scared of and that's why in nanaksar, sukhmani sahib path is done 24/7.

Therefore, always have pehra of sukhmani sahib, it is the pragat bani saroop of satnaam. If not able to do full path, atleast do some astpadis in a day because sukhmani sahib is very beneficial and kaljug is scared of the powerful bani.

3. " kaljug pehla nitnem chudanda hai, je tuhada nitnem pakka hai kaljug tuhada kuch nhi vigad sakda" translating kaljug first makes you leave nitnem, if you are steadfast in your nitnem kaljug cannot do anything to you. Therefore to protect yourself from the powerful grasp of kaljug and 5 vikaars, we shoulf never leave shelter of nitnem which protects us in ways we cannot even imagine.

Bhul chuk maaf jee

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