Mr Sardar Posted July 19, 2010 Report Share Posted July 19, 2010 Fateh Ji, Its really normal for people to have crushes would like to ask how you got over your own crushes and what you suggest to others on how they can? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laalsingh Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 Remember your previous 'crushes'. When those could not resist time, this will fade away too. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalsingh101 Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 These things wear off after time. Just avoid the person and keep your mind busy as much as you can to help speed the process. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chatanga1 Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 yeh, its best not to follow them them around shopping malls, or to hide in bushes outside their house as well. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silence Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 washing pande at Gurdwara Sahib may help to keep your mind off them, but do ardaas too. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PAL 07 Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 depends who u have a crush on if its someone similar to your character why not get a friend or a vichola involved and take it from there since the other person may have a crush on you aswell...if you think this is unlikely then accept the truth and move on 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SURYADEV Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 Following on from PAL07: just talk to the girl - or guy. Grab the bull by the horns, don't just dwell on it in your mind. it will eat you up. Either get all feelings of attraction out of your mind or take action. When you take action two things can happen. Either the other person will say "thanks, very kind of you; but no thanks". or they'll be open to getting to know you as well! This is all assuming the other is an appropriate person ie not some close ristadaar or some friends mother etc etc. What have you got to loose?? Could be beginning of something beautiful!!!!! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xylitol Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 keep japping naam. any feelings that come up, any thoughts, just ignore them. keep focusing on naam. keep the mind busy. those feelings will evnetually work themselves out. dont' resist them, don't push them, just ignore them. 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
W.. Posted July 20, 2010 Report Share Posted July 20, 2010 I took this same thing to my priest one time after a GF had dumped me. What he made me realize was that I didn't want this girl, I wanted God. Sometimes we want God but we don't realize that is what we want. Thats what I think these crushes are... if you really really sit down and think about it I can promise you that you will find you don't want the girl you want something much bigger. Sometimes when I think like that I just imagine if I got what I wanted.... would I really be happy? Crushes etc. are a result of trying to fill a void with "stuff". No matter how much stuff you throw into it it will still be there. My life / relationships with women got much better after I realized this because I can see these desires for what they are and not expect having "the girl of my dreams" to make me happy 24/7. Hope you made sense of some of that... -W 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Sardar Posted July 21, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2010 (edited) To the last post it seems very intresting how Nirankar in sargun saroop can have characteristics such as red lips, masaccared eyes, glowing cat eyes, glowing fair skin (badami) and how the sufi and hindu saints used to sing about this and it turned into other types of songs now from kalaam and kirtan to kawali and bhangra now. As for taking the bull by the horns it can be painful, lets say the bull can put it's horns into your heart - i.e. The standard rejection line- "I barely Know you", "Your like a brother/sister to me", "it is not you it is me" But I get how little we can think in terms of how great God may want for us. Edited July 21, 2010 by sarbatdapala 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Sardar Posted July 21, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 21, 2010 Beauty The world is the dowry given to man by the Universal Soul. Of this marriage the issue is eloquence, Knowledge, language, virtue, earthly beauty. Heaven beauty descends from the unseen world, Descends like some licentious reveller, Sets up its flag in the strong city of earthly beauty, Throws into confusion all the world's array. Now riding royally on the steed of comeliness, Now brandishing the keen sword-blade of language. When beheld in a person it is called beauty, And when heard in speech eloquence. Saints, Kings, dervishes, apostles, All alike bow down and own its sway. What is this charm in the beauty of a fair face? It is not merely earthly beauty, say what is it? The heart ravishment can come only from "The Truth", For there is no partner in Divine agency. How can it be lust which ravishes men's hearts? For "The Truth" now and again appears as evl. Confess the "working" of "The truth" in every place, set not foot beyond your own limits. Know "The truth" in the garb of good is the true faith, "The Truth" in the garb of evil is the work of Satan. Translated by E.H. Whinfield by Mahmud Shabistari Sufi Poem 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
///M Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) When you have a crush its suppose to go away when you find faults in your object of desire. However if it is true love then you are in great trouble my friend. Edited July 23, 2010 by ///M 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laalsingh Posted July 23, 2010 Report Share Posted July 23, 2010 When you have a crush its suppose to go away when you find faults in your object of desire. However if it is true love then you are in great trouble my friend. What is true love? Is there any mortal worth 'true love'? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Sardar Posted July 28, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 28, 2010 How about love from a past life? 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustME Posted July 28, 2010 Report Share Posted July 28, 2010 How about love from a past life? hmmm i dont realy think that quantifies as "love" you can have a desire (icchha) for someone that you bring forth into this life.......love is God, god is beyond anything you could possibly comprehend. its best not to mix the two ideologies....True Love is True Bhagti....True Love will take you back to the Source....it will not send you back to the hell you are trying to escape from.... 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalsingh101 Posted July 28, 2010 Report Share Posted July 28, 2010 Lagda mundey nu ishaq nagni chungee taraan largaye! 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SURYADEV Posted July 29, 2010 Report Share Posted July 29, 2010 Lagda mundey nu ishaq nagni chungee taraan largaye! Aaj kal da samma! en bacheaa da paraiee val dyann nee he. bahar jaa ke tupussia maran joge he. LOL 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Sardar Posted July 31, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2010 hai mai gaur kah ke mar jou 0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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