tryingtoimprove Posted January 9, 2016 Report Share Posted January 9, 2016 I am starting this blog to improve myself for 14 days. Here are my rules for dos & donts. Wish me luck. -1)Do not watch youtube, shows, hollywood movies, nudity, porn or songs -2)Wake up at 2:40 am 3) Do Nitnem, & 12 Malas Moolmantar Day 1 begins on New Moon day tomorrow ( Masya), & concludes Day 14 Full Moon. I will keep the sangat updated on my progress. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted January 9, 2016 Report Share Posted January 9, 2016 8 hours ago, tryingtoimprove said: I am starting this blog to improve myself for 14 days. Here are my rules for dos & donts. Wish me luck. -1)Do not watch youtube, shows, hollywood movies, nudity, porn or songs -2)Wake up at 2:40 am 3) Do Nitnem, & 12 Malas Moolmantar Day 1 begins on New Moon day tomorrow ( Masya), & concludes Day 14 Full Moon. I will keep the sangat updated on my progress. Good one brother. Best of luck. Dhan Guru Nanak........toon hee Nirankaar Bhul chuk maaf 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tryingtoimprove Posted January 9, 2016 Author Popular Post Report Share Posted January 9, 2016 Day 1 - not able to do 2:40 am, but woke up 6 am, better than before - only watched a indian reality show for 30 mins, was too addicted to give up , will try to give up in coming days, otherwise good - Nitnem & 12 malas completed with Guru's Grace. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 10, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) Day 2 - woke up 4:35 am from bed, better than before, slept later for 2 hrs from 8 to 10am, will try to avoid that. - 5 Banis completed - Moolmantar completed Edited January 11, 2016 by tryingtoimprove update 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amardeep Posted January 10, 2016 Report Share Posted January 10, 2016 stay in chardi kala and keep us posted in your progress 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 11, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2016 Day 3 - woke up 4:51 am, 5 Banis done - lustful thoughts increasing esp during dreams, vivid dreams, I feel as the energy increases Lust also increases. But so far good, no break in vow. Had a dream, where I was reading a book & saw bright blue colored chakra popping out from the page 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted January 11, 2016 Report Share Posted January 11, 2016 1 minute ago, tryingtoimprove said: Day 3 - woke up 4:51 am, 5 Banis done - lustful thoughts increasing esp during dreams, vivid dreams, I feel as the energy increases Lust also increases. But so far good, no break in vow. Had a dream, where I was reading a book & saw bright blue colored chakra popping out from the page Bro, are you reading Sri Kirtan Sohela Sahib and Rakheya day shabad before sleeping? Bhul chuk maaf 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 11, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 11, 2016 1 hour ago, paapiman said: Bro, are you reading Sri Kirtan Sohela Sahib and Rakheya day shabad before sleeping?Bhul chuk maaf Yes brother, I read that at Rehras time. But it does not seem to help. I woke up today with intense feelings of lustful desires, it ruins the whole day and breaks the will power. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 12, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2016 Day 3 ( Jan 11) - today was a bad day, failure, lustful thoughts through out day, ended up watching bad stuff and masturbated after 7 days of celibacy. - Nitnem was done, only 2 malas of Moolmantar today - I dont know if I should still continue till day 14 or give this up. - having a headache now due to failure -ps. did 3 malas before sleeping, so in total 5 malas. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GurpreetKaur Posted January 12, 2016 Report Share Posted January 12, 2016 (edited) 10 minutes ago, tryingtoimprove said: Day 3 ( Jan 11) - today was a bad day, failure, lustful thoughts through out day, ended up watching bad stuff and masturbated after 7 days of celibacy. - Nitnem was done, only 2 malas of Moolmantar today - I dont know if I should still continue till day 14 or give this up. - having a headache now due to failure Don't you dare give up lol. It's okay one bad day but still you did what you meant too. So don't give up, push yourself up to the 14th day. How about you play something before you go to sleep, like find some 8 hours long video over gurmantar or put on repeat and play it if you can sleep with it. So when you wake up first thing your senses will hear is vaheguroo. Then lustful thoughts won't bother you much. But don't give up. You are still on right track. We all fail :) Edit: oh you said through out the day. I would say if you free carry a mala or tally counter in your hand . It will remind you that you gotta do mul mantar. Good luck . Edited January 12, 2016 by GurpreetKaur 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted January 12, 2016 Report Share Posted January 12, 2016 51 minutes ago, tryingtoimprove said: Day 3 ( Jan 11) - today was a bad day, failure, lustful thoughts through out day, ended up watching bad stuff and masturbated after 7 days of celibacy. - Nitnem was done, only 2 malas of Moolmantar today - I dont know if I should still continue till day 14 or give this up. Brother, Daas would humbly request you to keep going. Try to forget the episode of Masturbation, as a bad dream. Gurparsaad, the tips below might help Before you go to sleep, recite Sri Kirtan Sohela Sahib jee 5 times, instead of one. Do jaap of Rakheya day shabad. This won't take much time Keep playing Gurbani on an audio player, while you are asleep When you wake up, immediately start doing jaap of Mool Mantar. Keep the mala/counter nearby. Engage in physical workout, when sexual thoughts attack Wash your hands, feet and face with cold water, when sexual thoughts attack Start listening to Katha, when sexual thoughts attack Start playing a game or watching a documentary or engage in any other activity, which can assist you in diverting your mind from sexual thoughts Bhul chuk maaf 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 12, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 12, 2016 Day 4 ( Jan 12) - woke up 1:30 am , slept from 4:30 to 9 am. -5 banis done , 6 malas done, 6 pending - no bad dreams or thoughts last night or this morning Thanks Papiman, & Gurpreet , I will keep your tips in mind - hast-maithun again :(, was weak from yesterday, didn't try to fight much. still gotta do malas...3 pm now - total malas done: 8 - at night did 5 kirtan sohilas 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GurpreetKaur Posted January 13, 2016 Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 I had to google that term brother , thought it was some spiritual state . Ah man kill me lol. But it's all good, you did nitnem and mool mantar. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post paapiman Posted January 13, 2016 Popular Post Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 23 hours ago, tryingtoimprove said: - hast-maithun again :(, was weak from yesterday, didn't try to fight much. still gotta do malas...3 pm now Brother, semen is a very precious fluid for our bodies. Loss of semen, gradually destroys a male body. What will you do, if you start bleeding blood? You will try to stop it...right? Why? - because it is vital liquid..right? Do you know, how much blood is needed to make semen? Please have a look below. Quote The Ayurvedic medicine book “Health in your hands” volume 1 by Dr. Devendra Vora explains in greature detail that 1 drop of semen is equal to between 40-80 drops of blood depending on the individual and how much potency he has built up. Unquote [1] [1] - https://old.prabhupadavani.org/manohar/MW-001_050/A-MW013.html Quote What are the Benefits of Semen Retention? There are many benefits to semen retention for physical health, mental health and spiritual awareness. Some of the more common ones include: Physical increased energy and drive boosted immune system cures erectile dysfunction prevents premature ejaculation Mental more confidence improved memory more decisive Spiritual calmer and less prone to anger more connected to spiritual nature control over material urges Unquote [2] [2] - http://authentictantra.com/semen-retention-and-how-it-will-change-your-life/ Bhul chuk maaf 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 Day 5 ( Jan 13, 2016) - woke up really late 8:30 am, I think this was the effect of semen loss in 2 consecutive days, this is how my body responds by being lazy & not getting up Amritvela. - did basic nitnem, still have to do malas. I am behind 21 malas + 12 malas for today. - I resolve to discipline my mind by doing 33 malas today. ( 11:00 AM). Lets see how this goes. ps, Thanks for mental support all. - so the resolve did not get completed, only did 12 malas in total - everything was going in fine till at the last moment, when I got excited thinking about someone, & to relieve myself on the unpleasant feelings I did hast-maithun again. I thought I would be improving but it is not working so far... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harjots8963 Posted January 13, 2016 Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 2 hours ago, tryingtoimprove said: Day 5 ( Jan 13, 2016) - woke up really late 8:30 am, I think this was the effect of semen loss in 2 consecutive days, this is how my body responds by being lazy & not getting up Amritvela. - did basic nitnem, still have to do malas. I am behind 21 malas + 12 malas for today. - I resolve to discipline my mind by doing 33 malas today. ( 11:00 AM). Lets see how this goes. ps, Thanks for mental support all. What mala size are you using? 32? 108? Thanks. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harjots8963 Posted January 13, 2016 Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 Also check out this thread.... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 13, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 5 minutes ago, Harjots8963 said: What mala size are you using? 32? 108? Thanks. 108 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GurpreetKaur Posted January 13, 2016 Report Share Posted January 13, 2016 You should watch this if you can understand Punjabi. It's about kundalini by Maskeen ji. Worth listening, if Punjabi and audio is a problem, you can type kundalini surjhee by Maskeen ji and someone on other Sikh forum did the translation in English. It will help you with your problem since you will understand things in more depth. Good luck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 14, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 14, 2016 Day 6 ( Jan 14) - woke up 8:02 am , 5 Banis check - masturbated again...:( no malas so far... - A lot of my problems seem to be interrelated. Depression, Career failure. Not Married. - It seems like a failure but I will not give up. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 15, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2016 Here is something I came across, really liked the scientific approach on pretty much all the addictions. thought I would share. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 15, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 15, 2016 I need to discipline myself more. Hopefully, overtime the will-power builds up . Just need to keep trying & trying. The longest I have gone in the past with celibacy is two times, once for 45 days, another for 50 days. And few times 20ish days. It can be done again, just need to rewire my circuits. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harjots8963 Posted January 15, 2016 Report Share Posted January 15, 2016 Have you been trying the methods listed by Paapiman? I HIGHLY recommend you read "Se Kineya" it is the biography of Sant Harnam Singh Ji Rampur Khera it is incredibly inspirational. I am sure it will help you alot! Keep your mind occupied as much as you can with Katha, Kirtan, And Simran. When Inhale Breath in Wahe Out Guru. This will help you balance yourself out. Stay Strong!!!http://www.sikhvibes.com/downloads/PDFs/Se%20Kinehiya%20-%20English.pdf 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted January 16, 2016 Report Share Posted January 16, 2016 On 1/14/2016 at 9:49 AM, tryingtoimprove said: Day 6 ( Jan 14) - woke up 8:02 am , 5 Banis check - masturbated again...:( no malas so far... - A lot of my problems seem to be interrelated. Depression, Career failure. Not Married. - It seems like a failure but I will not give up. Bro, where are the updates for Jan.15? Bhul chuk maaf 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryingtoimprove Posted January 16, 2016 Author Report Share Posted January 16, 2016 Day 7 ( Jan 15) - woke up 8:30 am, 7 banis check, did no malas - the day was going fine until night, when got reminded of someone & to relieve unpleasentness did masturbation - i feel like a failure thats why I didn't want to continue this blog, but I will do it till Day 14 since you mentioned. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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