y2k Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji fatehHello EveryoneMy name is was Robert and I am now 13 years old living in Jammu with my adoptive Sikh family, I was born in Toronto, Canada and I am of European background. I became an exchange student to India two years at the age of 11 when I got accepted into a student exchange program so that is how I came to stay with my current adoptive Sikh family. My Host Sikh family consisted of a father and mother, 2 daughter’s ages 4 and 8 and a two boys which one is my age and the other is 6 years old plus the father’s biological parents. After staying with them for four months the entire family became so fond of me that they asked me if I wanted to be adopted as their son. You see, I am a foster child back in Canada since I was two years old because my biological mother was declared unfit to raise me due to her drug addiction and severe paranoid schizophrenia, as a result the judge put me in foster care. Since my mother’s family was also not considered fit to raise me either nor did I know my father or his family as I was conceived under a one night stand so as a result I basically said yes to my host’s family request to adopt me. It took them a year and 9 months (the paperwork was finalized on June 24) to get the paper work done so my adoption by this family would be official; during this time my hair grew down to my shoulders as I was not allowed to cut my hair while I am living with them. Anyway I am writing to say that something bad happened yesterday that put a wedge between me and my adoptive Sikh family, I got into a fight with my adoptive brother while playing video games and I accidentally tore off his patka, now my adoptive parents and grandparents are furious, they are not talking to me right now. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harjots8963 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 That's a huge Nono man. Very disrespectful. I suggest you genuinely apologize to them. Promising it won't happen again. Basically seek forgiveness. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
y2k Posted July 12, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 they are all ignoring me 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 they are all ignoring meSincerely apologize to God first and then apologize to your family.Bhul chuk maaf 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
y2k Posted July 12, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 i will do tomarrow 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amardeep Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Guys give it a rest. They're kids, this is what they do. No reason in putting a guilt trip on him telling him to ask forgiveness from God when he is not even a Sikh! Y2K - Let us know how it goes. I hope you're enjoying India, - it must be quite a cultural shock for you to be living abroad at such an early age. I hope people are friendly and taking good care of you. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalsingh101 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 They will get over it sooner or later. Just avoid doing it again (which I'm sure you know by now! lol). That being said, me and one of my brothers used in get into scraps now and then when growing up, so it's nothing shocking to me. Chill kid. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 No reason in putting a guilt trip on him telling him to ask forgiveness from God when he is not even a Sikh!Bro, he does not have to be a Sikh, to ask forgiveness from God. Non-Sikhs can also seek forgiveness.It is always good to seek forgiveness from God first, before the actual victim, as God resides in the victim too. When one does ardaas with full concentration and love, then God can perform miracles, which includes changing the mindset of the victim.Bhuk chuk maaf 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalsingh101 Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 Stop blowing it out of proportion people.. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paapiman Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 i will do tomarrowGod willing, everything works out well for you.Bhul chuk maaf 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaikaara Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Maybe you can apologize by writing a letter and letting them know you didnt have any idea...how aold are you by the way ? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalsingh101 Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Maybe you can apologize by writing a letter and letting them know you didnt have any idea...how aold are you by the way ?Read the first line of the OP. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post y2k Posted July 13, 2015 Author Popular Post Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Hi GuysI apologized to everyone after breakfast this morning during a family meeting and I was told my apology was accepted in which I was glad to hear. I was about to leave the living room when I was summoned back only to be told that the entire family has decided that I am to become a Sikh because since I am now legally their son, they have a moral, religious and legal responsibility to make me a Sikh. After they said this they had my 13 adoptive brother (the one whom I tore his patka off during an argument) to tie a patka on my head. Since my hair is past my shoulders (I wear my hair in a ponytail) due to not cutting it for 2 years because of their household rule of no haircutting for anyone living under their roof, the little bun of hair that shapes the ball of the patka is of good size. They showed me a mirror after the patka was tied around my head and I was amazed on my new look, I really liked wearing a patka. My adoptive father then laughed and said “since you are going to be part of this family, you must become a Sikh and to do that you must look like a Sikh”. I told them I am grateful for becoming part of their family and I will embrace Sikhism with all my heart. My adoptive mother told me that they will only let me become baptised and wear a full turban until my beard starts growing until then I will have to wear a patka only. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amardeep Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Hi Y2KDo you feel any pressure on you? That the Family expects you to convert? Thats not good, people should'n convert out of pressure etc. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
y2k Posted July 16, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 this is what i wanted 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amardeep Posted July 16, 2015 Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 Enjoy :) Hopefully the Family is cool again 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harjots8963 Posted July 16, 2015 Report Share Posted July 16, 2015 https://www.youtube.com/user/basicsofsikhiThis youtube channel is FILLED with english vidoes that explain sikhism that will be a great resource :)It also has a ton of Q and A for you to check out!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
y2k Posted July 17, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 17, 2015 Hi guys, it has been 5 days now since I have been wearing a patka and so far everything is going great, many people (including people I do not know) have been congratulating me. However one of my adoptive brother's friends told me that he wishes that tormentors of Sikh children living in the West would be forced to live with a Sikh family in the Punjab and have Sikhism imposed on them as punishment (patka, etc), I knew he was joking but I am not so sure. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amardeep Posted July 17, 2015 Report Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) Haha he is probably just kidding. Punjabi humour can be quite abrupt Edited July 17, 2015 by amardeep 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Premi Posted November 29, 2021 Report Share Posted November 29, 2021 This was an interesting thread wonder how @y2k (Robert) is doing now ? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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