No sangat getting me down

[Sehaj]

I have a few questions if anyone could please help by answering.

If I want to take amrit and enjoy simran and speaking of Waheguru through the day... but my spouse isn’t at all in the same mind frame, doesn’t have the goal of Amrit, or stopping drinking alcohol, cutting hair etc then how would this work. Do I keep doing Ardas in the hope he joins me? I really wish I had sangat and someone waking up at amrit vela with me who felt the same passion as me. It’s difficult as my spouse enjoys going to restaurants and the pub for a drink, I’m just not interested in that anymore. I want to become unattached to this sort of stuff.

What about two souls joining in marriage before going up. I don’t see how that will happen? I feel it’s a shame that the meaning of anand karaj and laavan is out of the window as only I want to go towards Waheguru (right now, maybe he will in the future?).

If I took amrit and my partner doesn’t then what happens about jooth, sexual intercourse etc? Don’t see how it wouldn’t create a huge wedge between us and how the marriage would survive. I’ve got to a point however that if it is not meant to last for this issue then that’s okay by me. I’m not wasting this life for anyone.

Has anyone got personal experience of this situation?

In my close family, with Waheguru Jis kirpa so far I’ve been the one who’s been fortunate to gain more knowledgeable on sikhi (even though my knowledge is basic compared to most sikhs) and the one trying to get closer to amrit - I just feel a bit sad that I don’t have someone pushing me, sangat and anyone who can encourage me instead of me encouraging them, someone who has the knowledge to teach me. Someone to talk to on a level about everything rather than me having to hold back because no one else feels the same. I’m feeling like this everyday- alone in this path and it’s making me feel weird. There isn’t a huge sikh sangat where I live either.  I wish I had a true anand karaj partner, someone who told me to take amrit and do this and that instead of me trying to subtly get them interested. 

[Soulfinder]

On 6/24/2020 at 8:38 PM, Sehaj said:

I have a few questions if anyone could please help by answering.

If I want to take amrit and enjoy simran and speaking of Waheguru through the day... but my spouse isn’t at all in the same mind frame, doesn’t have the goal of Amrit, or stopping drinking alcohol, cutting hair etc then how would this work. Do I keep doing Ardas in the hope he joins me? I really wish I had sangat and someone waking up at amrit vela with me who felt the same passion as me. It’s difficult as my spouse enjoys going to restaurants and the pub for a drink, I’m just not interested in that anymore. I want to become unattached to this sort of stuff.

What about two souls joining in marriage before going up. I don’t see how that will happen? I feel it’s a shame that the meaning of anand karaj and laavan is out of the window as only I want to go towards Waheguru (right now, maybe he will in the future?).

If I took amrit and my partner doesn’t then what happens about jooth, sexual intercourse etc? Don’t see how it wouldn’t create a huge wedge between us and how the marriage would survive. I’ve got to a point however that if it is not meant to last for this issue then that’s okay by me. I’m not wasting this life for anyone.

Has anyone got personal experience of this situation?

In my close family, with Waheguru Jis kirpa so far I’ve been the one who’s been fortunate to gain more knowledgeable on sikhi (even though my knowledge is basic compared to most sikhs) and the one trying to get closer to amrit - I just feel a bit sad that I don’t have someone pushing me, sangat and anyone who can encourage me instead of me encouraging them, someone who has the knowledge to teach me. Someone to talk to on a level about everything rather than me having to hold back because no one else feels the same. I’m feeling like this everyday- alone in this path and it’s making me feel weird. There isn’t a huge sikh sangat where I live either.  I wish I had a true anand karaj partner, someone who told me to take amrit and do this and that instead of me trying to subtly get them interested. 

Wjkk wjkf bhen ji

 

Sorry for the late reply as dass just read your post today.

 

What you can do is keep doing ardas satguru will do kirpa one day its not easy but you will get there.

 

Here is a quick search on the subject i did

http://kam1825.podbean.com/e/can-someone-take-amrit-without-their-partner/

 

 

[SunnySingh]

On 6/24/2020 at 8:38 PM, Sehaj said:

I have a few questions if anyone could please help by answering.

If I want to take amrit and enjoy simran and speaking of Waheguru through the day... but my spouse isn’t at all in the same mind frame, doesn’t have the goal of Amrit, or stopping drinking alcohol, cutting hair etc then how would this work. Do I keep doing Ardas in the hope he joins me? I really wish I had sangat and someone waking up at amrit vela with me who felt the same passion as me. It’s difficult as my spouse enjoys going to restaurants and the pub for a drink, I’m just not interested in that anymore. I want to become unattached to this sort of stuff.

What about two souls joining in marriage before going up. I don’t see how that will happen? I feel it’s a shame that the meaning of anand karaj and laavan is out of the window as only I want to go towards Waheguru (right now, maybe he will in the future?).

If I took amrit and my partner doesn’t then what happens about jooth, sexual intercourse etc? Don’t see how it wouldn’t create a huge wedge between us and how the marriage would survive. I’ve got to a point however that if it is not meant to last for this issue then that’s okay by me. I’m not wasting this life for anyone.

Has anyone got personal experience of this situation?

In my close family, with Waheguru Jis kirpa so far I’ve been the one who’s been fortunate to gain more knowledgeable on sikhi (even though my knowledge is basic compared to most sikhs) and the one trying to get closer to amrit - I just feel a bit sad that I don’t have someone pushing me, sangat and anyone who can encourage me instead of me encouraging them, someone who has the knowledge to teach me. 

Someone to talk to on a level about everything rather than me having to hold back because no one else feels the same. I’m feeling like this everyday- alone in this path and it’s making me feel weird. There isn’t a huge sikh sangat where I live either.  I wish I had a true anand karaj partner, someone who told me to take amrit and do this and that instead of me trying to subtly get them interested. 

Pen Jee,

I am going to answer your points in "black" above.

* The real Amrit is got within,by the constant jaap of His Name, which washes away all our karmas and thus make us free from maya and we get merged into Waheguru.

* The 2 souls joining in marriage is not spiritual but at a physical level to settle our karmic acconts, our True husband is Waheguru Himself, and to Him we have to please by chanting His Name, then as a Father, as an Husband, He will give us shelter at His Lotus feet, it is to Him for whom we have to look for and please Him, He alone is pure, true and perfect. 

* Do not expect the world to do anything good, if you have realized that you have to do His bhakti, do it by yourself, He Himself will pull you, that is it.

Fulfil your duties as mother, as a wife, as a worker, whichever field it maybe, just give the world what it needs from you, then give the remaining time, mind, heart and soul to our True Sachay Patshah, Waheguru, the source of all comfort and bliss.

By attaching ourselves to His Lotus Feet through meditation, can we ever be at peace with ourselves for once and all.

[singh1981]

Do you want to a BOLD answer. Don't do sangat of a Sakat. Go, take amrit and leave his sangat for good, focus the rest of your life on Waheguru. 

[Sikhilove]

Online Sangat on here is good to have, discussions and talking about gurbani is good. Above all, read gurbani, and believe the Gurus. The world/ humans and even spirits will try and sell you rubbish once you step onto this path. The True Bhagats don’t buy or believe it. They only believe the Guru.