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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from BhagatSingh in Inner world, outer world. As above, so below.   
    If never watched them before , it will be 2 hours well spent. If watched them before, watch it again I always learn new things after re watching it. Will appreciate thoughts and discussion on these videos. And if anything resembles with Sikhi. I will post tomorrow my thoughts since too lazy and almost time to sleep lol
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in What Is Bhagauti?   
    Well then you remember the discussions where I explained that these things were happening before, and in other parts of India. Alwars, Maratha, etc in south India - I hope they ring a bell.
    Known as Guru, Acharya, Sant, Bhagat, etc during medieval times.
    E.g. Ramanuj Acharya (Guru Ramanuj) from 1000 ad.
     
    This is not the case.

    The bhagats ideas were all coherent, they all believed the same thing along with the Gurus, that's why they were all added to Guru Granth Sahib. They had the same concept of Dharma, whether you read Sant Nam Dev ji's bani from 1200s, Ramanand ji from 1300s or Kabir ji from 1400s or Guru Sahibs from 1400s to 1600s.
    We have to abandon this notion that Guru Granth Sahib is a book where people who held different beliefs, and different religions were added.
    This is true to some degree - Sheikh Farid.
    The reason why Sheikh Faird's bani is there in Guru Granth Sahib is because of the lengthy commentaries that Guru Amar Das ji did on Farid ji's bani.
    But everyone else in Guru Granth Sahib pretty much holds the same world view, same beliefs, same theological structure, "one spiritual message for all castes", same openness to Muslims and use of Muslim language, etc. everything.
     
    Bhagat Nam Dev ji is actually Guru Nam Dev ji.
    Bhagat Ramanand ji is actually Guru Ramanand ji.
    Bhagat Kabir ji is actually Guru Kabir ji.
    Bhagat Ravi Das ji is actually Guru Ravi Das ji (we were strongly reminded of this very recently).
    Then we have our Gurus.
    I say this to explain that those guys were doing things just like our Gurus. The everyday sikh just doesn't know everything they did because they haven't taken the time to study their lives.
    They were all Gurus of a common panth, common scriptures and organization.
    And like our Gurus they also had their own poems and writings, and their individual gatherings, panth and practices.

    Guru Arjun Dev ji saw this commonality and went a step forward, and added their bani into one place to unite different Gurus from different parts of India, who all had the same ideas and religion. However the word Guru is added to the only to the names of your personal, living guru and his master. So they were called Bhagats in Guru Granth Sahib, whereas the ten Gurus were called Gurus. In reality the other Bhagats were all Gurus.
     
    Bhagat Nam Dev ji was a huge figure from 1200s. He was a big Guru of his time. A Jesus Christ level of man (for those who know Jesus). He had that level of spiritual attainment that miracles and extraordinary stuff would happen to him. The dehora turned towards him, he got saved from an attacking elephant, he revived a slaughtered cow. That's the type of power he had. He not only had mastered bhagti but also mastered shakti. He was a superior man.
    No ahankar. no ego, just pure God.
    I mean here we have Guru Ram Das ji venerating Bhagat Nam Dev ji to the same degree as Bhagat Prahlaad ji, who is another big figure from their shared religion.

    ਹਰਿ ਜੁਗੁ ਜੁਗੁ ਭਗਤ ਉਪਾਇਆ ਪੈਜ ਰਖਦਾ ਆਇਆ ਰਾਮ ਰਾਜੇ ॥
    In all ages, Hari creates his Bhakts, saints. King Ram protects their honour.
    ਹਰਣਾਖਸੁ ਦੁਸਟੁ ਹਰਿ ਮਾਰਿਆ ਪ੍ਰਹਲਾਦੁ ਤਰਾਇਆ ॥
    Hari killed Harnakash, as Narsingh, and protected Prahlaad, gave him an exalted position.
    ਅਹੰਕਾਰੀਆ ਨਿੰਦਕਾ ਪਿਠਿ ਦੇਇ ਨਾਮਦੇਉ ਮੁਖਿ ਲਾਇਆ ॥
    He turned away from the deluded slanderers and embraced Nam Dev.
    ਜਨ ਨਾਨਕ ਐਸਾ ਹਰਿ ਸੇਵਿਆ ਅੰਤਿ ਲਏ ਛਡਾਇਆ ॥੪॥੧੩॥੨੦॥
    The followers of Nanak, serve this Hari in this manner, that Hari will liberate them in the end (as he did Prahlaad and Nam Dev).
    This one shabad, encapsulates the theological structure, religion, practices, famous personalities/icons, etc of our Gurus and their followers.
    Bam!
     
    This will become crystal clear, if one were to take their time and understand this and get the big picture.
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in What Is Bhagauti?   
    Story time with bapu Bhagt Siya
    (read in old man voice)

    Many years ago when I was your age (lol), I started off my reading of Dasam Granth at Chandi Di Vaar because I had heard Bhai Balbir Singh ji's beautiful rendition of it. *cough cough cough*
    When I read it, I did so all in context of Guru Granth Sahib. I thought Hari is supreme and he creates Maya (as it says in Guru Granth Sahib - bishan ki maya te hoye bhin). So I too mistakenly read Khanda as Maya, and read "Khanda prithmai saaj kai..." as Hari created Maya.

    *clears throat*
    It wasn't till much later after I had started reading Bachittar Natak Granth Sahib that I found out that Khanda (being a powerful and phallic symbol) has had an association with Mahakal and similar deities for thousands of years. This was written in the very beginning of Bachittar Natak as well, in overt terms. This piece of evidence struck me and totally contradicted my previous knowledge about Chandi di Vaar, including the bit where I thought Khanda is Maya.
    So after discovering this gem of knowledge, I corrected myself. I then raised the sails and took to the oceans. Once more I began to sail the ocean that is Chandi Di Vaar, but this time, I sailed it in it's own light as it's own separate ocean.
    *cough cough cough*
    So mere jwan bacheo, this is how your bapu sailed the oceans and lived happily ever after.
    The End
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to dalsingh101 in A simple way to cook rice that dramatically cuts the calories   
    Scientists have discovered a simple way to cook rice that dramatically cuts the calories
    http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/scientists-have-discovered-a-simple-way-to-cook-rice-that-dramatically-cuts-the-calories-10137508.html
    Going to try this. 
     
    "What we did is cook the rice as you normally do, but when the water is boiling, before adding the raw rice, we added coconut oil—about 3 percent of the weight of the rice you're going to cook," said Sudhair James, who presented his preliminary research at National Meeting & Exposition of the American Chemical Society (ACS) on Monday. "After it was ready, we let it cool in the refrigerator for about 12 hours. That's it."
     
    How does it work?
    To understand what's going on, you need to understand a bit of food chemistry.
    Not all starches, as it happens, are created equal. Some, known as digestible starches, take only a little time to digest, are quickly turned into glucose, and then later glycogen. Excess glycogen ends up adding to the size of our guts if we don't expend enough energy to burn it off. Other starches, meanwhile, called resistant starches, take a long time for the body to process, aren't converted into glucose or glycogen because we lack the ability to digest them, and add up to fewer calories.
    A growing body of research, however, has shown that it might be possible to change the types of starches found in foods by modifying how they are prepared. At the very least, we know that there are observable changes when certain foods are cooked different ways.
    Potatoes, for instance, go from having the right kind of starch to the less healthful kind when they are cooked or mashed (sigh, I know). The process of heating and cooling certain vegetables, like peas and sweet potatoes, can also alter the amount of resistant (see: good) starches, according to a 2009 study. And rice, depending on the method of preparation, undergoes observable chemical changes. Most notably, fried rice and pilaf style rice have a greater proportion of resistant starch than the most commonly eaten type, steamed rice, as strange as that might seem.
    "If you can reduce the digestible starch in something like steamed rice, you can reduce the calories," said Dr. Pushparajah Thavarajah, a professor who is supervising the research. "The impact could be huge."
    Understanding this, James and Thavarajva tested eight different recipes on 38 different kinds of rice found in Sri Lanka. What they found is that by adding a lipid (coconut oil in this case, because it's widely used in Sri Lanka) ahead of cooking the rice, and then cooling the rice immediately after it was done, they were able to drastically change its composition—and for the better.
    "The oil interacts with the starch in rice and changes its architecture," said James. "Chilling the rice then helps foster the conversion of starches. The result is a healthier serving, even when you heat it back up."
    So far they have only measured the chemical outcome of the most effective cooking method for the least healthful of the 38 varieties. But that variety still produced a 10 to 12 percent reduction in calories. "With the better kind, we expect to reduce the calories by as much as 50 to 60 percent," said James.
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    GurpreetKaur reacted in Sharing view   
    i think that the idea of considering women as sister (or guys as brother) is that you would show them the same respect and consideration as you would want someone to show your sister (or brother).  its not meant to be literal adoption of them as your sister, unless of course you are married, or unless you are very sweet and innocent person.
    just like you might call other people 'mata ji', 'pita ji', 'dadi/dad ji' etc it doesnt mean you have actually adopted them as your parents/grandparents.  am i wrong here?
    i agree you will be confusing someone if you address them as 'bhenji' then say that you like them in a 'different' way.  if she liked you, she may have thought 'oh well he doesnt see me like that, might aswell accept him as my brother instead', then after that happened you turn around one day and explain it is not like that. 
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to dalsingh101 in Sharing view   
    Nah, my family told me that same village marriages were a big no-no. 
    I don't know about now, but this was not acceptable in my parents generation's time. 
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from dalsingh101 in Sharing view   
    Never liked jusreign but this video is hilarious lol 
    If someone call me phenji or sister, I start thinking of that guy as a brother. Even if I like someone and that person says sister, that's it he's my brother now lol and my feelings are gone ( never happened but I Know it will work that way). I don't know about other women but me being not married I know there is one out there and for that reason I never call any guy brother unless that dude is married and is too old or young for me. We should not look with dirty eyes at opposite gender but at the same time we should not be calling them sister and brother when we don't know who is the one for us lol.
    Once I am married, I will start calling everyone veerji since I won't have to be careful but until then I only call someone veerji unless they call me sister or married and are too old and young for me lol
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    GurpreetKaur reacted in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    Actually if you are truly vegan it IS possible but takes a lot of work. You have to read every label because things are hidden as chemical names and somethings you would never know. Like gelatin in gummy bears. gelatin is made by boiling animal carcasses. 
    There are some things you can do:
    Choose synthetic clothing or natural fibres like cotton instead of leather, down, etc.  (Wool / cashmere etc are debatable as the hair CAN grow back. It's a grey point)
    Read EVERY LABEL. 
    Choose nutmilks like almond milk instead of dairy. There are also soy based, and rice milk too. Most of these can be substituted in any way milk can be used.
    Use butter alternatives instead. Margarine, vegan butters, vegan cheeses
    It's not impossible and the only reason its even difficult is because our society has become so dependent on animal products. 
    The amount of resources it takes to raise one animal to slaughter can be used to feed hundreds!
     
    ISIS = Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (also known as ISIL Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant)
     
     
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to paapiman in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    That is right sister.
    Meat - There is Animal cruelty associated with it.
    Eggs - There is Animal cruelty associated with it.
    Dairy - There is Animal cruelty associated with it.
    Vegan Diet - There is Animal cruelty associated with it.
    What should we eat?
    Keep it simple - Follow Lacto-vegetarian diet, which is clearly permitted in Gurmat.
     
    Bhul chuk maaf
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to Ragmaala in Sharing view   
    No its only been a short while,  < 1 month.
     
    True that.  You really can't negotiate attraction. Its either there or not. lol
     
    Whats lakhari zone ?   Writers zone ?
     
     
     
    Jus kidin.
    Some appropriate humor for the situation.
     
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from Jatro in Waheguru   
    I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
    When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
    Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
    Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
    These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
    I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
    I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
    The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
     
    Interesting stuff 
     
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from Koi in Waheguru   
    I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
    When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
    Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
    Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
    These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
    I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
    I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
    The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
     
    Interesting stuff 
     
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from dalsingh101 in Waheguru   
    I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
    When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
    Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
    Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
    These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
    I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
    I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
    The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
     
    Interesting stuff 
     
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    I just imagined a Tv show like Friends or how I met your mother. They are sitting in a restaurant, everyone is surrounding a laptop, watching some horrendous thing. Then one of the characters comes in...
    (Read in a whiny valley girl accent)
    What're y'all up to?
    .... looks at the screen where everyone else is looking at
    ...gets traumatized for life
    O my gawd you guys!... How could y'all watch these things, like... it's sooo disgusting, like... it's sooo wrong on sooo many levels like... Please can we like do something else?
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    Lol at Satkirn feaking out like a little girl.
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    Plot twist.... It's about a horse killing a guy.
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to Ragmaala in What and why??was that mentioned in Charitars?   
    I think this thread has become a free for all , for posting taboo stuff lol.
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from samurai in Waheguru   
    I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
    When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
    Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
    Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
    These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
    I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
    I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
    The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
     
    Interesting stuff 
     
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from Ragmaala in Waheguru   
    I will share this, maybe you will realize most of us are not that perfect and how some things do shape us up. Plus I wanna rant too lol
    When we came here, I was in high school and summer breaks came which were freaking three months long. We had no Tv, no computer, nothing. I was home alone since mom dad bro would go to work and out of my loneliness and boredness I used to cry whole day long. Was I pretty much close to being Insane, yes I was. And no I had no friends either and had severe social anxiety to even go near people. Loneliness was never a problem but those three months drove me insane. I can still see myself, it was like someone being in mental asylum lol I seriously did not know what to do with my time and my mind. Plus we were in apartment and it seemed like a jail to me lol
    Second summer break came and we had tv and computer by now but I still had three months and I started to work out like crazy. Whole day I used to do aerobic exercise by playing Music and my emotional pain never bothered me. I kinda built a foundation for good health here so not complaining about exercising to a level where I was exhausted by the night, I was training back then for an inner yudh. Lol Exercise was my way to avoid my mind and thoughts.
    Third summer break came and in those breaks I started reading self help books, I was reading soo many books from self help to spirituality to brain to occult/ esoteric knowledge anything which can help me with my social anxiety. It helped, after almost 2 years, my social anxiety went away. It was not jus shyness, it was the worst one where I just could not talk front of people and would cry. I don't know how many times I cried front of kids and profs in high school lol.
    These three summer breaks did me a huge favor. First one was spent by crying to avoid my mind( hardest one) , second one was spent by doing physical exercise to avoid my mind, third one was spent by reading to keep my mind busy. What I know today, if I knew back then I would have done so much mediation to conquer my mind lol but what I know today I would have never known if I never went through those phases. 
    I never ever thought that I will ever get rid of my social anxiety but I did. Now I have no problem talking to people, giving speeches unless it's a huge crowd lol. It took me almost 20 years of numerous taunts where I was constantly told Oh you are not dumb you should speak and that used to hurt like hell. Since I would not just act dumb out of my luxury lol. This was the biggest reason which created a hindrance in so many other things in life. 
    I still have plenty of fears and problems to deal with, but this was one of the biggest one and I got out of it and so I know other problems will be over too. I know how you are feelings right now, I have spent couple last few months in a deep deep depression and only path got me out of it. If I get sad or low, I do stuff to balance myself out which can be doing a gratitude journal, meditation, listening to uplifting lecture or looking at people who are less fortunate than me ( as dalsingh ji said, it some time helps).
    The point is we all are in a same boat, my life might seem better to you and your life might seems better to me but in the end we all are dealing with our crappy emotions and with time we Learn to suck it up lol. Good days and bad will keep coming. I am not that down these days but I know one day a low phase will come too but now I kinda know how to Handle it I think. 
     
    Interesting stuff 
     
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to dalsingh101 in Waheguru   
    Dude, if you're going to have to hit a bottom to realise what is important and what isn't, then so be it. 
    These are times when lots of people are having a lot of career difficulties. I know loads of professionals in that boat right now. 
    I suggest focusing your dhian on people even less fortunate than you, like refugees stuck in camps; people who are going hungry through poverty; people living on the streets; people who've been sexually abused by family members they were supposed to be able to trust; people with terminal illnesses; people born with severe disabilities; orphans of war. 
    When I feel down, I think about people less fortunate than me - not to gloat, but to put things in perspective. Then I realise that despite whatever I feel low about - in a fair few ways, I'm lucky.  
    More than that, I tell myself I'm a man, I can't wallow in self-pity. I have to endure. Be stoic. Persevere. Thinking about our ancestors helps me in this big time. 
    Despite everything you are feeling right now: list 3 things that you are grateful for right now.
    Use the training that you've had with doing simran, where we ignore thoughts, to do the same with the negative thoughts you are having right now.  Let them waft away..... then....focus on those 3 things you noted previously.
     
     
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to samurai in Waheguru   
    I feel for you bro... 
    Don't assume people will not understand as if you open up people may share a little bit about them-self which will make you realise thats things could be a lot worse. 
    I've also been in a position where i couldn't get a job and sitting at home with law degree. It got to a point where i started working on construction sites and doing driving jobs (needed the money) i lost all hope in terms of career, but i've never been a career minded person..Its only recently that i got an 'office' job and this was simply because i looked at another direction in terms of career. You may want to consider other options interms of your career. (i know this will be very hard)
    Being in a dark times can be a blessing in disguise (people used to piss me off when they would say that to me, but its true), you will find out who is really there for you. My nani would always say to me 'it's not important for you to be around people in their happy times but make sure you are there for them in their sad times.'  
    On more practical level, stick to your bani and consider doing some jaap's of manters you are familiar with. (get digital counter) Most will say do sukhmani sahib paath, which is very good but i felt personally dasam bani manters helped me big time(this worked for me, it may not work for you). 
    Try not staying home all day, this is mentally draining, even if you go for hour walk in morning and hour at night. carry on training...don't stop this!!
    If you can do some voluntary work, (or any work), its good just to be out and interacting with other people.
    If you don't mind me asking, are your parents supportive of your situation...when i started working on sites my dad couldn't accept the fact that i was doing a laborers job with a degree..lol. we clashed a lot. But a job is a job.
    You will get through this like a' babbar sher'..lol..........Keep your head up bro..
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to Lucky in Is Mukti possible in this lifetime ?   
    nice one!  
    Attachments-moh, is a major one that starts cracking the  ''code'' to lakh chaurasi mukhti.  This is major step to get "naam",.. gurbani says "bin namai mukht kinai na payee" (without naam, no one has, or will obtain mukhti).
    I reckon that everyone would get there own nishanees of some sorts that confirms the "after-life" . This in itself; would be a good idea of what's in reach.
     
    Problem that many people have with trying to stop or reduce their moh, attachments and desires is that they feel they have to try so hard to remove these bondage chains!.. they try, try and try and even try to convince themselves that they've done it! ..........It never actually happens like that because the secret is to stop trying and to just "LET GO" of all the associations and mind feelings that are actually taking you towards those attachments.  It's as if you "just stop trying".   Having moh and desires actually takes personal energy and we don't realise that we use and expend it towards these directions. Secret of simran and yoga is that you divert all these energies towards Prabh ka simran..and to yog your jivatma with paramatma....and that's it!!!
     
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to Ragmaala in ੴ Onkar ਓਅੰਕਾਰ - In Speaking, In Listening, In Meditating   
    Had the same problem, but went away when I grew up. As kids we have so many unnecessary fears.
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    GurpreetKaur got a reaction from jaikaara in Sikhs Jailed After Leicester Muslim Grooming   
    Laughing. 
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    GurpreetKaur reacted to BhagatSingh in ੴ Onkar ਓਅੰਕਾਰ - In Speaking, In Listening, In Meditating   
    Lol, I hated Sunday morning hair washing as well. Not because of the water but rather the soap which went into my eyes.
    It burns!
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