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I'll reiterate my previous post above from last year again.
 
I feel it's quite important and hopefully someone may understand the divine aspects of procreation and how the act of bhog can become an act of worship without any carnal pleasures.   I understand that references like panch baeil, panch parhu, panch dokh are mistakenly translated as the panch dhoots, but they are actually referring to the panch indries of "body" . Five thieves, Panch dhoot, Panch chor etc are mostly referencing the five passions in the "mind" . In maya, the five gyan indries or five senses are controlled by the Mind and we also let them control the mind. We have desires for taste, smell, touch, sight and to hear.   In terms of kaam, we let the gyan indries control the mind by letting the mind wanting to see kaami, to touch kaami, to hear kaami and to smell the scent of woman(kaami) . These are pure carnal desires and they are prevalent because Mind is not under control. Nirankar doesn't want you procreating if Mind's not under control does he?     ... Yet we are foolishly taught and told about whats taboo as well as erotica, which gives the  assumption that kaam is a necessary evil for creation of mankind.  We convince ourselves that arousal and intimacy can only occur if gyan indries are directed towards kaam, meaning they are controlling mind and the mind isntt being controlled by Ek.
Gurbani tell you this
ਪੰਚ ਚੇਲੇ ਵਸਿ ਕੀਜਹਿ ਰਾਵਲ ਇਹੁ ਮਨੁ ਕੀਜੈ ਡੰਡਾਤਾ ॥੧॥
Pancẖ cẖele vas kījėh rāval ih man kījai dandāṯā. ||1||
Let the five passions be disciples under your control, O begging Yogi, and make this mind your walking stick. ||1||  
and
ਪੰਚ ਜਨਾ ਲੇ ਵਸਗਤਿ ਰਾਖੈ ਮਨ ਮਹਿ ਏਕੰਕਾਰੇ ॥੧॥
Pancẖ janā le vasgaṯ rākẖai man mėh ekankāre. ||1||
The five passions are kept under control, and the One Lord dwells in the mind. ||1||
 
We let our mind feed and be influenced by maya, Instead, we should let our soul/atma/spiritual self be the master of the mind . Not let maya drenched mind be the master of spiritual self.  
 How do yo do this?  ..... By doing simran to wash the mind of maya filth, then practicing to get single-pointed attention  on the Nirankar.  Eventually mind will be under subjugation and hopefully you are able to make it ik-mikh with the shabad. This stage will help the antar jyot to manifest and one can see their own jyot of soul/nirankar. This is when mind can recognize that it is jyot saroop (man tu jyot saroop hai) and that it had become a slave to maya and ego, but all along,... it's mool(root) was Nirankar.    Now, the amazing part is that when man and woman are in the act of bhog,   it becomes a very divine act of worship without a single element of kaam.   This is where kaam is very misunderstood and foolishly accepted as a necessity.   I can't really explain it any further because it can't be comprehended without experience. 
 

@Ragmaala 
Congratulations and well done, wishing  you both all the heavenly and divine blessings.
 
That's a tricky question but it does depend on your attitude and approach in such matters. I sense that your notion would be quite sensible , therefore it's wise to take these matters at a steady pace and let hukam lead the way. 
 I'd say that it'a priority for both of you to understand the significance of anand karaj.   Anand karaj is about  marriage of the mind to the shabad(waheguru). The sacred ceremony asserts the unity and bond formed between your Two jyots (husband and wife) AND taking the pledge to pursue the journey in merging your Jyots with Waheguru Jyot.   The meanings of anand karaj become deeper over time and that's the beauty of gurbani, (our guru)
Having this understanding should help attain a mindset and attitude that can support the build up and strengthening of eternal and divine bonds between the two of you. These may already be there, but the sensible attitude will help flourish them naturally,  i.e. the "Karaj" will grow stronger and the "anand" shall prosper further.    As i said in the post above, 'kaam' is about the indries and shouldn't really be in the equation.. It's about the hirdas trying to merge in each other's jyot that lead to acts of intimacy. This is the true jyog and bhog, not the kaam desires of senses. 
 
I recommend practicing simran or quiet jap from the hirda area. This is not directly where physical heart is but it's, a little across to the center of chest area.  As a medic, you will be aware that the heart area has so much dynamic activity which is continuously occurring with hukam.  It's amazing with all the different chemical actions, contractions, electrical and magnetic charges that play. The heart's electromagnetic field is about 60 times greater than the brain(ECG to EEG), which is why it is imperative that you do jap in that area as it will have a greater chance or energizing your pineal gland area and the empty small cave above it (sehaj guffa).  You wanna practice jap on hirda and when it's occurring with pace and you feeling energy, you wanna direct it upwards.  You can feel the electromagnetic power from other's heart from a few feet away, especially if it's pumping unconditional energies of love and truth. (try it!)
 

A few points that worked for me when I was younger:
burn up all your body’s energy. don’t go to bed with lots of energy left in your body. workout, work, do whatever you need, but this excess energy might bother you if you go to bed with too much in your body. Stay busy in simran, sangat, seva, learning, work, studying whatever. just stay busy.  socializing with sangat who are clean is helpful. You’ll know if they are clean b/c you can feel their energy, or at the very least notice if you get increase of wrong thoughts around them working towards a large goal really helps to channel your focus and discipline (as noted above).  avoid eating overly sweet or salty or spicy foods. This is especially important in the late afternoon. Avoid all achar from late afternoon onwards. The increased acidity from these foods irritates the sensitive nerves in the genitals, causing the surti to be pulled down. If the surti is just down there, that’s not such a big deal, but most of us will then start to get kaam thoughts b/c we lack discipline. don’t eat too much, only eat as much as the body needs.  don’t eat from the hands of a vikaari person, their negative energy will mess with the food you eat.   
Bhagti things that help:
continual simran, it might be easier if you plant your surti in one of the chakras, as it helps anchor it up high. the key is to prevent it from going to the lower chakra. going low isn’t bad, but just makes it more likely to have kaam thoughts b/c of their association with this area.  imagine the star on Guru Nanak Sahib ji’s holy charan placed at this chakra, it will help raise your surti.  to always have a recording of simran or bani playing helps. When one ear gets tired, switch the mp3 players headphone to the other ear. I used to do this even when watching tv or sleeping.   

Wife: Where are you?
Husband : At home love.
Wife: Are you sure?
Husband: Yes.
Wife : Turn on the mixer.
Husband : (turns mixer on) GaRrrreeereeeereeee...
Wife: Ok my love goodbye.
Another day......
Suspicious Wife: Where are you?
Husband : At home love. Wife: Are you sure?
Husband : Yes.
Wife: Turn on the mixer.
Husband: (turns mixer on) gaRrreeereeeereeee...
Wife: Ok my love goodbye. 
The next day, the wife decides to go home without notice, and finds her son alone and she asks him, "Son, where is your father?"
Son: "I don't know, he went out with the mixer... 😑😬😳

Dass found a katha for this mahaan bani on youtube. Finally a full katha has been done on this mahaan bani here is both parts that are on youtube. I do hope that this should be a good inspiration for reading this bani and many other sri dasam granth sahib ji banis.
 

Another interview with a missionary who converted tens of thousands of people.  He is ex Christian now.
 
 

How to be successful

How to be successful.mp4

IQ, EQ, SQ, AQ
 
According to psychologists, there are four types of intelligence: 
1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional  Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your comprehension ability", solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.
2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.
3. Social Quotient (SQ): 
This is the measure of your ability  to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.
People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.
A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.
Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more especially your EQ and SQ.
EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other. 
Pls don't teach children only to have higher IQ , but also to have higher EQ and SQ.
Now there is a 4th one :
A new paradigm
4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): 
The measure of your ability to  go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind.
AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles and may abandon their families. 
In the current context of Corona, many professionally successful people are going thru bouts of Depression. Because they haven't seen and thus are unprepared for Adversity.
To parents:
Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They should adore manual work, sport and art .
 Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of the parents.
Finally, do not prepare the road for the children. Prepare the children for the road.

Why do dogs sniff your hand before becoming friendly? The practice of sniffing a human’s hand has more to do with a human gesture, rather than a dog’s protocol for their personal safety.
The idea of presenting the back of the hand for a dog to smell is a way of showing the dog that the human is friendly and is respecting the dog, think of it as a handshake; however, this act of social decorum really makes no difference to a dog because their powerful sense of smell has already detected all manner of scents and pheromones the human carries, such as adrenaline (which is exuded through the pores of the skin when a person is afraid or highly excited).
Dogs can smell these scents several feet away without even having to make any form of bodily contact, so the practice of showing the hand to a dog is simply a movement of politeness on the human’s part.
Next time you are meeting a new dog remember that before they get to your hand the dog will have already scanned your body posture, eye fixation ( do not make direct eye contact at first as this can be interpreted as a territorial challenge to the dog) and scent by the time you decide to approach or not.
Their survival depends upon this assessment so be calm and relax; know that if a dog is approaching you in a friendly manner is most likely because he has determined you are trustworthy, even before you realize it in yourself.
Hope this helps.
Be calm. Be assertive. Be balanced.

Guru Gobind Singh Ji Ne Ghor Kalyug , Dharamrai Ate Jamdoot To Bachan Da Kehra Soukha Tareeka Dasiya

THE STORY OF THE SOUL 
 
One day the Lord asked to see his favourite child. He told him that the time had come for the child to witness the world below in its fullness, and to experience the power of Supreme Grace. 
The child was curious for he had known nothing besides the light and love that filled his Father's home. 
As he imagined travelling the journey with his Father, the child became excited. 
Filled with anticipation, he asked, "When do we leave?"
The Father smiled, "My child, you will need to make this journey without me; only then you will understand the Truth. 
Everything changed that instant for the child. What if he gets lost? When will he return? Who will look after him? 
With tears, he begged the Father not to send him away for he could not imagine a world without Him. 
The Father took him in his arms and lovingly explained, "Fear not. Nothing can ever separate us. Even if you forget me, I will not forget you. This journey is for your own spiritual progress and will be filled with many valuable lessons. 
I promise that my guiding hand will always be upon you throughout the journey. 
And when the time is right, I will send you a guide who will lead you back home to me; then, your happiness will have no bounds. 
The Ultimate Gift will be awaiting you."
The obedient child looked into his Father's eyes and promised, "I will remember you with every step,"  
And with those words, the child was born into the world. 
This may be just one of many imaginary stories illustrating our descent into this creation. 
It reflects the underlying message of all the saints that we were once residents of the Eternal Home in Sat Purush, and were sent down into this creation countless lifetimes ago. 
It serves to remind us of our relationship with the Lord and our separation from Him. 
But the true story of our soul is much more complex. Being born in this creation, rather than using the mind as an instrument of cognition, we became a slave of the mind and senses. 
Instead of learning the Truth (SATNAM) - our life's purpose - we became absorbed in the world, imprisoned by our desires and attachments. 
Life after life, with every action we accumulate a heavy load of karmas that bound us to this material world. 
Without doubt, the most regrettable and tragic part of our journey in this creation was forgetting the Eternal Promise to our Father  :  That we would remember Him at every stage of our journey.
The Lord has fulfilled his promise.
It is out of the Lord's boundless love for us that He puts us in touch with  highly pure beings, like Guru Sahiban, Gurmukhs, Bhagat Jan, Mahaprukhs,  Brahmgyani,  Sant Jan, to take us back to our true home .
And so the story of our soul continues. ...... If we listen to their words with attention, and earnestly put into practice the Nam bhakti as per  the teachings troughout the Bani, not only will the journey be shorter, but we will be safe and secure in this turbulent ocean of existence.
Our duty is to go forward unwaveringly and untiringly, so that we can invoke the Gift of Grace from the One who calls us unceasingly to return home. 
With practice, perseverance, faith, and above all, with Guru Jee´s loving grace, this journey, which is a blessed opportunity, will be completed one day.
 
SSA.
 
 

Brother Sardar Jee,
prayer in essence is just enabling conversation with our heavenly beloved Father Waheguru Akal Purukh. And the real prayer accodrding to Gurmat, is His simran. 
Just as a child calls his father, then the father comes running to the child, in a similar way, with our Simran, we are expressing our love, our devotion, and our dirty mind at His Lotus feet, in essence, we become mindless, and just as  a lover forgets its identity in the presence of the beloved, so does the soul/surtee, with His simran, becomes mindless as said above, becomes pure, paviter, and ulimately merges in Him.
Now, if instead of loving Him through the prem bhakti of His simran,  we ask any other thing than Him from Him; for sure He will give it to us, but in it lies our failure, for we will endlessly keep running into the wheel of 84, in order to get our desires satisfied, this means more desires, and in consequence, strongly remain in the endless cycle of births and deaths.
So brother, it is we who need to love Him through our prayer/simran, in order to please Him, and get the blessings of His apaar kirpa, to get ferried across this horrible mahabhavsagar of pain and agyanta.
A baby without its mother even for a few seconds, starts crying because of misssing her from his/her sight.  
And so what about us?
Have we ever cried for being away from Him since so long? 
Have we ever expressed our pain and agony of being away from Him?
Most of the answers will be no for sure, because we are so much engrossed in the marketplace of maya, that we hardly have any time for Him.
Yet, He never ever loses hope for us, for He wants us to recover our sight through practice of the teachings of Gurbani, which is nothing than:  Ikoankar Satnam   Satgur parsad Jap.  Which means, there is only One creator Lord, who is found by the jap of the parsad Guru Sahiban gave us, and which is His Nao. 
So, the real prayer is the Simran of His holy Name. For in it, we call upon Him lovingly, and that is what pleases Him the most.
 
SSA.

Inspirational Sikh Talk: What Motivates You? | Khalsa Podcast #1 | New English Series
 

"I think GGS ji's 'Mitar pyaray nu' is a good example of this."

The Shabd is from Sri Dasam Granth Sahib.

i cycle to work, and i always say a prayer on the way to ask God to save me from morons.

There are different levels of spirituality.
He is the greatest giver. There is nothing wrong with asking from Lord.
It is Bhagat Dhanna asking for daily stuff.
ਦਾਲਿ ਸੀਧਾ ਮਾਗਉ ਘੀਉ ॥Lentils, flour and ghee - these things, I beg of You.
ਹਮਰਾ ਖੁਸੀ ਕਰੈ ਨਿਤ ਜੀਉ ॥My mind shall ever be pleased.
ਪਨ੍ਹ੍ਹੀਆ ਛਾਦਨੁ ਨੀਕਾ ॥Shoes, fine clothes,
ਅਨਾਜੁ ਮਗਉ ਸਤ ਸੀ ਕਾ ॥੧॥and grain of seven kinds - I beg of You. ||1||
ਗਊ ਭੈਸ ਮਗਉ ਲਾਵੇਰੀ ॥A milk cow, and a water buffalo, I beg of You,
ਇਕ ਤਾਜਨਿ ਤੁਰੀ ਚੰਗੇਰੀ ॥and a fine Turkestani horse.
ਘਰ ਕੀ ਗੀਹਨਿ ਚੰਗੀ ॥A good wife to care for my home -
ਜਨੁ ਧੰਨਾ ਲੇਵੈ ਮੰਗੀ ॥੨॥੪॥Your humble servant Dhanna begs for these things, Lord. ||2||4||

Personally I think asking for maya sort of defeats the purpose of bhagti.

What one should ask for instead is the strength to persevere in the face of challenges - and that means when you have to go without luxuries.

I think GGS ji's 'Mitar pyaray nu' is a good example of this.

almost any motivation is ok, as per Gurmat. I believe it was Bhagat Kabir ji who prays for food etc. signifying asking for our needs is ok. I think it's even ok to ask for things we want but don't need.
But the highest thing in Gurmat is asking for God.
There's a shabad, Gauri M. 5, Thir Ghar Baisho Har Jun Pyare, Satgur Tumare Kaaj Savare - I have heard abhyaas of this shabad helps makes a person's works complete.

Whaeguru Ji Ka Khalsa Whaeguru Ji Ke Fateh Ji

Dear all, I would like to ask what motivates you to pray (whence what should one use to motivate self), perhaps from gurmat someone could answer this and elborate on such a thing, do we pray because we suffer and desire happiness- but does this not conflict itself because a GurSikh should accept dukh and sukh as the same, and sukh is a rog it will make us forget God. Do we pray because we desire to go to heaven, is that not greed in itself? Or do we pray for wordly things, xbox360, girls, good grades, money, cars, offspring, houses, prosperity (maya) which in effect will break us away from God? Do we pray because someone has forced us to, if such a thing happens is it really prayer if its not from the heart? I was once quote a line from either Baba Farid ji or Baba Kabir ji on how desire brings us close, so by offering food in langar it brings people closer to come for God, so by giving food in Gurdwara its not a bad thing (bribery), please could someone give that line of gurbani or similar. Please give personal and impersonal answers. Is the idea of gain the opposite of what Sikhs should be doing should we not be perusing sacrifice instead, if such a case what brings one to do such. How does one accept the true will of God (satgur da panne)?

Thanks

Bhul Chuk maaf Karna


Whaeguru Ji Ka Khalsa Whaeguru Ji Ke Fateh Ji

Remember Waheguru so much that you forget yourself.

Dass found this katha track about ghosts where Sant Waryam Singh Ji mentions their dreams and a saakhi of Sri Maan Sant Baba Jawala Singh Ji Maharaj Harkowale
 

Very true brother. Thank you 

In search of God


In a mother’s womb were two babies.
One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”
The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”

“Nonsense,” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”

The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”

The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”

The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”

The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover, if there is life, then why has no one ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery, there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”

“Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”

The first replied “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is She now?”

The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of Her. It is in Her that we live. Without Her, this world would not and could not exist.”

Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.”

To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and listen, you can perceive Her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.”

Maybe this was one of the best explanations of the concept of GOD.

So true brother.
Many a times we are all conditioned by what we see others do, but the fact is, each one has to find his/her own comfort level, and this is where one should listen and follow to what our heart is whispering us; because in the end what matters is, not what people say or think, but that what the Gurbani says, which is the ultimate valid truth.
SSA.

So true brother.
Many a times we are all conditioned by what we see others do, but the fact is, each one has to find his/her own comfort level, and this is where one should listen and follow to what our heart is whispering us; because in the end what matters is, not what people say or think, but that what the Gurbani says, which is the ultimate valid truth.
SSA.