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confession time bruv... did you train??
 

confession time bruv... did you train??
 

Cool. Gonna do a little body weight thing myself now. 
 
@Gunahgar Don't forget to train today bro!

i feel so bad about poor babbu guy...yeah this video was quite good.

i wasn't a big fan of men and women calling each other bro and sis then later hooking up, we would call this the 'sister flex'..lol
however... your situation is different and i would just advise stay friends, keep chatting and see what happens...now that she know's its not 'bhaji' talking to her maybe your convos will change too..she may change her mind. Good luck!
That vids hillarious!!!

No its only been a short while,  < 1 month.
 
True that.  You really can't negotiate attraction. Its either there or not. lol
 
Whats lakhari zone ?   Writers zone ?
 
 
 
Jus kidin.
Some appropriate humor for the situation.
 

Yes and no! lol
 
It depends how she says it. Women from conservative societies can't be seen as too 'hungry', so it may well be that she is playing coy to not look too desperate. Interact with her a little more if possible, see how she interacts. 
My feeling is that, if a girl really does like a bloke - she'll soon overcome that bhen ji bhen ji stuff. Unless you've been close like brother and sister for a long while, in which case you should see her as a sister only.  
You've been put in the lakhari zone! lol

Don't worry i give it back too.. its just friendly banter..
Today's workout was exactly what i expected..I took supermax pre sup and whey protein post workout.own'
chest..bench/incline/cables
biceps...i dont know what you call it but incline bench for bi's...hammer curls, another exercise which i do now know name of, then ez bar(here i literally did about 6-7 curls and thats it...done)..4 exercises in total..i can defo say my bond is patti..lol.. im not nap type of person but i think ill sleep for bit
I thought id take pre sup for just this week, but  that 'down' feeling is soo bad which my cuz says its natural  for come down and just have a sweet drink.. It defo works, you can feel it while training but again come down not good.. Last time i ll experiment with this..(took one full scoop)

Bro, that's half the battle won when you got immediate family on your side.. For me i clashed with my old man a lot but got my support from mum and nani...I think with dad it was an ego thing, like wanted me to be a top lawyer and parade me around like a trophy but having said that its also because hes come through hard times and prob just wanted best for me... see bro, already  a plus by comparing to my situation, im sure if i shared more of my past you'll be soo greatfull of your current situation..lol. i also know people is more messed up situation/past then me..so accept it and just move on/forward..
I'm sure something will come up.....perseverance man..if you really are keen to just get in the area you studied you may want to consider relocating where ever you can get something, you can always go back home once you got experience..
 
lol....wicked man..good on you..

you should serve him the same medicine, go extra militant on his ass, call him pussy for not lifting enough...and see his reaction. it should be hilarious. have fun!

Waheguru

Yes. I use Mahan Kosh. However when I use it, I also keep in mind that there are parts of it that involve the author giving definitions and what parts of it involves the author's own interpretation of certain words. (like any other dictionary)
In dictionaries, they try to be as neutral as possible but there is always some level of interpretation. You can develop enough vivek buddhi to the point where you can start to see differences between definitions and interpretations, and how base definitions give rise to bigger picture, bigger concepts (holistic approach), how larger concepts can be reduced to base definitions (reductionist approach).
In Mahan Kosh, Kahn Singh ji gives his interpretation of Khanda as it is in Chandi di Vaar (and he is quite clear about this being his interpretation). The same interpretation is being parroted (means to be repeated without question) everywhere else, because they all believe that interpretation to be true and no one questions it.

I feel for you bro... 
Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..

ill share with you tomorrow as doing chest and bi's tomorrow..its a good thing but its like.. im dying and he'll be like 'ok we've got one more exercise to do'..lol .. as this is first day going back i know im gonna get in an argument with him.. as last year , first day of training he pushed me so hard it took me a good 4-5 days to recover and i had protein shake after workout..after that workout i cudnt stretch my arms and it stayed in a 45 degree angle for a good 20-30 mins or so and he will be cracking up and im got my pissed off face on..lol..but it's funny man!! I just want the 1st week to be over and following weeks soreness will be the 'good' soreness..lol
and we'll be joking around and once we hit gym his 'serious focused' face comes on..and i start joking about a little, and he will blank me..lol
 

squats & deadlifts is what makes a man , a man. I am being a pussy right now & ignoring squats. lol.
 
i wish i had a cousin like that nearby lol...how does he go militant , do share, it will be entertaining lol

I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
 
Interesting stuff 
 

bro  that initiation is well expensive...mine is £25 fee and £25 pm...If you can afford it go for the rack, squats is a must!!
 
Wicked man, i just did session , feel bit tired now.. 
 
So true, but ive had weights and bench before but sold them on after 6-7 months or so of training. Plus i feel i have to go gym as im paying for it..Ill be training with my cuz but he pisses me off sometimes as he goes a bit militant..lol...(suppose not a bad thing)

I feel for you bro... 
Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..

I like the home option (if you have the space and finances) because you can avoid all that longness with travel and having to dress up for the gym. lol
Though, if you go gym, you'll push yourself more, and may meet a good partner that helps to take you to the next level. 

haha cheat days...slipping in few here n there. lol
actually just did some back workout in home, 105lb back rows , 60lb ez bar curls, i know its weak, but slowly making progress.
I am debating about getting a squat rack , olympic bar, plates ( total cost $500) vs joining a gym ( 150$ inititation + 40 dollars /month+ lots of inconvenience or cheat days possibility). Lets c.
 

@Gunahgar..hows training going? any cheat days..lol??
Im going out my comfort zone and getting back into weight training..lol...I was gonna invest in some weights/bench but decided to join gym instead..im not looking forward to that first week soreness..lol starting tomorow..

I feel for you bro... 
Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..

I feel for you bro... 
Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..

I feel for you bro... 
Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..