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Akaal ustat one of my favourite bani's to listen to !! 
 
 

Enjoy
 
 

My 2 cents or 2 pennies...
My comment is not really about this topic but just wanted to say that i have noticed over the last 6 months or so (maybe before) that this forum is going down the same avenue as sikh sangat. Meaning all they ever do is argue and the pattern is very similar to what has happened on this topic..on SS a topic gets side tracked and then there is a battle between 2 groups consisting of 3-4 members on each side and admin only ban the topic once their ideology is put into serious doubt (challenged), its not a debate/discussion but an argument. 
Im not saying this is the exact case here but just a pattern occurring on some posts here, having said that the intelligence, patience and open mindedness on this forum is miles ahead of any other sikh forum..
 

My 2 cents or 2 pennies...
My comment is not really about this topic but just wanted to say that i have noticed over the last 6 months or so (maybe before) that this forum is going down the same avenue as sikh sangat. Meaning all they ever do is argue and the pattern is very similar to what has happened on this topic..on SS a topic gets side tracked and then there is a battle between 2 groups consisting of 3-4 members on each side and admin only ban the topic once their ideology is put into serious doubt (challenged), its not a debate/discussion but an argument. 
Im not saying this is the exact case here but just a pattern occurring on some posts here, having said that the intelligence, patience and open mindedness on this forum is miles ahead of any other sikh forum..
 

There is so much fight and argument over gender inequality. One bad example I saw was when a Sikh couple got married and the female chose to walk side by side with him instead of being behind him because she thought if she walks behind him then there is not an equality. I know there are many men who dominant women like crazy and it's certainly wrong but I have seen many women who fight everywhere under the name of equal rights too. How are we going to learn the value of forgiveness if all we do is battle against the gender. My mom does not say my dads name and I never questioned that because Mata gujri ji never said the name of her husband. Of course, when I get married I will say his name since old time is gone but he will get proper respect and I won't have fights over gender rights. How can I conquer my anger and learn to see Vaheguroo in everyone while I am having an argument over that he did not help me while doing the dishes.
Gurbani teaches us to see Vaheguroo ji in everybody and learn to forgive others since in the end what matter most is our own actions. If I am a guy I can go around yelling I am a man and you woman worship me, respect me and in return I won't give you respect. This is wrong. If I am a woman, which I am lol. I can go around saying Nope, I won't do the dishes unless you help me since I believe in equal rights. I see that wrong, if I am not dying and can do dishes by myself I will do it lol. I know cheesy Example but I hope my point can be understood lol. 
when a person lower themselves it does not make them weak, it makes them stronger. If someone curse at you and you choose to stay quiet then you are not weak, you showed your strength. It's super easy to curse back but it takes real strength to not curse back and let it go. Speaking from my experience, people think I am weak when I stay quiet but in my mind I don't hurt others and is not cursing back at the Vaheguroo I see in them.
You all are more mature and experienced than me, sorry if said anything wrong.

I dont mean to shit you up or anything, but this does seem like a typical case of jaadu tuna (black magic). Trust me you are still at a age where you can change but you need to be strong. as in most situations as yourself things can get worse for a while when you start to recite gurbani meditate etc..
I have also been in a similar situation but i was ignorant to the dark forces and invited light energy after a whole lot of damage was done..
If you possibly can let sukhmani sahib path continuosly play in your room (also recite if you can). im not well equipped in gurbani but dukh daroo sukh rog paya ja sukh taam ha hoyi springs to mind....its only worldly pain that gives us ultimate sukh/bliss as this is when we devout and surrender to an energy that has no initial logical meaning..hence you dive into spirituality which is when you start to live less in the mind..
also remember no matter how hard it is there will be a time when you look back at this dark times an take it as a blessing..probably the last thing you want to hear, people used to say it to me all the time..but time is healing..
bhagat fareed says he though his house was on fire but when he stood on the hill he saw all houses on fire...theres deeper spiritual meanings but lets just take the basic physical material world as a meaning of 'we think we got problems but every household has'...trust me theres people in a lot worse situation..be blessed that you in these dark times can recite gurbani and listen to katha...
always look at the guru in everyhing meaning that which brings you out of darkness into light... maybe the so called friends you could have made would have led you into darker habits who knows.. ask your satiguru to bring quality of friends who are god minded... 
your jigsaw pieces seem to be scattered at the moment with satigurus kirpa they will be put in place for you to start seeing a clear pic..
 

My heart goes out to you. It will be difficult to get a good life, but you've already taken the first step by coming to this forum and sharing. That's a big starting step and I believe that you can do it and take it further and achieve a good life that you want.
In order to get that life, you gotta ask yourself, what is the ONE THING you can do right now that will improve your state?

Recognize that your life is ALL Chaos, NO Order. Everything is messed up and nothing seems to be in a good place.

So the idea is to try to establish some kind of order, some kind of rhythm. Try to get into some kind of a structured life and then go from there.

You want to start introducing activities that will provide a much needed structure to your life.

1. Go to sleep and wake up at the same time. Maintain your circadian rhythms. (awake during light, asleep during dark)
2. Get any job that you can get. Any job. because a job will give you a strong structure to build your life.
3. Do you have friends? Start meeting people.
4. Go to the Gurudwara and meditate.
5. Get driving lessons and get used to driving, slowly but surely you will do it.
etc

When you start doing these kind of things that give your life some order that you can build around. It is a like a foundation of a building.

Make it really easy. Pick just ONE THING you can do immediately, right now and start working on that... right now.

hhmm paaji...if you want to progress in nanak naam....its not really about language skills...its about connecting to that naam that is not judgemental....
i just hope people feel bliss of naam..

hhmm paaji...if you want to progress in nanak naam....its not really about language skills...its about connecting to that naam that is not judgemental....
i just hope people feel bliss of naam..